My fiance isn't working at the moment so our little girl is staying home with him, but she used to be all about mommy but all she wants is her daddy now and I don't know how to handle it. I go nuts If i'm not in control and doing things my way. What do I do?
2006-07-07 09:49:40 · 15 answers · asked by tkay 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Growing up yourself would be good. A marriage is going to be about compromise - if you insist on being the only one in control, you will ruin your marriage even before it begins.
2006-07-07 09:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by littleturtleboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emma is ten months old and she or he's in a habitual (which she has made herself) 7:30 - Up/replaced/cuddled/play 8:00 - Breakfast 8:30 - 9:30 She performs and that i might desire to freshen up slightly 9:30 - 11:00 She naps and that i clean or do laundry, get on the information superhighway, often times watch television. 11:00 - 12:00 She performs. We might circulate outdoors. We might circulate someplace?? 12:00 - lunch 12:30 - a million:30 - Play and etc. i might do some thing and she or he will probable help (ie placed laundry in) b/c she likes to do what I do. a million:30 - 3:00 - Nap and that i might prep supper, loosen up, etc. 3:00 - Up and we frequently circulate outdoors today and play then she has a snack. 4:00 - She performs with dad and that i relax 5:00 - Supper possibly a shower? possibly circulate someplace? 7:00 mattress and that's often while i individually commence doing issues like at present canning vegetables or in spite of i choose/opt to do.
2016-12-08 16:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by defour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your lucky that your child's father, not a stranger, is taking care of him while you are working. Remember that you both are making a valuable contribution to the wellness and happiness of your family. Make sure the make the time you all are together really special. Try a routine with the two of you, maybe a walk together when you get off work, this will also give dad a break. And make regular family time (not in front of the tv) that's fun and special. Two's are tough any way around. It will get better. I love it when they are 3-4.
2006-07-07 11:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jami J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been a stay at home dad since my five year old was four months old.
We have had another child since. I went back to work at 12 weeks with him.
One child is mommy's little guy and the other is a daddy's little guy.
They are what they are.
2006-07-07 17:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by beenthere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for your daughter to bond with her father since he is her full-time caregiver. You going nuts is only going to show her that adults throw tantrums when they don't get their way. Is this the example you want her to see? Your way is not the only way or necessarily the right way to do things. Stop being a control freak and allow your daughter and her father to develop their relationship and their daily routine their way. If it bothers you so much, then switch places with your partner.
You have an amazing opportunity here to demonstrate true domestic equality to your daughter. She is seeing a man in a caregiving role, which can only make her more egalitarian about gender roles in her future.
2006-07-07 16:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem that your fiance is involved with your child and that she loves him?
Not to be critical, but isn't that a good problem to have?
Children that age go back and forth. My 2 year old son always goes to mommy. Yeah, it sucks sometimes, but they are just little. Get over your ego and smile about the nature of your 'problem'.
2006-07-07 11:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by justwebbrowsing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm I put my work on hold for our first child, my wife put her work on hold for our second. My wife did feel much guilt about not 'being there' as much as she felt she should/wanted to for our first child, and I felt some pangs about this myself during our second, though not as much.
One thing both of us noticed is the 'all she wants is her daddy' effect, but my wife and I saw this more as a different issue then who was the primary care giver, since we saw it in both girls. I am not into child psychology but we both began to think that our girls were going through some form of early pre-sexual bonding with the opposite sex. We have some friends with a young boy who, at the same age, behaved as if it was always 'all about mommy', and could be seen to be in competition for his mothers attention when his father was around.
2006-07-07 12:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a control freak is never healthy. It will damage all of your relationships not just the one with your child.
Generally, insecurity is the root of this problem. Therapy helps a lot. "Doing it all" is exhausting. Try to relax and enjoy your life.
Be thankful that you have a caring, responsible partner. Don't drive him away with your insecurities. And let your child enjoy her relationships with others. Many people will play increasingly important roles for her as she grows up. Get used to it.
2006-07-07 09:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate the fact that he is willing to stay home with her and that she loves him so much. It doesn't mean that she loves you less. A child will always turn to the caregiver that they spend the most time with when they want or need something. Don't let it get to you, she still loves you and you are still mommy.
I am raising two grandchildren under the age of 3 and their father doesn't even acknowledge them.
2006-07-07 09:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son used to be a mommies boy. but a few months ago he started being a daddies boy. he'll want me iif heis tired or gets hurt though. My mom says its just a faze
2006-07-07 10:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋