We were together in high school for six months, and naturally broke up after graduation. But we've still been caught up in an on-and-off semi friends-with-benefits situation for about four years. He's moved on, dated other girls. I on the other hand, have chosen to narrow my focus on my career. Despite the many conversations we've had concerning our 'relationship,' he has admitted to me that he just can't let me go. And I can't deny the fact that the feelings I've had for him have never left. Is sex with the ex a good idea?
2006-07-07 09:38:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have gone all the way before, and it was good. But now that we're back in the same area, both unattached, he's sniffing 'round my heels again. I've never felt that I was his sidepiece, but still, I can't help being still attracted to him. And DAMN, he was good in bed! :-)
2006-07-07 10:16:46 · update #1
No, its not a good idea. Why do you have to do that? If he really says that he loves you and he can't let you go away then I have to say that why isn't he get committed to you again? If you two love each other the way you wrote there then go up to him and ask for marrige, and live happily. If he can't marry you and keep you with him then he doesn't really love you, and that says that you shouldn't have sex with him.
2006-07-07 09:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 2 still have feelings for each other and are having sex, you might as well get back together dont you think.
I have the same situation with my ex, but he is focus on career and i am with bf's and career and we have known each other for 5 years. We had sex and we told each other that we still have feelings for each other. But we are just waiting to see what is all out there for us. And trust me if you continue to have sex with him, your feelings will grow greatly.
2006-07-07 09:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can b a bad thing,,i mean if u broke up--it was for a reason,,and u gotta think about that--when ur dressed and not in the middle of it,..,we have all been there and done that,,i have made a lot of bad decisions but i have learned a lot from them as well..i would stay friends if u want, but even that can b difficult considering what was happening..sexually..between u guys...good luck!
2006-07-07 10:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant let you go he should be able to commit. If he doesnt, you can try to keep your feelings out of it and enjoy the friendship and benefits while it suits you. However, it sounds like you have feelings and therefore you might not want to sleep with him. You deserve love! Best of luck!
2006-07-07 09:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by horsecrazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you that much you should go for it, but on the other hand while he's not with you you should spy on him, watch his every move make sure he's not pulling a prank and end up having you heart torn to shreds. (like what happened to me!).If he tells you that he wants to be with you for the rest of his life, he's a keeper, but if he tells you that he loves you to death, its very if-fy. Like they say, boxes can be deceiving!
2006-07-07 09:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by toribkeith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be a good or bad thing. for me though it hasn't been a bad thing yet. i've slept with my ex 3 times after we broke up...it didn't mess anything up. besides i'd rather sleep with someone i know and that i'm comfortable with than go out and have multiple partners.
2006-07-07 09:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by smilingchild.heartscoconuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never a good idea especially if you still have feelings for them. You're just making things harder on yourself.
2006-07-07 09:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good if you are only in it for the sex. Don't expect a relationship, just a F buddy
2006-07-07 09:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its probably not a good idea to be your ex boyfriend's booty call. If you do get a boyfriend in the future, it will be hard for him to understand your relationship with your ex.
2006-07-07 09:42:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's unhealthy for both of you guys to play this game..either you're going to be together or not...cuz it will mentally fuc you up!
2006-07-07 09:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Fabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋