im so alone?

Question

ever since i was young all the girls i liked treated me bad ..hurt my fealings.. you get the point and its all because i was the smart one in the class. i even changed the way i acted during my school days just to show them i was just like everyone else..i even started a few of the fights and still won..im 19.. 6'4 220lb and because of everything im afraid to talk to girls but i dont want to be alone..what should i do?

Answer 1

That's horrible, and I'm really sorry that that happened to you.
Trust me, you are probably better off than any one of the girls you liked is. You'll go to the reunion filthy rich to see all of the once popular people be poor saps working for Mc. Donalds and cleaning toilets.
As far as being alone goes- you have to talk to a girl if you like her. The past was horrible, but think of this as a new beginning, and a new chance at finding a special girl in your life.
If you get nervous, its okay. She'll probably be just as nervous as you are on a first date. Just keep trying and think of your motivation being that your not going to be alone, and that by your being brave by building your hope for a future.

Answer 2

You need to get your self confidence back. Be positive about yourself, you must have things about yourself that you like. Play to your strengths and tell yourself that you are as worthy and as cool as everyone else.

Try to be yourself now, you're not at school any more right? It is a different world outside of school and I am sure that you get the opportunity to meet different people too.

Just a bit of advice on how to act around girls - don't be too nice. Girls find a bit of mystery about a guy very intriguing and desperate to find out more about him. Don't be a 'yes' man - you know, someone that will always do things for others. Be a little aloof, make the girls wonder about you. They'll be falling at your feet in no time!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Take comfort in the fact that for the most part, kids are stupid, whether male or female. Things get better as you get older as people mature. Stay away from the skanks and the bitches and you'll find someone who will appreciate you without you having to change the way you are. That's something else you appreciate as you get older - that the world is much bigger than high school and that there are more people like you than you thought.

Answer 4

You have to more assertive. I don't know where 19 year olds hang out, but where ever it is GO. Don't "wear your heart on your shoulder". You were the smart one, and that's what they will be looking for when they get older.Their loss.
Don't be so afraid to talk to girls. Most of them are just as scared.
Keep that in mind when you see someone you really want to talk to. Good luck!

Answer 5

This is so sad. First, you should not change to get women, that is a big no no. Intelligence is a plus, very sexy. Who wants a dumb @$$ man. You have obviously met the wrong women. Confidence and respect in ones self are also sexy traits. Never let anyone, especially a potential girlfriend disrespect you or treat you badly. If a woman does this, she is not worthy of you. You are not destined to be alone. Be yourself and I promise you, you will meet someone who will see all of your qualities.

Answer 6

I have had some similiar circumstances in my life. What you need to do is step back and do some soul searching. Ask yourself some hard questions like why am i always in this situation? that's what i did and I found out that I wasn't loving and taking care of myself the way I ought to and then was expecting someone to do that for me. Love yourself and then that person will come. Hope I was of some help.

Answer 7

You're only 19 hon,don't sweat it,it will come. There are worse things than being alone,like being with someone who pretends to be something they're not. Or being with someone who is using you,or someone who doesn't love you like you love them. Work on career,thinks like that,better yourself now,when you least expect it,it will happen. If you're lacking self confidence,then take a class on that,where,I bet you'd meet some nice people

Answer 8

I think to love someone else u got to love urself first forget the past and all them girls who did u wrong live for today. Most importantly have confidence girls notice that i wish ya the best of luck and i hope i was some help.=]

Answer 9

when boys and girls are young they act strangely around people they are most attracted to.they fight ,shout at them and pick on them. but the truth is that they love the person and wants to be with them. the girls who picked on you were attracted to you. but they didnt know how to show it. so they picked on you. dont change yourself for others. just be yourself.study hard and you will see that the girls who picked on you will go after you when they become mature enough to control their emations.be happy with your self. workout and you will see that in a few years when you become rich ,these girls will run after you.

Answer 10

young girls are so frivolous. all they care about is looks, popularity and what you have (car, apartment, etc). enjoy your smarts, learn and concentrate on your education. in a few years you will have a successful career and the girls will fly to you like bees on honey. you'll have to even turn them down. don't worry so much.

if you feel lonely, talk to your friends, go out, have fun. distract yourself. use your hands hun.