Last night, my bf came home and found me looking at porn. He has been looking at it through the entire relationship, everyday, I'm not kidding. We live together and only have sex once a week. And that's only on my day off, I think it's because since I'm home all day he can't look. Why else masturbate to it 6 days a week and only have sex once, we NEVER have sex unless it's a day I don't have work? 2nd choice.
When he came home & saw me, he got mad, but he got mad because I nagged at him for it. Called me a hypocrite. I recently stopped nagging about it, I see it everyday when I come home from him, and I have to ignore it. He got mad because he just thinks it's unfair, I get mad because it makes me feel bad, & lowers sex to once a week. It doesn't even hurt his feelings. He didn't even care why I did it. I did it because I felt lonely (he's been gone pretty much for the past week, even overnight, leaves me here.) He asked me, why not wail till I get home (I ask him the same) he said..
2006-07-07 09:12:35 · 12 answers · asked by Liquid Cherry Blood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why can't I wait for him? By the time he comes home, I leave for work, and when I come home, he's gone overnight again. He didn't even ask hy I was looking at girl girl videos. I didn't want to see a guy, there is alot of touching and foreplay in those videos, and that is something he never wants to spend the time giving me. No touching, kissing, playing, NOTHING. It's straight to sex, and if I can't climax instantly, he asks me what my problem is.
This is just going to continue in a vicious cycle with him, and what's even worse, is when I get home tonight, there will be tons of videos from him. He doesn't even care that I did it because I feel neglected sometimes, and I can't tell him because he will call me crazy and it will cause a fight. If it's not him talking about other girls and how hot they are when I'm right there, its looking up pictures of specific girls, or porn. And we only have sex once a week. He doesn't even care what he's doing.
2006-07-07 09:17:00 · update #1
I have suggested watching it together, because I thought that was what he wanted, this was before I ever looked. He said no, why do I want that ,if I have a girl right in front of me. That atleast made me happy, and I completely agree with it. But we're both 20...and sex once a week?Those videos satisfy him, he doesn't even need me. Needing a way where you have to have someone. He probably does for them though, I think I'm just a convenience instead of the hand occasionally. If I wasn't, why is it always "wham bam, thank you m'am"?
2006-07-07 09:20:50 · update #2
Oh and to make it worse, he called his little brother and told him, so he would go tell his entire family. Why would he put my personal life out on public display like that?
2006-07-07 09:21:44 · update #3
I'd get rid of him. Obviously he doesn't care about what you want when it comes to intimacy. Also, he doesn't care about your feelings or privacy because he goes blabbing all your business to other people. You can find a decent man out there that will treat you waaaaaaay better than that loser.
2006-07-07 09:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 09:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by bucknor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying you're both very young so things that are so major right now as you get older will seem funny . But for now it is serious to you , what are you doing to try to take his mind off of wanting to look at porn? It sounds like he may be addicted to it . Maybe sometime if you feel like it , you should just walk in and take advantage of him totally unexpected and see where it leads don't give him a choice . If that does'nt work, examine the relationship see if there are more differences between the two of you . Whatever you decide and whatever you do I hope it works good luck to the two of you .
2006-07-08 19:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by LarryTx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth don't you look at it together?
He sounds like a total idiot. Have you asked him why you only get it together on your day off? What does he say? It sounds like he thinks it's OK for him to do what ever he wants but he doesn't want you to do the same. This may only relate to this particular problem now but this kind of controlling behaviour will spread sooner or later into other areas of your relationship.
Tell him that once a week just ain't good enough and that if he continues to get himself off 6 days out of 7 then you are gonna do the same, and just maybe you won't feel like it on the 7th day!
Jeez I am really sorry but he sounds like a total loser!
Sort it out sweetie for your own sake. You deserve to be treated much much better than this. x
2006-07-07 09:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like porno and an all and i understand once in a while wanting to get urself off even if u have alot of sex, but if im into a girl ill take her 9 out 10 times. why j.o. all week when u can perform what ur watching everyday :)
2006-07-09 18:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by duff007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just need a reason to break up with u.
even though I am an Indian, I dont behave with my girlfriends in this manner[whenever I come into situations like urs]
My suggestion is just to stop bothering about him.
there will be a problem, a big problem if and only if ur in LOVE.
don`t take any wrong steps and dont harm urself
2006-07-08 20:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by qwerain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have basic communication problems and he has an obsessive issue with porn. Many couples successfully deal with these issues but you need to work through some sort of program. Maybe get a self-help book for couples and talk to him about working through it with you, or go see a counsellor together.
2006-07-07 09:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - sounds like a main problem i used to have with my livein bf
listen all i can tell you is talk to him about ur sexual life (the whole kissing touching stuff ; tell him how that is way better then skipping str8 to sex besides dry hurts so tell him to work it.)
another tip is when u see he wont eat u out or kiss u & wants to stick it in while its dry touch urself - show him that u can handle ur own business ...lick ur fingers & rub them there trust me it will get his attention IF NOT HE IS GAY & DUMP HIM
good luck hun - keep ur head up.
men can be such manipulating self centered jerks !
2006-07-07 09:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by (( B!TCH )) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dump this jerk. He sounds like a really mean person, and yes, I think he is using you for the occasional break from porn when he feels like it. Wait for someone more deserving of you!
2006-07-07 10:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple, share and share alike
2006-07-08 19:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋