Maybe if you would teach them everything early they would have a better chance to do somethign with their lives instead of having to wait to learn stuff. And whats wrong with growing up fast?
2006-07-07 09:04:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Because they want their children to enjoy their CHILDHOOD... and because they are a CHILD and not an adult.
2006-07-07 09:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"I don't want you to grow up too fast", is not an excuse. It's an explanation. The fact is there are cognitive issues that must be acknowledged in rearing and raising children.
It's tough being a kid nowadays because the societal influences to which you all are exposed are so intense. The volume of information and stimuli is astounding.
The human brain is an incredible organ about which very little is really known. But enough is known to be able to say with more than a fair amount of certainty, that if you have parents who are engaged in your life enough to admonish you for behavior that they deem you still not yet ready for, that you'll be okay. You'll survive childhood and someday when you have your own kids you'll remember the lessons you're learning now and say to them, "I don't want you to grow up too fast".
2006-07-07 16:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dahs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Growing up fast is a problem because no matter how much kids try to act like adults, they aren't emotionally prepared to handle most of it. They do things without understanding their significance and let a good thing go to early (innocence and childhood). There are some eleven year olds out there prostituting themselves to thirty year old men every day. How do you think they'll grow up? What about ten year olds hooked on drugs? Wouldn't you agree that that's not right? Maturity is good, and an advanced child is wonderful, but kids shouldn't grow up as fast as they often do.
2006-07-08 08:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like Dr. Phil says, things should be age appropriate. Could you do calculus in kindergarten? Why not? Could you balance a check book in preschool? Why not? Some kids aren't ready for things. If you are going to education your child on something, it should be of age appropriate language. I think if someone wants their kid to grow up too fast that they are too lazy to guide them through the years. Most kids get their innocence and childhood "STOLEN" from them early and are forced to grow up too quickly. How fair is that?
If you yourself are upset that your parents kept you sheltered, then if you want to grow up fast, be sure you do it 100% and not just half way. Make your own way, and learn from the book of life, but don't go back to your parents and say they ruined your life when the "real world" treats you harshly. You'll be wishing for that shelter real quick. Plus, even if they told you, would you believe them? Most people between 13 - 25 don't listen to their parents anyway.
2006-07-07 20:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by terrbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't tell you because if they told you everything, then you would have no learning experiences. And there is nothing wrong with your parents saying that they don't want you to grow up to fast. As you get older you will wish that you could have some of your youth back. I am only 23 and I wish that I could be younger again, not have to be serious all the time, having a full time job, bills ...you name it, you'll have it. Enjoy life and have fun, before it's too late and then you will have no time for fun.
2006-07-07 16:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by blueyegurl0283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol. Have kids and you'll find out. There are a lot of things that are disturbing and hard to understand. Older children have a better base of experience to grasp certain concepts. On the other hand, 25 is the new 17 in many cases, so this approach may not be working...
2006-07-07 16:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parents want to see their children hurt in any way shape or form. Thats why parents dont tell their kids everything. If these kids think they knew it all why are they asking their parents in the first place? Or I should rephrase that, Why do these kids come on here asking questions? Parents dont want their kids to grow up to fast. Stay a child as long as possible. Its more fun to be a kid, than an adult.
2006-07-07 16:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how fast. You wouldn't attempt to explain death to a 2 year old. Or sex to a six year old. Some parents feel it is necessary to shield a child from all negative things--war, prison, rape, slavery, etc. But then again sometimes the parent takes into consideration how well a child can adapt to this information. Hearing about the holocaust could cause an 8 year old to have nightmares. It is only logical for a parent to want to protect their child.
2006-07-07 16:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by banker lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, in my opinion, as a mother of 3 grown children and a grandmother of 4, there is such a thing as growing up too fast and it can be detrimental to a child's development. There are things that children learn now-a-days that immature minds are not ready to handle and this creates alot of confusion and turmoil for many kids and teenagers. As parents, we can't teach kids EVERYTHING...every individual's journey must be their own but it is our responsiblity as parents with, hopefully, more maturity and more life experiences to help guide our children in the right direction. It is painful to see your child or grandchild go through hard lessons, pain and sadness but, unfortunately, we can't always keep it from happening but it is our privilege and responsiblity to try.
2006-07-07 16:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by amomentssunlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't do that with my daughter, but I think I understand it. Sort of. I really enjoy her being little. When she grows up, that's all over. Having a teenager (or even a 5 year old) and having a baby are just two different worlds. The baby years are so much fun. Watching them learn. It's just sad when they grow up and aren't quite so cute any more! ;-) Parents just want to hold onto their babies as long as they can before they turn into us!
2006-07-07 16:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Amy Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things require knowledge of other things in order to understand them. For example, why would you try to explain string theory to a 7 year old that doesn't understand atoms and molecules yet? It's not that people "hold back things", it's that the children are not ready to understand some things yet - not mature enough to put them in the proper perspective.
It's funny how people without children always think this way until they have children and see for themselves the danger of "too much knowledge too soon".
2006-07-07 16:09:03 · answer #11 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋