met this awesome guy, well we started to talk for a few monthes and then we started to date. The next thing I knew we were together for 3 years. Later on in the relationship we always argued about stupid things but the fact is that we decided to split. In the beginning of our relationship, he was more in love with me than I was with him. I knew I cared about him but I don't fall in love easily, but as our relationship grew I guess I didn't put 110 in the relationship because I was kind of unsure of where we were, and he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life w/ me. About a year after we dated I knew I loved him but I guess it was too late, he told me I pushed him away .How can I get him back? He thinks I treated him so badly but I honestly didn't mean to, I love him more than anything and it's been 2 yrs since our split. I still think about him everyday and need him in my life, what should I do? The problem is that he's in Germany now and I'm in the States.
2006-07-07 08:51:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
CHANCES ARE HES ALL READY MARRIED N DIDEN'T TELL U
2006-07-09 13:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by bobbey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter (hand written, don't type) and tell him exactly what you've told us here. Tell him you take things slowly, and you hope that he didn't take that as indifference. Tell him you still think about him and would like to have him back in your life.
Of course, there's a catch - is he in Germany for good or is he coming back soon? Are you willing to move there if he wants to rekindle the relationship? It's a pretty big step.
When couples fight about "stupid things," it usually means that there is something else wrong. Think about how it really was to be with him. Our memories are very forgiving of bad things. It's easy to focus on only the good times.
If you're sure that you want to be back with him, write the letter and wait. If he rejects your advances, you'll have to let it go. He may have moved on by now. Take what you've learned from this experience and use it to make your next relationship better.
2006-07-07 08:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, young lady, he has moved on. You don't always get what you want, but if you try some time, you will find, You Get What You Need. Listen to the Rolling Stones song about this. If he doesn't want you, he doesn't deserve you. Men are like busses, another one comes along every 15 or 20 minutes. Heartbreak is a part of life. Learn from the errors you made in the relationship, journal them, and you will find an even better match for your personality. Also, making mistakes is part of life, be glad for this one, for you will not make it again if you are wise.
2006-07-07 10:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by charles j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call him and tell him how you feel , That you're sorry on treated him badly and didn't mean to pushed him away . You didn't mean that because you were scared of what was going to happen in the future. You need to tell him that you love him so much you would do anything for him. Be honestly , Tell him your feels and just listen to what he has to say . Also tell him that you dont want to argued anymore.
2006-07-07 09:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecka W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even good people might not be good together. It's okay to still think about him and miss him but you need to stop thinking about how good it could have been. Those stupid little arguments were for a reason.
Think about him, hope the best for him, and find someone else. You'd be surprised how many options are out there!
2006-07-07 09:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by pizzagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be, it will work out. Is he coming back to the states? or could you go on vacation? Send him a card or letter, but dont be despert. Just tell him you still would like to keep in touch from time to time. let him come back to you, it will take a while, but if he still feels it, he will.
2006-07-07 08:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and keep in touch by e-mail or letter every once in a while! Don't sound desperate! When he returns to the states see if you can work it out then!
2006-07-07 08:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone LOVE you. Move on
2006-07-07 09:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by junglejane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋