How do you gain confidence with yourself?

Question

Like going up and talking to a girl,
Walking into a room like you know what your doing.

Answer 1

Might be a few reasons that you are nervous: (1) you are unprepared; (2) you put too much emphasis on being successful with one particular person; or, (3) you don't understand women enough to know how they will react.

As for (1), try sitting down with a paper and pencil, in your free time, and writing down common suituations where you have difficulty. Think of what you would say and do if these things happened. That way you will have the right words at the right time (Instead of having the right words come to you later after it is too late.).

As for (2), tell yourself that the opinion of just one person doesn't matter. If the first person whom you speak to doesn't like you, remind yourself that someone else will. There ARE nice people out there who will like you if you keep talking to different people and don't give up. Treat rejection as if it wasn't any big deal; after all, if she doesn't take the time to get to know you, it is her loss since she missed out on getting to know someone as nice as you. If she was rude, she did you a favor by getting rid of you, because now you won't waste your time talking to, or thinking about, her. You can immediately move on to someone else. If you act confident, sooner or later you will feel confident.

As for (3), that's complicated. Steady eye contact, slow movement, and good posture indicate confidence. if you look away from someone the moment that she looks at you (even from across the room), she will think that you lack confidence, and she will assume that your lack of confidence indicates that you are bad with relationships.

It also helps to have a sense of humor. Some guys who are good at meeting women will often open up by making a funny comment on what she is looking at, or some small thing that she is wearing (in good taste, of course), like she was an old acquaintance whom you haven't seen in awhile. The key here is to act as if she was an old friend (I.E.: act as if you already know that she will like you). If you act nervous, she will be too. If you act comfortable around her, then she will feel comfortable around you.

Answer 2

To gain confidence with yourself first you have to accept yourself. The way that I get confidence is get yourself all ready and dress up real nice. Go into a public place knowing that you are "hot". If someone comes up to you even if there ugly don't turn them away make conversation for that will build up your skills. When meeting a girl don't go up to her and say a pick up line, we hear them enough:) Just say hi and introduce yourself and ask her, her name. If its in a bar you could send her over a drink. Then walk up to her. If they are interested then the girl you have approached will make conversation back with you. Try to not set standards to high. You will never know if you don't try,do not let a good thing pass you right by. I hope that I helped:) You have my best wishes for you!

Answer 3

Daily positve affrimations! If you tell you self something for 28 days straight a part of your brain will begin to belive it even if you dont.
Some thing like: I respect myself and i do have confidence in everything that i do. I find it easy to talk with others because im comfortable with me.
Keep saying it ......29 day! you'll see!! I just gave you the answer.

Answer 4

Don't expect everyone to adore you openly. You know yourself, you know you're worth alot, and if some people can't see that, why should that become your problem? Obviously, don't be arrogant about it!!

Answer 5

you have to believe in your self and know that you can do whatever it is your doing and also take risks some times like going up and talking to a girl u will never know if she likes you until you go up to her and ask her. or to take a risk and do whatever your going to do.

Answer 6

Realize that everyone else is just bluffing.

Answer 7

have a few drinks first.

Answer 8

look in the mirror and say "damn im hot!"