What is wrong with me?

Question

I can never make up my mind. Especially when it comes to making changes in my life. I know that I need to make changes, I just can't do it for some reason. I am so afraid of making a bad choice. Then I think and think about things until it drives me crazy and I get depressed. Sometimes I wish that I could just turn my head off. Do other people go through things like this and if so, how do you stop overthinking everything.

Answer 1

1). Procrastination
2). Fear of committment -at least committing to a decision
3). The only bad choice is the choice you do not make for yourself.
4). Fear of success or fear of failure.
5). You realize all this, but seem incapable of effecting a change for the better. Result: depression and low self esteem. Don't beat yourself up!
6). Turning your head off is the last thing you need to do. Instead, try to realize when you are overthinking a problem. Then "trim the fat" and get to the heart of the matter. Therein lies the answer.
7) Regret no choice. Your choices are half chance. Don't beat yourself up. Don't pat yourself on the back too much.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, you have to take it slow. I know it sounds easier said than done, but trust me, i have the same problem. What you are doing is that you are overworking your brain with petty stuff. Take out the time to relax, drink a cup of coffee, go to the movies. What also helps is writing. If you are not a writer, that is ok. Write down a list of what bothers you. Analyze what you can do about certain situations, and try to come up with a solution. Ask a good friend or a family member to help you. You can go to http://www.google.com or go to the "Search the Web" box in the upper right hand corner of in the Yahoo web page and look for different ways to de-stress yourself. What also helps is looking up different quotes. There are motivational quotes that can help you get thru the day. Trust me, i wish i could turn my brain off sometime too, but in life its not that simple. If you are afraid to make bad desicions, that means that you are isolating yourself of what could have happened as opposed to what didnt happen. Many people - including celebraties - have made bad desicions, but they have also made the desicion that what ever bad choice that they have made in life has not interfered what they wanted out of life. You will have ups and downs, thats reality, but if you put away your fears for at least a day, and refelect, you can be able to accomplish what you want. Never be afraid to ask questions, becuase u might wonder one day, why didnt i do this?
Remember not to panic, and do what you feel is right for you. Dont ever let anyone tell you that you are less than they are becuase they have one or two things that you dont have. That can also lead to indecisivness. You can have what you want and more, say to yourself, forget everyone else i do WHAT I WANT TO DO, just as long as it does not jepordize your life and others, and your mental being as well. U are in charge of your own life. People can make suggestions, but its up to you whether or not if its the right kind of desicion and advice that will work for YOU.
Good luck to you.
J.

Answer 3

Changes, Decisions, Indecision's, Bad Decisions, Choices they are all neither good nor bad. Some of course are better than others. Each and everyday, everyone makes many, many choices, from the first moment of consciousness to the last. Make a decision, run with it and know in your mind that the choice you made was the best of alternatives. Everybody goes through the process of making decisions... nobody makes perfect decisions all the time. Practice makes perfect.

Answer 4

Yes lots do...my husband is the worst for this. He can not make a decision then when he does he will question me if it's a good one. Even a simple decision like what to eat, he just can't make a solid choice.
What I ask him is what is your first reaction? Then we will talk about the pro's and con's of his first or gut reaction 9 outta 10 times that is the best response. For him that really seems to work because that first answer is what he wants and then he talks himself outta it. Try it. As for thinking and thinking about it...just stop if it was a bad choice try to figure out what you were meant to learn from the bad choice. If it was good be happy you didn't waste anymore time thinking about it.

Good Luck....any chance your a LIbra? Every Libra I know is this way!! LOL

Answer 5

I'm like that too. Just indecisive in general. But you know the best thing to do is to go with the decision you first made cuz that was your first instinct. Then don't dwell on it cuz that's how you felt so don't look back and regret. People don't always make the right decisions, but that's how you learn. Go with your gut and don't think back and wonder how it could've been cuz that's how you felt at the time and there's nothing you can do to change it. so live for the moment and make the best out of it.

Answer 6

You need to quit overthinking things. Sounds like you need to find someone to talk things through with. Choices have an oppertunity to make the wrong decision but seldom do things really turn out as bad as we think they will. We get worked up and blow it up into something major (which it isn't).

Answer 7

Asking the question "What is wrong with me?" usually means there isn't necessarily anything IS wrong with you. But then again, I'm not a psychologist.

Many people deal with the same things you do and there is no easy answer to help solve it. Just remind yourself, on occasion, that you are going to make a bad decision from time to time and there isn't any way to ensure that you won't. You've made it this far...Try taking it one day at a time and you'll be surprised how well you can do.

Answer 8

If it is a physiological problem:
Obsessiveness is a sign that the body is producing too much adrenaline that is responsible for the feelings of fear, anxiety or panic.
Now when we have these experiences of fear without an actual object of fear in the environment, the mind will create something in the imagination that justifies “being worried about nothing”. In psychology this is called “reverse condition”, whereby a emotional response is paired with a stimulus that happens to be present. Thus this could explain the developments of phobias, where the person has a fear of something in the environment knowing fully well that this is not rational. “Worrying about nothing” is a sign that we have too much adrenaline in the body.
If it is a conditioned response:
It may be caused from childhood conditioning from family or friends.
If it is a mentally intiiated problem:
May be imbalance of brain chemicals.
If it is a emotional problem:
The “stinking thinking” of Codependency causes us to have a dysfunctional relationship with ourselves and others. These are some traits of that stinking thinking:
1. Black and White Thinking:
The disease comes from an absolute black and white, right/wrong, always and never perspective. “I will always be alone.” “I never get a break.” Any negative thing that happens gets turned into a sweeping generality.
2. Negative Focus:
The disease always wants to focus on the half of the glass that is empty and lament, rather than be grateful for what we have. Even if the glass is 7/8 ths full the disease can find some negative to focus on. (On the other extreme are some people who focus only on the good as a way of denying their feelings.)
3. Magical Thinking:
Mind reading, fortune telling, assuming - we think we can read other peoples minds and feelings, or foretell the future, and then act as if what we assume is the reality. We often create self-fulfilling prophecies this way.
4. Starring in the Soap Opera:
Blowing things out of proportion, playing the “King or Queen of tragedy.” Some of us are addicted to “Trauma Dramas” and want the excitement and intensity of dramatic scenes while others of us are terrified of conflict. It is quite common in codependent relationships to have one person who is over-indulgent and dramatic emotionally coupled with someone who wants to avoid conflict and emotions at all costs.
5. Self-Discount:
Inability to receive, or to admit to our own positive qualities or accomplishments. When someone gives us a compliment we minimize it (“Oh it was nothing”), make a joke out of it, or just ignore the compliment by changing the subject or turning the compliment back on the other person.
6. Emotional Reasoning:
Reasoning from feelings. “I feel like a failure therefore I am a failure.” Believing that what we feel is who we are without separating the inner child's feelings about what happened a long time ago from the adults feelings in the now.
7. Shoulds:
“Shoulds,” “must,” “ought to,”and “have to” come from a parent or authority figure. “Should” means “I don’t want to but they are making me.” Adults don’t have shoulds - adults have choices.
8. Self-Labeling:
Identifying with our shortcomings and mistakes, with our human imperfection, and calling ourself names like “stupid,” “loser,” “jerk,” or “fool” instead of accepting our humanity and learning from any mistakes or shortcomings.
9. Personalizing and Blame:
Blaming yourself for something you weren’t entirely responsible for, or for how someone else feels. Conversely, you may blame other people, external events, or fate, while overlooking how your own attitudes and behavior may have contributed to a problem.
As children we learned to blame others to keep from feeling the shame of being blamed. As adults we swing between blaming and self-blame - neither is the Truth. The answers lie in the gray area, in 2 through 9, not in the extremes.

Many other possibilities. Best to seek some mental, medical or spiritual counseling. Start with your medical Doctor to rule out health conditions. If you check out okay. Seek mental health counseling. If the problem cannot be discovered or resolved there...seek spiritual counseling from a local pastor. It may be that Satan does not want you to think good thoughts about yourself.

Answer 9

Stop now your stressing yourself out!
I would say this is stress from worrying to much about those choices you ha ve to make.
Ive been through the same thing. Dont stress yourself to much please.
Relax! Try learning how to meditate maybe if you think it might help.
If you start getting stressed and depressed maybe start writing your feelings down. Or doing something you like! As long as its ethical and doesnt hurt no one :P

Good luck!

Answer 10

don't be afraid to take a risk.ask yourself what is the worst that could happen if i decide to do this?
we all make good and bad decisions and sometimes we don't know right away if it was the right thing to do or not but the worst thing we can do is nothing.