Besides brining in the money.
2006-07-07 08:12:38 · 9 answers · asked by Steve 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a stay at home mom of 4 and it's the little things that I appreciate such as - Helping occasionally with dishes, bring up the laundry, help with bed time, and letting me sleep in on Saturday and then Sunday he sleeps in. The best thing I like is when I get a hug and kiss and am told how much he appreciates all I do around the house.
2006-07-07 08:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 9⤊ 1⤋
Without someone bringing in the money, there would be no 'stay at home parent'. Some respect must be given the one who pays the rent (or the mortgage), pays for the food, the car that shuttles the stay-at home around, pays for the gas and electricity, pays for the clothing, the school, the hairdresser, the manicures, the lawnmower, the trips to the restaurant, the vacations, etc. etc. While I'm not belittling the one staying at home to look after the kids, the standard of living enjoyed by the spouse and the kids is hinged on the money brought back home by the working spouse who probably has to commute long distances, put up with demanding bosses and/or customers, difficult coworkers and the constant threat of unemployment. Doesn't paying the bills count for anything anymore?
2006-07-08 12:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by pepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, understand that the stay-at-home parent works the equivalent of 2 full-time jobs. this was a study that i heard about on Dr. Phil and i've read it in some parenting magazines.
second, understand that the stay-at-home parent needs some down time too.
so, playing with the kids so he/she can take a nice long hot shower or bath at night would be nice. or doing the dishes if they cooked dinner, or offering to throw the load of wash in the dryer. ANYTHING that helps around the house or frees your partner up for some down time to themself.
my brother didn't get this at first either. he thought that his day was done when he got home from work. well, my sister-in-law put a stop to it by tossing him the baby as soon as he hit the doorway and she'd go run errands, get her hair done, etc...this way she wasn't there to be tempted to help him cope. she would actually leave and knew that he'd have to learn the hard way!
so, anything you can think of....how about sometimes calling up and saying "hey honey, instead of you cooking tonight, let me bring home dinner, what would you like or should i just pick something up??"
2006-07-07 15:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Helping a little bit and taking the kids for awhile would help out the stay at home parent, because running around after kids all day is a hard task, but helping without complaining would be the big thing that would make me mad, it is easy to get lazy and not help out because the stay at home parent is doing all the work. SO HELP OUT
2006-07-07 15:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help the other parent out. If you are the one working and your wife is at home with the kids all day, then when you come home have one hour where you spend time with the kids and allow her time to nap or take a bath or whatever. If she cooks, you clean the dishes. Help get the kids in the bath, get them to bed.
If she wants to get out of the house for a couple of hours, let her. Try to help with household chores as much as you can (I know it's tough working, too) but anything you can do to help your partner out is supporting her.
2006-07-08 05:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am lucky because i have a wonderful husband that supports and encourages me to continue to stay home with our kids. the thing that i can say the most is. just because we are home all day doesnt mean that we dont need or want home. for example i love it when my husband calls to say dont bother to cook he will bring home dinner. or when i start the laundry and he stops me and does it. the help is great. and is shows that i am his wife not his slave. which is how some women feel. just because we are home all day doesnt mean we have nothing better to do then wash clothes. i know that i run my own business from home. and love when he picks me up on lunch to go help me pick out fabric at the store. anything like that. just be an equal part of the relationship. make sure that she reliezes that you respect her choice to stay home and that you will do what ever you have to for her to be comfortable with her choice.
2006-07-07 15:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by organicbabiesandmommiestoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand that the stay home parents job is 5 times harder than the working parents job. give the stay home parent some time off from the kids while the stay home one makes supper (take them out to play or something) I am a stay home mom and my husband works. he comes home and corals the kids (we have 3 sons,5y 4y 3y) in the living room and romps and plays with them while i cook. sometimes he comes in and soops us all up and says "take out night" and he drives us all to mc Donalds for dinner. He has been the stay home parent before and knows its harder than any "paying" job can ever be.
2006-07-07 15:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You help your spouse out as much as you can. Either with the house chores, inside and out and of course, take the children out for a few days, away from the other spouse thats been with these kids from morning to night. Remember, you like to be OUT so does the other spouse, besides grocery shopping. They need time to themselves or it could be a mad, mad, world you live in.
2006-07-07 15:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help with the cleaning...not the big things, but the little things REALLY do count. And if you have kids, HELP with them!!
2006-07-07 15:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by nwest1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋