Story Time... I had met this girl at camp one year and thought that she and I would be great together. I took her to my prom and asked her to be mine. She glady accepted and we were dating for about 2 weeks. One of my classmates was dating my bro (another story) and she was having a miserable time. I was just being a friend and I helped her forget my bro, but low and behold that I found out I was flirting too much with her and i ended up breaking my girlfriends heart just to go with my bro's ex. I got attached to her quickly than the girl I met at camp. I didn't last a week with my classmate. I got too attached to her and lost everything I had. She went off for someone else she was attached to, and she ended up getting the same treatment i did. She and I are still friends though. After I realized what I had really done to my first girlfriend, I waited a while to ask her back out again. I felt bad for hurting her more than I hurt myself. so i ask is getting too "attached" a bad thing?
2006-07-07 07:58:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the girl I met at camp is my girlfriend right now and we've been dating for onlly 3 weeks going on 4 soon. She means alot to me and vice versa. look into my other questions please. I need any assistance i can get.
2006-07-07 07:59:49 · update #1
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2006-07-07 08:00:33 · update #2
Depends on what your personal definition of "attached" means. To me, being too attached means you are unable to perform daily tasks after meeting this person when you had no problem performing them before meeting them...things like making decisions based on your own opinion and perception. If you find that 2 or more of your friends make comments about how your "whipped" or how you don't live your own life anymore...then you've become too attached and have allowed this person to gain too much control over your life. Also, if you find that you cannot balance time between your new love interest and family and friends...then you're too attached. From what I've read of your situation, it doesn't sound like a "too attached" issue...sounds more like you're unsure or too young to understand what committment entails...not trying to offend you, but that's usually what happens when you tend to jump from one relationship to another so quickly. I'd advise you to just enjoy life right now, learn more about yourself and your wants and needs...then you'll know what it is you want in a relationship and will know what "too attached" means to you.
2006-07-07 08:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by AverageMom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't bad to get too-attached but, it just depends on who it is and your current relationship with that person. The first girl took you back after you broke her heart stay with her, don't get attached to others or cheat on her, you'll hurt yourself more than you hurt anyone else. Plus, if you want someone else go for it, when your single.
2006-07-07 08:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by puppet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, getting too attached leads to nothing but heartbreak, especially if it leads to a feeling of dependency on that person. You will usually end up smothering that person and driving them the opposite direction. Not only that, but you lose sight of yourself and other things around you.
2006-07-07 08:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not but i think all 3 of you need some space to think a few things over it wont hurt. if all fells maybe you 3 can become just friends who wants to be hurt all over again? think about it the damage has been done & i really dont think things will get any better.
2006-07-07 08:17:54 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia_1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 05:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by jesteriii 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I just got too attached to someone really just as a friend and now they don't want to "mess up my marraige" and won't speak to me. I'm missin' him already!
2006-07-07 08:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by HoneyBee24-7-365 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a bad thing. it hurts more than just you. it hurts the people your friends with or dating. you may not realize it, but sometimes, you can actually get REALLY anoying to your friends.
2006-07-07 08:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by ASHLEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering you were willing to leave her like that, you were never really "attached." Infatuated, perhaps, but not attached.
2006-07-07 08:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by answerator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be sure to comunicate about everything with her. only then can you make sure she is attached to you or if you did a bad thing.
2006-07-07 08:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't get 2 attached becuz it might not workout
2006-07-07 08:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by justnae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋