I like my friends roommate, but my friend likes me. After a day I hit it off with his roommate, and my friend got mad at me and him. They both are best friends for 9 years, and Now I think I am breaking that friendship, but my friend doesnt get that I dont like him, and its not like we have dated before, becuase we never have, but why is he getting so mad with his roommate and me?? I dont get it!!
2006-07-07 07:50:36 · 17 answers · asked by Zinnia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's jealous. Jealousy can drive people to incredible lengths and destroy friendships. Dating his roommate might be bad news because he'd see you there, then see you walking to his roommate's bedroom for some 1 on 1 action, etc. This would all tear him up inside because he has feelings for you.
What you could do is simply tell him that you value your friendship with him and don't want to ruin it by starting a romantic relationship. Let him know that you care about him a lot but don't want to destroy what you currently have. Then just go on and date his roommate and have a fun time. This guy really needs to grow up and learn to stop focusing his efforts on someone who doesn't have a romantic interest in him. Don't let someone else's feelings control the way you act, you control them and do what's best for yourself.
Also, he's getting mad and pushing you away because he thinks it'll draw you closer to him. Think of how a cat behaves. If you push it away, it only wants to be by you even more. It wonders why you don't want it's attention and thinks of ways to get attention in return. By being mad towards you two he's giving you only two options. Pick him instead, or end the friendship. See how selfish love can be sometimes?
2006-07-07 07:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by TonyDrummond 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it'd great you don't want to hurt your friend, but if you and the roommate hit it off, who cares what other people think. He has probably had a crush on you for a while and is just jealous.
The only other possibility is that he know the kind of guy his roommate is and he is trying to protect you from a dirt-bag. I had a roommate once that I wouldn't let my worst enemy date. Great guy to hang out with, but treated women like crap and I wouldn't be able to sit back and let anyone I considered a friend get envolved with. Try talking to him and finding out if it's a jealousy thing or a protection thing.
Good luck.
2006-07-07 14:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nemo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well technically your not doing anything wrong, but if your friend really likes u than u have 2 understand y he's upset, or y he's jealous, i mean there's no reason 4 him 2 act like that because u guys were never a couple but it probably bothers him 2 c his best friend dating or hanging out with the girl he likes, all u could really do is sit down and talk 2 him, tell him how u feel about the whole situation, eventually he's gonns have 2 accept the fact that u guys r attracted 2 eachother but just take it easy on him lol, don't flirt around him or anything like that, don't get me wrong your able 2 do what u want but don't rub it in his face, goodluck.
2006-07-07 14:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it girl. You are messing up there friendship they both like you and if one of them can not have you one of them is going to get mad at one another I think that you should just keep it freinds between the two and friends only and that means not get busy with the 1 u like
2006-07-07 14:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, things will be weird for a while. Ifr he truly values your friendship then he will come to his senses and you can continue being friends! If the guy you like is worth that than go for it. Again, if he's a true friend he'll come around but sounds to me he has mistaken your friendship for something more. You should also look back and see if you gave him that idea. Good luck and things will fall into place!
2006-07-07 14:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by rayloskii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to go ahead with ur friend's roommates ...
but to have peace in your life ...I would recommend that find someone else...cuz if you start going with ur roommate's friend...then ur friend is gonna pursue in anyway possible...in the end, he'll try his best to seduce you to get you once in the bed and he'll be satified....
so if you wanna go through this whole drama...feel free to go...
otherwise...since you just like him...you don't have strong feelings for him...it would be easy to move on...there are alot of guys out....I believe you would have better chance with them and have peace
that is only my opinion
2006-07-07 15:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's not your fault, you aren't responsible for breaking the friendship, if that is what is happening. Your friend is getting mad because it seems like he is posessive over you. Because he realizes that you like his roomate, he may now view his roomate as a threat. He doesn't want you to choose his roomate over him, so what you need to do is tell him that you just want to stay friends with him, and anything that goes on between you and his roomate wouldn't break your friendship.
2006-07-07 14:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's jealous. Sit him down, tell him you don't like him that way. He could also be mad because he thinks you used him to get to his friend. Just sit him down, talk to him about it and see if it will get better.
2006-07-07 15:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest emailing me later like a few hours from now. maybe 2 morrow i hav advice but no time right now bye ttyl
2006-07-07 14:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by nancythemysterysolver123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, he thought at he has a chance with you beside friendship. once he'd calmed down. talk to him. make it clear that you think of him as a friend only.
2006-07-07 14:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋