i was a failed abortion and i never have felt loved what can i do to feel im actually wanted in this world?

Question

my mom is a tramp and abandoned me and i dont kno who my dad is ive attempted sucide multipule times

Answer 1

You are here for a purpose you survived such a horrible thing because God believed that you are here to change the world in some way. You have to believe in yourself and don't let your let your past get in the way of loving yourself. You were meant to be here, you were meant to carry on, please don't punish yourself for the mistakes of your parents.

Answer 2

Well, first and foremost, stay away from the pro life websites. They might make you feel worse. The problem is, you were not wanted by your mother, which is why she tried to have you aborted. That feels AWFUL, I am sure. I have no idea what its like to feel unwanted. I guess other than that, you can try to focus on the things you have been lucky with, like friends, health, families that fostered you, or adopted you.
You can also use your feelings of being unwanted, the botched abortion, etc, as a way to help show people how important it is to be wanted.
As for now, I would say that its highly probable that there is somebody out there who you dont know yet, who is dreaming about your face, loving you. Theres someone out there for all of us.
So try getting out there and volunteering for a cause or organization that you respect, and you will meet like minded people, and hopefully that special someone.

I have been told I am a "strong psychic", which I really dont believe in, but I will say this: I get the feeling that whoever it is, they are going to love you very much, and its going to happen REALLY soon, like within the next year, that youre going to meet them.

Also, God loves you, and hes always there if you need someone to talk to. God always listens, honey, so just tell him whatever is on your mind.

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PS- If you are suicidal, ever again, please call 911, and DONT kill yourself. I would hate to lose you, now, when we've only just started on this answers thing. Youre a good person. Try standing in the mirror and saying "I am wanted and loved. Thank you, God!" say it every day. MEAN it. You will eventually feel that way, I know it.

Answer 3

ok you weren't planned and weren't wanted. neither was I. same with lots of people. not everyone is the product of a pregnancy that was a failed abortion. your mum is a tramp and you don't know who your dad is.

That is just some facts... here are some more...

1) You are in this world.
2) You and only you can begin the process of learning to love you.
3) You are not the sum total of your parents.
4) Suicide is rather permanent.
5) Lots of good people have bad things happen to them for no apparent reason.
6) you can begin to feel wanted in this world by wanting to be in this world.
7) your next step is to make yourself useful in this world.
8) you will fnd it nigh on impossible to make yourself useful in this world if you don't leave your own feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness aside for a little while and focus on what others need. This takes practice so don't expect too much at first. Just leave your feelings aside once a day while you do something nice for someone else. You will feel better and so will they.
9) find yourself a good positive mentor or counsellor.
10) it isn't easy but you can do it if you so choose.

Answer 4

What? I have never heard of such a thing. But, if your birth-mother really tried to abort you, and God, or the universe, or fate, or whatever, prevented that from happening, I think it means that you are supposed to be here. And it must mean that you have something very important to contribute to the world. You may not be able to see what it is yet, but someday you will. I have lived through feelings of insignificance, hopelessness and rejection that eventually led to severe depression. One thing is for sure. Life can really, really suck. People can feel hopeless. Your world may stay messed up for a long, long time. And it's so painstakingly hard to get through. And sometimes it never goes away. And it's so, so difficult to listen to person after person tell you it will get better, and try not to be sad. But, the truth is that you always have choices. And one of those choices is the attitude you carry around. Because that is what controls the energy you are putting out to everyone and everything. And, despite the fact that you did nothing to deserve your heartbreaking situation, it is in your best interest to stay as positive as you can. In my opinion, the BEST thing you can do for yourself is make friends. It may not be easy and it may take time, but friends can make all the difference in the world as far as having a good or bad day. You could also try therapy if that is an option for you. And, you know what? I need all the friends I can get, so you can go to my yahoo link and chat with me any time if you ever feel like it. And I promise, I will always get back to you. It may take awhile, but I will. Please don't give up. I believe that if you hang in there and take it one day at a time, you will find a world that works for you. I did.

Answer 5

Every person is a worthwhile human being. Everyone has potential to do something, to make a difference somewhere. What do you feel passionate about? What do you love to do? What do you love? Don't focus on what other people can give to you, focus on what you can give to other people. I have attempted suicide before. I have felt unloved, even having had a family and friends. It's a bad place to be. But you don't have to let it beat you down. Find something that makes you feel good. Like perhaps helping people who feel the way you do. Offer your support and your comfort. Go out in the world and look for friends. Because in the end, it's the people who've been with you and stuck with you forever, not the ones that abandoned you. Forget about your parents and what they did or tried to do. They suck. They don't have any influence over you anymore and they don't define you. You are yours. Take your wings and spread them, test them, check out the world around you. I know how you feel ( http://elfwood.lysator.liu.se/art/r/a/rachaelar/broken.jpg.html ). It helps to even know you tried to help someone else. You get what you give, you know? Karma's just a term for common-sense. Pop me an e-mail if you need somebody to talk to, huh? It'll be alright.

Answer 6

You have obviously had a very rough time of it and for that I am very sorry. But as most of these people have said you are wanted in the world. Everyone is wanted in this world and everyone has some reason they are here. There is a reason that you are alive and although your family screwed you over royally and made you feel like you aren't worthy or loved that is not true. I don't know how old you are or where you are in your life, but again as many have said, put the past behind you and make something of your future and your dreams. There are other people in your life who care about you. Just embrace life and let go of some terrible people who can't hurt you anymore.

Answer 7

Wow, you have really had a tough start! I'm so sorry that you have been through all of that, I'm sure that it has made you a stronger person to begin with. It is hard to search for love when we are looking in the wrong places. What I have found is that through giving we receive. Become active in your community in a way that you are passionate about, wether it be habitat for humanities or a local soup kitchen, you can help some people and get some great satisfaction from doing it. The best advice I can give you is that you will probably find love when you stop looking and you let it find you! While that requires patience it is well worth it! Good luck to you my friend and I want you to hang in there please!

Answer 8

Human beings are very specialized animals therefore high on the food chain, but very easy to kill or destroy. A baby human is even easier to kill. Don't give it water and it will die in a mattter of days. I know quicker ways but this is not a manual for murder. Just with my bare hands I can end an unwilling man or womans life before they hit the ground. I am not bragging (like that would be something to brag about), this just illustrates the frailty of the human body. I could painlessly (low threshhold for pain) and effectively end my own life, its not physically difficult at all. As easy as it is to end a human life, it is hard as hell to keep one living !! They have to be fed, protected, healed when yhey are sick. The fact that you are old enough to write this, intelligent enough to write this shows me that somebody fed you , clothed you, and educated you. That along with the fact that this is not a suicide letter, shows me that at least two people must want your butt here. You and whoever took care of you-- even if it was your skank of a mother. You may have been born into a f**ked up situation, but you are here now and you have been here for a while. You obviously want to be here--it is too easy to do yourself in. Stop wasting energy on these "failed attempts", and use it to make sure that you don't make the same mistakes that your father and mother made.

Answer 9

As far as suicide, that is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Don't try it. To feel loved you must first like who YOU are and not try to survive on the anger of what our mom and dad have done or tried to do to you. You have to start thinking in a different way. Although your mom brought you into this world, you are the one which determines how you turn out and what you become. Get all of your anger out in a safe environment, then take a good hard look at your self.... Do you like who you are, what you do, how you act, the type of person you are, etc. If your answer is yes to all great, with the anger and hurt from your past worked out, move on and enjoy your self. If your answer is no to anything, then work on that til you are happy with YOU. One day you will meet up with someone that will love you for you and you will feel loved and appreciated. It all starts with you liking your self. That shows to other people and they pick up on it subconsciously. I hope this helps.

Answer 10

You are very lucky to survive that abortion ordeal. GOD WANTED YOU TO LIVE. Don't make your life miserable. Always look at the positive side of your life. Because LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL if you know how to lead your life. Try to go out and mingle with other people. By the way, how old are you? For you should know by now what is right and what is wrong.
Suicide is not an answer to your problem. Ever notice that you've attempted to commit suicide? Didn't you realize that GOD doesn't want you to die. Oh, please open your heart to GOD and listen to your guardian angel. You have a purpose to be here. Who knows one of these days, you will be the one to solve the problem of the world...... or you are the chosen one to lead your nation to greatness and happiness.
Please, always look at the brighter side of life, ok? Have a nice day and GOD BLESS US ALL.

Answer 11

Do you believe in God.... because I do and let me tell you if you were a failed abortion and then multiple suicide attempts failed you need to sit down and pray... God has a plan for your life... How old are you? did you ever think maybe first learn to love your self.. Then maybe become a youth mentor of some sort.. I think you will find more love from the kids that you help then you will know what to do with.. There are many kids out there just like you who would give their right arm to have someone to love and love them back.... Think about it..