Everytime i meet someone or talk to anyone like a doctor, a stranger, or meet anyone i get so shy,i mumble, i forget what to say, i stumble on my words, i get so self concious. i need to learn how to talk to people. be more social. its like i draw a blank and just feel so stupid. is there any classes or anywhere that can help me overcome this or help me . its driving me nuts. why cant i be more comfortable in a social situation or any situation where i have to talk to someone? why cant i come up with small talk. i feel like a little girl but im 21. any advice?
2006-07-07 07:47:47 · 5 answers · asked by mama_2_milana 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Join a group like Toast Masters that will help you to learn to speak publicly. This will also help with some of the self-esteem issues that create shyness.
2006-07-07 07:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets stuck for things to say from time to time but if you feel that it always happens try this:
Make yourself believe that you are confident, pick something about yourself that you really like and remember that, it will make you feel so much better. If you pretend you are confident (act a little) for long enough you will find that you no longer need to act.
Remember that most people are shy around new people or in new situations, but they don't show it. Find something that you really like doing and take a class in that, it will give you and the others around you some common ground to start you off in conversaton.
2006-07-07 15:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by angelsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
used to happen with me too. i stammered and mumbled, spoke incorrect english just cause i got nervous talking !!! i made a conscious effort to improve. everytime i meet someone, i turn up the confidence level, smile, make eye contact. improvement does happen overnight. its a long process, but u will enjoy seeing urself improve. the main factor that i focused on was confidence. speak, walk confidently. (caution: dont b a fake !) if u r giving a talk/speech think that u r the expert. this will boost up ur confidence. also u will need to practice talking, start that with simple things like discussing latest news with ur family, then friends and then others.
2006-07-07 15:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by sagar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go with what david said. I was once like you all shy and mouse like. never heard a peep from me. Toastmasters is a small group of people similar to yourself and it focuses on public speaking in front of your peers, usually around 8-10 or so. you practice and critique each other on your presentation and also how to build yourself up and gain more confidence. either that or become a commission only salesman. you;ll learn real quick how to break out of that mold. can usually find them around a college campus or at your library. look at the bulletin boards for info.
2006-07-07 15:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to clusters once again
2006-07-07 19:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by †♫♫♫♥☼♥♫♫♫† 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋