I have a 3 year old and 6 year old girl and boy. he tries to boss her constantly. I do things with them together and we have our special time where I work with him and the same for my daughter. he is teaching her all of his little bad habits and I am going crazy. no matter what I do it does not work. I know that is how it goes, but some real honest helpful hints would be great. Please nothing nasty, and NO I will not be hurtful to my children.
So if any one has any positives ideas that might help I would really appriciate them.
2006-07-07 07:29:07 · 8 answers · asked by hummingbird 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Typically, kids at those ages are developing their sense of power and personalities. It's a VERY difficult time for parents. Try to find some common activities that you can all agree upon (Disney movies, or go to a park). Give them limited choices so that will minimize some of the fighting. Then also fin one on one activities so that they can each develop a sense of independence and worth.
Above all, take time for oyurself. A hot bath, a magazine article, a manicure - are all good fixes for frazzled nerves.
2006-07-07 07:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by bxtrp97 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 15 and 8 and you would think that much age difference they wouldn't fight...but they do. I think is is normal. My b/f's are 3 and 6 and you put them all together and you really got chaos. Try separating them and making sure they have their own space and time, so they will appreciate each other more. As far as the bad habits....my kids were always...monkey see..monkey do....
2006-07-07 07:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's difficult. I think most children have that sibling rivalry of course, as far as positive ideas, maybe he needs some more playtime with boys his own age and she could have play dates with girls in her age group. I think he will do better if there is a little more of their own separate time to do their own age appropriate things with other children thier age. Maybe if you talk to him about how it makes you feel when they treat each other that way without making him feel guilty. Thats' really important. Reinforce positive behavior more than recognizing negative behavior. Hope it helps some. Good luck!
2006-07-07 07:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All kids are different. Some fight, and I think all siblings fight. As far as picking up the others bad habits, you have to break the bad habits, ASAP. Once one child see the other get away with something, that's it, they will do it too.
2006-07-07 07:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweetiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are doing the best you can with the children. i had 3 close in age and they always fought over every little thing. they will out grow it when they turn 18 or so...mine just use to hit each other all the time.. i just told them to take it outside .. keep up the good work it will take time but they will learn to get along mine did..now they are close young adults
2006-07-07 07:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know about this well my 2year old and 7 year old fight all the time I got them to calm down a little the older wants your attention and the younger needs your attention you just have to explain to the older child that he or she is bigger and they have to know that the younger sibling just wants to do what the older one wants and hopefully the older sibling will start listing to you more
2006-07-07 17:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will watch this one. My kids are girl 13 and boy 9.....still fighting since they were little bitty. Good luck to you! I think I am CRAZY!!! smiles.
2006-07-07 07:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by baseballmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they'll be annoying each other for a long time if they are like me passed 18 years old (its fun) theres really nothing you can do exept give them stuff for not hurting each other
2006-07-07 07:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋