What if you found out the person you were dating was cheating on you but after several months you all talked things through and both parties were interested in going out on dates again. Do you think it's a dumb idea?
2006-07-07 07:18:20 · 41 answers · asked by lil_miss_education 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know of many couples that have been unfaithful but try to give the relationship another chance. If your former flame only did it once, it may be salvagable, but take extreme caution and do not let your guard down for a second! It takes quite a bit of time for a person to regain trust, so don't give it to him/her right off the bat. Make them earn it! If cheating is a constant issue, then by all means, run while you still can! Sometimes people make mistakes and realize it after the deed has been done and are truly sorry for their actions. There are also people in the world that make these same mistakes, yet make them w/ no regards to the consequences. Take it slow and be on your guard. Hopefully, things will work out for the best! Good luck!
2006-07-07 07:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to seek more information on why he has cheated on you, if he cheated on you for some 'good reason' which is unlikely because cheating itself no matter what the reason is already bad enough. Even if he doesnt intentionally wanted to hurt you, theres still a big possibility he will do it again. So i dont think you wouldnt want getting hurt again especially because this person means so much to you, i advice you not to jump into this relationship again. Theres a saying that 'its sweeter the second time around' i dont think that applies to you, it would either stay bittersweet or just bitter. And the fact that your asking this question, it means that there are some doubts in your mind, and trust is a big factor in a relationship.
2006-07-07 07:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Haynaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't think it's dumb....give him another chance, it just might work this time. If you guys talked everything out and decided upon this then I think that is great. Just make sure that you don't end up in the same predicament as before, take a stand for yourself if you feel that he's being out of line.
Good Luck!
2006-07-07 07:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his presence worth being cheated on again. Sure you talked it out and its in the past, but what happens if his heart straves again. In the back of your mind that question will always be there. That's problem with people are cheated on.
2006-07-07 07:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if they cheated once before there is nothing there to stop you from thinking it could happen again. But if you know this already and decide to date this person again, you really can't get too upset if it does happen again because you already knew the consequences.
2006-07-07 07:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems they're more likely to take advantage of you because he thinks he can get away with it. If you do want to date, then just date. You need to have other options just in case you feel like you can't trust him and so you can move on. Don't become exclusive. Make him earn your trust back. You really need to have your guard up too. People can change, but it's up to them to prove it and not you to just give them the chance so easily.
2006-07-07 07:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look,everyone deserves a second chance.if this person is asking u again it probably means that he or she is more mature now and knows that cheating on u was a big mistake but don't make this second chance be a mistake either.u know this person more then i and only the sorry ones should be considered for a second chance,this person broke ur heart and there is no sorry for that...but give him or her a chance to earn it back.
2006-07-07 07:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by soccer_chick4333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has the potential to make mistakes. There is an old saying - "Fool me once shame on you" "Fool me twice shame on me". It is not "dumb to give someone another chance, just be careful and be realistic. If (and I hope it does not) happen again, I would definitley not take him back!
2006-07-07 07:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by ak517969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did and we have been togather for 5 years now. And I know he doesnt cheat. It all depends on the person and if u are willing to take a chance.
2006-07-07 07:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is. Once a cheat is always a cheat. My track coach used to say never take prisoners; meaning once you leave something behind, leave it, don't go back and don't wait for it. I suggest you start dating other people and forget him. He had his chance and he blew it. Forgive, forget, and move on.
2006-07-07 07:25:04 · answer #10 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋