my boy's black/mexican and i'm white/columbian and alot of our friends think that it's weird because he's mostly black and i'm mostly white. should i be concerned???
2006-07-07 07:11:54 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and he's not really my boyfriend. he's more like a closer than friend, but not quite boyfriend, but everyone thinks and say that we're a couple. and he doesn't deny it when people say it so i don't bother denying it either. just to straighten that out.
2006-07-07 08:57:50 · update #1
You shouldn't be worried at all! People who think that one race should date and marry their own "kind" are racists! We are all adult human beings and are free to do whatever makes us feel comfortable. As long as you're happy, screw what other people think!
2006-07-07 07:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jookemgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we are all mixed if you take history into consideration. I look white, my hubby is black and we have 3 beautiful children. Most people don't even seem to think anything about it, yet there are some that give dirty looks and the like. The color of ones skin is just that, it is who the person is and what kind of person they are as to what matters. If you and your boy like or love each other, don't worry about what any one else thinks. As far as ya'lls friends that think it is weird, maybe you two should really look at those friendships, because if they are true friends that care about you/him/both of ya'll, then they would not think it is weird.... they would just be happy that the two of ya'll are happy being with each other.
2006-07-07 07:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend should sit down and understand many people have hang ups about interracial dating. There will be times when people will look and point. Some may be so dumb, they'll open their mouths and utter strange things. Others will stare because they wish they had the guts to be true to their hearts. In any case, you both have to be on the same page. As in any relationship, there will be challenges. You don't need any headaches from those who are rascally ignorant. Trust, I've been in the very same plight.
2006-07-07 07:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a concern. I'm Caucasian, my wife is Hispanic, we've been very happily married for over 30 years with a 29 year old daughter and 27 year old son.
Ethnicity is irrelevant, either you are married to the wrong person or you're not.
All of us know hundreds of Caucasians married to other Caucasians which end in divorce. The same with Latinos, Vietnamese, African-American, and on and on and on.
If you're in love, it can work.
Best of luck,
It has worked for me for 30 years.
2006-07-07 07:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by finewalnut9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should only be concerned if YOU have a problem with it. Not sure what they think is "weird" about it, but it isn't any of their business anyway. If your FAMILY has a problem with it, that may or may not be a different story. Only YOU can decide for yourself how much control you are going to give other people over YOUR decisions. I sure as hell wouldn't be concerned about other people's problem with the color scheme.
2006-07-07 07:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problems with it at all. The only problem (I wouldn't even call it a problem) I see is washing out your race... I do not care what people do... but eventually there will be no white people. (that will be kinda funny and ironic actually) Blonde hair and blue eyes will be eliminated sense they are not dominating traits. . which I guess isn't a bad thing...
*shrugs*
As long as y'all are happy... just be happy. Don't worry about anyone else.
2006-07-07 07:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Race should not matter at all. What if it is true that each of us has only one soulmate? What if that soulmate is someone of a different race? Does that mean that we should sacrifice that person, sacrifice what we rightfully deserve, in order to follow what our society dictates?
You should not be concerned about your relationship with your boyfriend, and instead be concerned about the fact that you have allowed close-minded people to infiltrate your life.
2006-07-07 07:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The questions should be, does he love me, do I love him. If the answer is yes, than that is what matters. There are always people who feel interracial is bad, but in reality it's the only way we are going to get rid of racism, when we are all one big mess and can no longer figure out what nationality we are.
2006-07-07 07:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by natex14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same as any other relationship, I'm white and my boyfriend is Korean, he is the nicest person in the world and makes' me the happiest.
Screw them(your friends)do what make's the two of you happy :)
2006-07-07 07:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by tamilynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not, there is nothing wrong with being being an interacial relationship. I am currently in one I am hispanic and my gf is philipine and indian. If u have no problem with it then neither should ur friends. I mean come on its da year 2006!!!
2006-07-07 07:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by cubbiesfan_1206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋