My fiance and I have decided to change our lives and be born again. We are now both living for GOD, (a saved life) I know when you convert your life to Christ you're supposed to follow the 10 commandments. One being thall shall not fornicate!!!! It is so hard for the both of us, everytime we slip up we both feel guilty and there we are again praying to GOD for forgiveness. We don't live together, and we always say what we must stop doing in order for this to stop but we won't follow what we say we must do. We're not getting married until a year from now, I just don't want to keep letting GOD down. Please Give Us Some Advice...
No disrespect but please only believers respond, as this is a serious matter!!!
2006-07-07 07:03:00 · 13 answers · asked by me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
To err is human, to forgive is divine. Just be sincere with God and you'll be OK.
2006-07-07 07:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there was some sort of easy answer for this, but unfortunately, I'm not sure that there is. In the end, to stop the cycle you and your fiance have gotten into, it is going to take discipline. The two of you are going to have to find a way to distance yourselves from the temptation. Though it is foolish to get rid of all alone time, sit down and think, "Are there particular times and places when the temptation strikes?" If so, try to get away from those for a while ("If your eye causes you to sin, it is better to take it out..."). Although I wish I had some sort of trick for getting through this, I've come to find that overcoming sin has less to do with "3 magic steps" and more to do with genuine desire to change and willingness to make the sacrifices to achieve that change. I pray for Christ's strength to help the two of you with your problem.
2006-07-07 07:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by Blake the Baptist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God cares about you and He cares about your fiance. He will never leave you nor forsake you. One thing you must remember is to get up as soon as you fall (ie. ask God to forgive you)
God knows our weaknesses and He cares when we are struggling with things that we want to stop but find it hard to. Pray and ask God to help you to remain faithful to Him until you and your fiance are joined in marriage. Ask Him for strength in your weaknesses (Paul said "When I am weak then I am strong" because God becomes our strength in weakness only if we ask and believe) Speak God's Word in your life (" My body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit" "I can do all things through Christ who Strengthens me") Also I know its hard but try and avoid being alone in your house of his. Meet out in the open and if you like look for a sister in Church you can trust or your Pastor's wife and ask her if you can be accountable to her. Also pray together for strength to stand as a couple when you meet.
God Bless you and don't give up. Be encouraged God is on your side.
2006-07-07 07:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the word of God more, and ask God to help you in this matter - We can never control our emotions/behaviors with our own powers - but w/ the power of God anything is possible. Just remember that Jesus loves you and He knows how it feels when you are tempted. He was also tempted by Satan. Just ask God for strength and power and concentrate on the Word of God.
2006-07-07 07:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by chi_twnchica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let God down with your hang ups. God doesn't get into the ways of living...He only expects some moral, spiritual attitude. The rest is the window dressing of the church you follow....manmade rules.
2006-07-07 07:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by jmmevolve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can be perfect. Have you considered getting married legally by the JP, and then having the wedding whenever you planned it?
God will forgive you, even if you continue to sin. Your better option is my suggestion above.
2006-07-07 07:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get married soon. Then you won't be sinning. If it's the big expensive wedding ritual you're worried about you can always have the reception later.
2006-07-07 07:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isnt any commandment against agaisnt fornication just adultury if u r in love and plan on getting married its cool God wants u to go forth and prosper and that means spearding yuor seed
2006-07-07 07:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by truplaya9908 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time together in prayer and studying the word. Go through a spiritual renewal process. Read Your bible cover to cover
www.lifeway.com
www.family.org
2006-07-07 07:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jol Q and A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with eloping? If you're in it for a big wedding, that's one thing, but otherwise, think of the money you'll save, and the fact that you wouldn't be sinning anymore.
2006-07-07 07:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋