i have a male friend and we r very close.means we are best buddy.He said that he kindda likes me and he cares for me and .We go out together (only the two of us) to watch movies and dine.But the problem is that he already has a gf.and i began to develop a feeling for him.what should i do .Im getting nuts.dun wanna lose a good friend but i dun wanna get caught in the middle of him and his gf.
2006-07-07 07:01:07 · 6 answers · asked by LemOn 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Don't give up your friendship. Be there for him as a friend. Don't get involved in any way with him or the relationship between he and his girlfriend. You'll get the blame and possibly some resentment. The best thing you can do, is just ease into the background while he is in a relationship and be there for him if it doesn't work out. Then when he's available, if you still feel the same way and it's mutual, go for it. Don't go nuts. Just try to be patient. If it's meant to be it will happen. I know, my best friend for 18 years, is a guy and we've been through everything together.
2006-07-07 07:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by crazytxbartender 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of it you have known him a time,.... longer than his gf? What you should do is sometime when you guys are grabbin' a chili dog and if the timing is good and it feels right then just tell him you think you might be developing feelings for him. You could do it hypothetically, "What if you and I ever....."or " have you ever thought ...." Has you guys being an item ever come up before? From what I've personally seen and known the longest and best relationships and/or marriages have been between people who were friends to begin with. He's your very close friend, how could you not be honest with him.
Best wishes!
2006-07-07 07:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by funbucket1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problems like this are very difficult and i suffered from those myself so don't get worried & worked up about this. Let me tell you my story and tell you what happend.
March 3rd 2006, I, Nikki Scalia, went on AIM and I saw my friend Ryan was online, I have known Ryan since like 5th grade and we were best friends basically, I told him i liked him and he asked me out, later i discovered he wasnt the boyfriend i wanted so i dumped him and he went out with one of my best friends, later they broke up and we went out agian and he told me i was on his mind more than his gf at the time was and than we broke up agian after a nice relationship because i had to go to sleepaway camp and didnt want him involved in my summer romances and he went out with another girl and said when he was going out with me that this other girl was always on his mind. This got me so angry and it ende our friendship.
In this sence the moral of the story is if he is willing to cheat on his gf now he will cheat on you too. Like Ryan he always thought about me when he had a gf and when we finally went out he was thinking about other girls. Sl be careful and dont make the same mistake i did and let it ruin your friendship.
2006-07-07 07:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put some distance between you two. Ask yourself how you would feel if you were his gf. If his feelings for you are same as yours, let his realtionship(w/ gf) dissolve on its own. You don't want to be resposible for the break up.........
Karma is very real.
2006-07-07 07:06:34 · answer #4 · answered by T S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u and ur friend sit down and talk about u an him then talk about him and his gf friend.then explain to him that he already has a gurl friend and he is committed to he and u dont want him to be unfaithful to her because ahe has a little bit of feelings for u
2006-07-07 07:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by quaanie_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on fast if he will cheat on his gf now he will do it to you,save your heart for someone who can love you back.
2006-07-07 07:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋