She gave birth to our mostly healthy baby girl back in December 2 months prematurely. Towards the end of April of this year, my wife miscarried 3 months into her pregnancy. Come to find out, she is now pregnant once again.
What are the chances that she could miscarry or have this child prematurely again? (just so she and I can be ready for anything?)
2006-07-07 06:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We have talked to her gynecologist, but he can't seem to give us a straight answer.
2006-07-07 06:32:06 · update #1
I don't mean ready in the sense that I want to predict it. I mean ready in the sense that we can be as fully prepared for it as we can be, whether by talking about it with one another, or having things in order for a second child.
2006-07-07 06:36:44 · update #2
It seems as though she may be very likely to miscarry again.
Do you two consult with OB/GYN doctors before trying to conceive?
2006-07-07 06:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by casey_leftwich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the reasons for your wife's early labor, your chances may or may not be increased to go into premature labor again. If it has to do with incompetent cervix or something like that, it's likely that she'll have the same problem. Same with the miscarriage - it completely depends on the reason. Sometimes fetuses just don't develop right - sometimes it's an aberrant genetic issue and sometimes it's something more serious.
This is something you would have to speak with the doctor about. There are no guarantees of good or bad outcomes (and having experienced a miscarriage followed by a healthy pregnancy, I can assure you that even knowing the odds doesn't help alleviate the stress). I know women who have had 4 consecutive miscarriages followed by a 5th completely normal pregnancy and delivery.
Your doctor should have all the info about what caused your prior problems. Get a consultation quickly with him or her and discuss your fears soon. Best of luck and here's to a happy, healthy 9 months!
EDITED TO ADD: If your gyn isn't helping much, perhaps it's time to visit a different one. I would never stay with a doctor who couldn't at least reassure me somewhat. Communication is ALWAYS key. It's okay to talk about your fears, but beware of letting that override your experience. I spent so much time worrying with my last daughter that I finally realized I wasn't enjoying the pregnancy. Only time allowed me to let go and enjoy what I was given. I realized that no amount of planning, talking or expecting was going to change whatever was going to happen.
There really is no "answer" for you here. If you don't know the details of why things happened (ie, what caused the miscarriage and the premature labor), then there's really nothing that can be done to give you an idea of whether it will happen again. Given that, the best you can do is be supportive of each other and talk when you need to.
2006-07-07 06:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends. I can't tell you the chances of miscarriage because some people never have them, some people only have one and some people can have alot. My sister in law has had three in a row. As far as a premature baby again, I guess it depends on why the baby was born premature. I have an aunt that had one baby 8 weeks prematurely and the other baby was 4 days late. It just depends, you should talk to her Dr.
2006-07-07 06:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by jj02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having a miscarriage is an omen of having another, espeically if you already have one healthy child. I was carrying twins, one miscarried but the other lived. I currenly have three healthy children and no more miscarriages since then.
I think everyone I know with kids has miscarried once. Most of my friends have 3-4 children and one miscarriage. All of them have had a healthy pregnancy since their miscarriage.
2006-07-07 06:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Call me AL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriages are always difficult to handle, I miscarried twice and lost three babies so I know how it feels. I did have two healthy children though so a little advice for your significant other is rest and try to keep stress at bay. Having pregnancies so close to each other aren't good for her body to heal so added relaxation always helps.
)o( Goddess Bless )o(
2006-07-07 06:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by alone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One miscarriage does not indicate that it will become a problem. I have four kids and two miscarriages. One of my four kids was born early as well. I would not stress it too much, I know that is hard to say. Unless you have two or more miscarriages in a row there should be nothing to worry about. Congratulations and good luck.
2006-07-07 06:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by dncssqrls2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarrage my first pregnacy and now i have to beautiful kids. But my children were also premature. SWo i think the chances of micarrage is slim ti none, but i also think that this one could be premature. Just tell her to relax. And rest as much as possible.everything will be fine.
2006-07-07 06:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage six months after having my first and the doctors told me that it was my body letting me know that i wasn't ready to go through the trauma again. You never know what is going to happen just trust in God. Good luck!!
2006-07-07 06:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by rachael s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anythin' is possible. I don't believe in chance or fate.
2006-07-07 06:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by tom_mayfair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋