What is some simple ways a person can improve their self-esteem?

Answer 1

I don't know how simple these will seem (maybe *too* simple), but I fully believe in them...

Be kind to yourself. Avoid saying things like "that was stupid" or "I can't do anything right." In fact, replace those kinds of statements with positive ones, even if you don't totally believe them right away..."I can do this," "I'm a good person," "I'm a pretty smart cookie," etc. If you have a momentary slip-up (like we all do), don't let a *negative* chain reaction start. Just laugh to yourself and start again with the positives. You can even add, "Hey, I switched from negative to positive--THAT'S a positive!," and the tide can turn in seconds.

Be kind to others. Say things that make them feel good, and do things that help them. Don't take this to the extent of being a doormat, which will have a *reverse* effect on your self-esteem. You can say nice things to strangers, or to people who treat others with respect and consideration; but avoid "kissing up" with kindness just to get it back from them, or to win their approval. This doesn't work, in the long run, just makes you feel worse.

Command respect from others. If your thoughts or feelings are being ignored, despite your efforts to be heard, discontinue with that person or group for a while, at least until you learn how to be direct in expressing what you want, and the anger, hurt or fear you feel. Continuing to try with someone who doesn't respect your feelings and thoughts will lowere your *self* respect, because a part of you knows you're treating yourself badly. Do not take abuse.

Learn and practice assertiveness. If you're so inclined, you can see a post of mine from just a day or so ago which gets into more about that. Some of these points overlap, and are made there, too.

Make a list of traits you admire in yourself -- and don't let the voices of others come into play, here; use your own judgement, no matter how foreign that may feel. If you approve of your intelligence, your consideration of others, your appearance, your skill for writing a poem or singing, your choice of clothes or your ability to predict the weather!... whatever... list it. It sometimes helps to see it spelled out. You can also make a list of things you've done to make others' lives better, whether it was holding the door for an old lady with groceries or donating to a charity.

Trust that you were *born* with the right to have your own feelings, your own opinions...dreams, wishes, viewpoints, desires, interests, etc. Be respectful of others', but never forget you don't have to think like anyone else, any more than you demand others to think like you.

Know that you may be carrying with you the beliefs (or even just the words) you heard your parents or an adult say in your early childhood. These words may have less to do with you than you realize. Even if you have a clear memory of some authority figure saying something negative about you, that's likely more a reflection of their own insecurities or disappointments with life than having any real bearing on you.

Likewise with the present... Remember that when others speak ill of you or pick on you, it's usually a sign of deep insecurity within them... not a sign that there's anything wrong with you.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 2

DO things that make you feel good about yourself and avoid things that make you feel badly about yourself.
Some ideas are:
1. Tell the truth, even when it's hard.
2. Make a point of always doing what you say you will do, no matter how small a thing it is.
3. Don't steal, ever, no matter how small a thing it is, and even if no one would ever know it was you. YOU would know.
4. Don't speak badly of another person, or people, even if they have of you. When in a group and others are doing it, change the subject to something more positive.
5. Don't cheat on your mate once you have sworn fidelity, even if your mate cheats on you.
6. Never take credit for something you haven't done.
7. Keep your own counsel and select your own goals.

Answer 3

Start by doing little things that help you feel better about yourself then work up. Pretty soon you will have better self esteem. Remember, we are all ppl too so you arent the little person out there. Individuals with out own issued not unlike yours. Be well!

Answer 4

No one is worthless. I feel like you are afraid of being unsuccessful. Everyone has issues, no one should envy anyone else because everyone has stuff going on in their lives. Human's need each other. You definitely need to get involved and feel like you can influence someone's life because everyone does whether they know it or not. I would suggest seeing a therapist, I do and it helps sort out feelings that are interfering with your life. People are beautiful, you need to embrace yourself and others. Try finding one thing that you are proud of in yourself everyday. It could be as simple as congratulating yourself to getting out of bed in the morning. Soon you will be accustomed to appreciating yourself more and more. And whenever you look in a mirror look at yourself and smile. Hope that helps.

Answer 5

What i do is keep God first. then in the morning i repeat to my self my name, my most best thing on my body for example my lips and then repeat one thing inside of me that i like example, " i love my humor" say that 5 times each time before you walk out the door. Every day or even every week change up the different things you like about your self inside and out to repeat to yourself. Another thing that i do is don't compare myself to any one. Not to a Superstar or the girl around the corner. every girl and guy is different Haley Berry is pretty but so is India Arie too some people their both different looks and styles that people can love and expect because they remember that no one wakes up looking like a Super model. It takes time to gain self esteem but with practice and prayer you can do it love yourself cause only God and yourself can you truly count on He ( God ) made you and he makes beautiful trees, mountains, and flowers. why would he mess up on you? you have to remember, " Your the star that shines inside and out" hope that helps

Love, Just trying06

Answer 6

Take care of yourself. If you shower once a week, your skin is spotty and greasy, your hair is messed up and tangly, and this is the fourth day you've worn your baggy ripped gray sweatpants, you're not going to feel very good about yourself. Pay attention to yourself, and reward yourself, tell yourself you're beautiful. If you get a bad grade, vow to study more. There's always something you can do. Good luck!

Answer 7

hmmm... you have to figure out first whats causing your low self esteem... why do you feel inferior? and from there, work on either changing it or trying to accept it, and then go from there... i think acceptance is the key... it won't happen overnight, but changing your mentality about things can improve may aspects that may be causing your low self esteem. i hope that helps...

Answer 8

Make a list of what it is you don't like about yourself and then a list of everything you do like. Make this list in big bold letters and read them every morning. Then make efforts to eliminate items on the negative list and add to the positive list, but remember it won't happen overnite. The first you need to do is allow yourself to become the person you want to be, but always be true to yourself.

Answer 9

Find Motivation and Dedication to improve on the things that you feel low about. IF you have Motivation and Dedication you will be Committed on making all the necessary changes if changes are needed.

Answer 10

make a list and keep it where you can see everyday of all the positive traits you have, like what are the compliments you usually get from friends and family, could be your beauty like great hair, beautiful eyes, your sense of humor, how smart are you, are a quick learner, do you have a lot of friends, are you good at anything in particular, do you often make people laugh, just remind yourself of the great things you got going on, look deep down im sure you have great qualities