He pay chil support but he dont want to see them are help me with they. My child got molested and he still dont care we go to court on the 19th of july and is child support what i tell them
2006-07-07 05:53:59 · 18 answers · asked by lashundria s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This guy sounds like a loser. Take his child support money and be glad he doesn't want to be involved with your kids. His nasty ways could have a negative impact on your children if they have to come face-to-face with this man on a regular basis. Raise and love your kids the best you can by yourself and be a positive example. When they become adults they will realize the sacrifices you made for them and be proud of you for it. :)
2006-07-07 06:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by carmilysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about what happen to your child. Unfortunatley the court can't make him visit the child. As long as he is paying child support that is all the court cares about. One day this man will grow a concious and he will realize the mistakes he made with his children. If not the God have mercy on his soul. All you can do is pray for him and your situation. I hope this helps. Sorry you are going through this. Oh yeah on more thing. Make sure you are making a positive enviornment for him to come see the child. He the two of you are always having negative words with each other, then you need be the bigger person and stop. Just for your childrens sake.
2006-07-07 06:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are suffering and need support from someone other than your children's bio-father. Is there any way you can get yourself to a church nearby and talk to someone? You really need to find someone who can be there for you, through everything you are going through. You don't explain whether court is for the molestation or for the child custody situation, but if custody is what you are going for, I would just be happy he is paying child support and make certain you let the court know he does not take any initiative in having any time with those children at all. They need to know that, not only for visitation orders but also for making the final child support orders. If he spends no time with them, his child support will be higher than if he spent say 50% of the time with them. So, be sure and mention it. Best wishes, prayers and blessings!
2006-07-07 06:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN U REALIZE THE OTHER PARENT DONT CARE ABOUT your and his child, THEN U must step forward to care and provide and to support and protect this child on your own. some ppl r like that, they have a child and only pay child support and neglect the child in every other area. Since u realize this, u must step forward as the stronger parent and ensure ur child has u to depend on, whether it be for money, love, comfort, etc. ur child being molested then u need to get help for that to ensure ur child is ok psychologically and stuff. if the kids dad does not care u cant change that. u recognize that he dont care so u should step forward as the big person and the strong parent and help protect ur child. screw him if he dont care, at least hes paying child support.
2006-07-07 05:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate_cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let it go. You can't force someone to be a parent! If he is keeping up with his legal obligations (child support) there is nothing else you can legally do.
On a personal note, I have met many parents that are not fit to parent. Your kids are better off without them! Plenty of great kids grow up without a father.
Adjust your life as if he simply does not exist. Tell your kids he is an FBI agent away on assignment. Role models are important! You don't want your kids growing up thinking he is a scumbag even though he very well maybe.
Some day maybe he will grow up himself and change his view on things, until then, he is no longer a part of your life. LET IT GO!
2006-07-07 06:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by achurin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell the court the truth about the way that he is acting. My daughter's father is the same way. he pays child support but never sees her and this is the way that is has been for about 4 years now. You should simply not talk about the absent parent unless your child brings it up. You can force him to come and see the child, so treat him the same way that he is treating that child.
2006-07-07 05:58:08 · answer #6 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there's nothing you can do to MAKE him want to be a dad... Just try to do what's best for your kids and when you go to court take the guy to the cleaners!!!
(And maybe use some of that child support money to take an english class or two...)
2006-07-07 05:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say as long as he pays child support leave it at that. If he doesn't care enough to be part of the kids lives then the kids don't need him around. I know its hard, i'm a single parent, but your kids will be better off without him if he doesn't care for them.
2006-07-07 05:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father molested your children? If you go to court and mention that and win the case, you'll not only get possibly more child support, but the father won't be able to see them again.
2006-07-07 05:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by absolut_sicilian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't a good parent. Get your child as far away from him as possible. If your child knows that his father is rejecting him, he might never get over it. Just try to raise him on your own and do the best job. Still get child support, but he owes you at least that much. Good Luck.
2006-07-07 05:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Vero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋