dating someone with a kid and its not clear if they have seperated with the husband .wat do ido to find out?

Answer 1

Just Ask...they will probably deny but you know that it's baby mamma drama from the start. They will always have to communicate somehow. Unless otherwise. But still if you want to be serious with this person, communication is key. And if they lie, then you have no reason to be with someone who thinks your not good enough to be honest with. It's just so disrespectful and how can you build trust on that?? Now, if they are still involved, the question is, what are you gonna do? Stay with this person? I wouldnt only because I would probably feel on the rebound and grossed out. Are you ready to complicate your life? I mean you are already having doubts about this relationship. And if so, you do know that it's a risk your willing to take on something that might be a waste of valuable time you could have spent dedicating time to other things or even someone else. Just think about it. Good Luck with that. My blessings to you.

Answer 2

When you figure this one out please let me know, because I know of a similar situtation in which the woman has moved her new boyfriend in but the husband seems to be always in the picture. Either on the phone, going over to the house and the excuse is its for the childs sake. I told the guy he's being used but he's deeply in love with this girl.

My advise was to ask the question if divorce is in the future and if so how about seperation papers to try and make sure things are in black and white. If she is not willing to do the papers then move on - she is just using you when your around and God's know what else is going on with the hubby.

Answer 3

My advise, just ask. Bring it up in a conversation whenever she talks about the kids, just simply ask if there dad is around or not. Obviously she has interest in you if you are dating so if it continues, I'm sure she will tell you when the time is right and if you cared about her, you wouldnt really press it too much becaus eit may be a sensitive subject, but the best way to find out an answer to a question, is to simply just ask. Good Luck

Answer 4

i would ask the person straight out what their intentions are whether they are going to separate and divorce or if the separation is just temporary then you can make your decision from there as to whether or not you will/want to date the person. Also dating someone with a child(children) is a big decision not to be taken lightly because if you decide to continue seeing this person on a regular basis you will also be seeing the child and i know from expirience that children can get attached easily to you
(that is how me and hubby got together)

Answer 5

Just ask. There's no need to sneak around. If you feel the need to sneak around then I suggest you reevaluate your relationship with this guy.

Also, if he's only separated and not divorced, he's still married and can go back to his wife at any time. You may want to keep that in mind.

Answer 6

The next time that this doubt is brought to mind in spending time with this person ask them. But do it as a response to what ever was said or done that brings this doubt to mind. Explain your reasoning as well. But do it with the idea that you value the relationship not that you think that they are lying to you.

Answer 7

Already mistrusting and being sneeky, huh? That's not what you build a relationship on. BTW, the separation papers are filed with the court and is public domain.

Answer 8

I would start by asking them. This is a tricky situation, and you need to make sure you are doing the right thing, and that you be blindsided in the future.

Answer 9

Just hang around for a while. If they have a spouse sooner or later that spouse will beat the crap out of you if they are not separated.

Answer 10

If you have to ask, turn around and leave.
A relationship without trust is nothing.