i just met this guy and he is really nice and people say that he has a rep 4 bing nice and well he is soon to be 18 and i just turen 13 in April and last night we were txting and i said "Wwweellll.....i like ur gote and da fact dat u play football and ur hair u r nice and yah"
then he said that he said his mom maid him shave his gote off for his senior pics and that he usually dosent get that kinda complaments and i asked him what he liked about me and this is what he said "Well lets see u have a nice hour glass figure with a nice set of **** and a** for ur age nice sence of humor and personality" and now if my mom found that out she would kill me and mostly bcuz 2 years is the cut off for older guys and now i have no clue as what to say or act around him the next time i see him
~!PLEEZ HELP ME!~
2006-07-07 05:20:57 · 72 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were your mom I would kill HIM!! Keep messing around and you are going to find yourself getting in trouble. A boy that age has no business saying what he said to you. That is not only nasty, but proves that he is only looking for one thing, I don't care WHAT kind of reputation he has. Anyone can have a good rep as long as they are not caught doing bad things. I'm sure that you are too smart of a girl to be dealing with such as this. I promise you, I was 17 once and there is no reason that a NORMAL 17 year old boy would be telling things like that to a 13 year old girl unless he was buttering her up for a let down. Please get away from the jerk, and stick to your "2 year older" rule. Stay safe and take care!
2006-07-07 05:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was really nice, he would not have disrespected you by talking about your body that way. Someone nice does not do that when he is getting to know a girl.
Why would he be interested in a 13 year old when he is 17, unless he thinks he can control you more because you are so much younger.
This is coming from the Mom of a 13 year old girl with an hour glass figure, too. It is probably the same thing your mom would think.
Anyway, to answer your question, if you really like him and really, really are sure he is a nice guy, ask your mom to just meet him and judge for herself. Make sure your mom meets his parents, too, which will tell her something about his upbringing. Your mom will be able to gauge his sincerity and if he is too old for you.
I'm thinking he is, but maybe she will at least check him out.
2006-07-07 05:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sondra B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 13 years old. The last thing that you need to be thinking about is guys trust me i know. When I was 13, I dated a guy 4 years older than me because I thought it was so cool that he was interested in me. Well, i'll tell you one thing, when a guy after a girl that much younger than him, he's after only one thing. Sex. I learned the hard way. You don't have to. Don't lead him on that your interested. Just stay friends with him. Nothing more. The last thing you need right now is getting pregnant, or a broken heart. Trust your mom, she knows what she's talking about.
2006-07-07 05:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey. I'm 22, and I not to say that I'm oh so old or anything but there are some things that you don't realize at thirteen that you will when you get a little older. That boy is a pervert. He's four years older than you, and at such a young age already. Would you wanna date a 9 year old boy? What kind of person would you have to be to want to do that? Think about it. All he wants to do is take advantage of you, maybe get in your pants (it he hasn't already). He probably has a real girlfriend somewhere else. Don't degrade yourself like that, hon. Being stupid when it comes to boys is so played out. Grown up and deal with boys closer to your age.
2006-07-07 07:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to be careful here. While he may very well be a great guy, it does consern me that he was a bit sexual with his comments to you. You were the one that started the conversation and what you said about him was nice and complimentary, but just friendly. His comments about you were not. I would take it slowly and get to know him. If he's a great guy, you'll find this out soon enough. But I would be really conserned that while you are looking for the great guy in him, he's just looking at a nice body and t & a from you. Seventeen year old guys are not known for their level of maturity, so keep this in mind. And while a five year age difference is no big deal in a few more years, it is for you right now.
If this were me, I would probably back off from him a bit, or tell him (or get a mutual friend to tell him) that while I was flattered, there's more to me than my body, and I don't want to be viewed as only that. Try to keep it light and try to act normal around him, he does like your sense of humour so use it.
As for you mom, you are not dating this guy. He's nothing more than a friend. If after getting to know him, you decide that you do like him, and that he isn't using you for what you are, but likes you for who you are, you need to tell you mom. She'll appriciate your honesty, and whatever happens, it's so much better than trying to hide something. If you snuck around and she found out, you could end up in a world of trouble.
I hope this is a bit helpful. Always welcome to email me. :o)
2006-07-07 05:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really gross. I thought you said that he is a nice guy? If he was a nice guy he would NEVER talk to you that way. That's discusting and you should not hang out with older guys that talk to you like that. If he liked YOU then he wouldn't be talking about your body at all. If he still talks like that to you when he turns 18 then he should be in jail. That's a felony that would put him on the sex offender registery for LIFE. If you want to ruin this guys life and your own, then I guess do whatever you want. Your mother is right though, but I can't believe at 13 you are even alloud to date anyone, let alone older.
It's rediculous to me that at 13 you are even alloud to have a freaking cell phone that gives perverts and mollesters the chance to talk to you this way. There is absolutly no need for you to have a cell phone. If it is so that your mother feels that you are safe or something, than she should be the only one with the number. It's not a toy and talking to people like that is not a game. Letting things like that happen to you is going to end up getting you raped or something.
Please think about what you are doing and put this grown up issues the side until you ARE grown up.
2006-07-07 05:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel and an older guy is way cooler than the freaks of your own age.
He also might be experienced and a good choice for a first serious friend.
I do understand.
But you are just too young for now.
Wait at least one or even better 2 more years before getting serious.
You want to have a good time, dont you?
And your mom and other people (like the police) will spoil all the fun you could have.. so be a smart gal, keep it at flirting level and make your choice when you are really ready and the time is right!
2006-07-07 05:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your room!
Just kidding. Mmmm. Looking at the ages, it is only four years difference. But still. your 13? Hes graduating high school and going to college...Do you know how many other girls are out there that are gonna put out and give him their attention. Let's see here...In his mind he's probably thinking "Should I go for the 13 year old chik who has a nice figure, but is probably still a virgin and doesnt even have a license? Or should I go for the chik with a car, more developed and will probably put out much quiker and can help me with calculus?" Hmmm hate to say it but its the truth girly. Your way too young and he is a guy you know. Now, he may like you but all that will change later. trust me. Plus, your too young to experience all these types of emotions. Jesus, why cant you just stick to boys your age. You'll understand them better. You guys are playing in two different leagues. If you try to grow up to quickly, you'll regret you missed your childhood. Be a smart girl, let it go....Stay safe.
"Better safe than sorry."
Good Luck...Blessings to you child.
2006-07-07 05:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Cloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's my advice to you.
Spend less time with the boys and more time with the books. You can't spell, your grammar is atrocious and your punctuation needs quite a lot of work. Also, you're 13, go and play with some dolls. You've got a whole life to worry about relationships. Now is not the time.
2006-07-07 05:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this is not appropriate. He is way too old for you. A 17 yr old boy does not need to be saying those things to a 13 yr old. I realize it's probably exciting to have an older boy interested in you but he's interested for the wrong reasons. This guy is so wrong for you. Trust your mother, remember, she was young once, and she knows the deal.
2006-07-07 05:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋