my brothers and i fight all the time?

Question

I'm 16 and im also the younger of 3 brothers in my family, we all males, and we live with my mom. We fight almost every single day, My oldest brother really doesn't get involve when i fight my older brother, he just stand there and watch. My older brother think he is my dad, and if i don't do what he wants, he will start yelling at me, and some times we get into a fist fight . . . . My oldest brother is 19 nd the older is 17. My grandmother told me to ignore my brothers, everytime they say something stupid or an "order" of them, only if it is for something they can do; i try to do it but it only make it worse . . . my mom works Monday to Saturday, and on Sunday we are not home, so she doesn't really know we fight that much . . . what can i do to stop it?

Answer 1

first, tell your mother what's happening.
luckily, you will all grow up..
i got along with older sister when i was little, but not my middle sister - though we were close in age.
today, all three of us are real close..
give it time
and,. yes, ignore them...hopefully, they will GROW UP into MEN soon.

Answer 2

there is nothing you can really do...this is called sibling rivalry and is very common in all households. you being the youngest are probably going to get the worst of it. if you have a problem you should try to have your family sit down and discuss it. before you do this you should make rules for listening...such as no interrupting, no physical fights, and wait your turn to speak your opinion. you can also use active listening skills to resolve your problems. so say your brother explains what he wants like"you are so lazy and never do any work around here" you should reply "correct me if i am wrong but aren't you saying that you feel i could help out a little more around the house?" this creates a calm atmosphere and allows for clear brainstorming to the solving of problems. what you are experiencing is very normal in families that have been affected by working parents or divorce, separation, death, etc. Everything will go a lot smoother in your family if you all voice your opinions in a calm manner and come to a comprimising solution. i know this may seem crazy but it really is effective. good luck :-)

Answer 3

i'd attempt to do what your grandma says. i know its hard but hey, i'm a 16 year old with an 18 year old brother that thinks he's king. he even tries to boss my mom around! he's always pushed me around and we've always fought. i've broken his nose countless times and he's gotten me in my sleep a lot. it took me all the time up to the beginning of the school year to figure it out. its best to ignore him...yeah, he can boss you around a lot, maybe even beat you senseless. be smarter than him. show him that the only way he'll get stuff done through you is respect. of course you have to defend yourself but manily, just try to stay away from any situation where you think he's going to hit you. second, dont talk back. that's pretty self explanitory. odds are if you show him some respect and do a few favors for him, he'll leave you alone. and talk to the oldest brother. he's an adult now and is basicly the man of the house. he should have the responsibility to keep the two of you in line and sort out the problems. you guys got to just work together.

Answer 4

Start talking to your mom and tell her to be a mother and get the stuff to stop because you are tired of getting into fight..Also it sounds like to me your brother has some kind of mental problem and you are the only one that realize fighting does not solve it all..So, next time walk away and tell them you are better than them..Good Luck

Answer 5

Well, first mention it to your mother, so at least she knows it is happening.

Secondly, it sounds like they are trying to get a reaction from you and each other. I know it's hard, but if you just say 'whatever' (even if you know you are right) and walk away, you will be taking the fun out of it for them and they may eventually stop. The nineteen-year-old needs to get a job and his own place if he wants to be the head of the house.

Answer 6

Become the great little peacemaker-here is a prayer i got off Beliefnet.com hope it helps you MAKE ME AN INSTRUMENT OF YOUR PEACE Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred,let me sow love, Where there is injury,pardon Where there is doubt, faith, Where there is despair, hope Where there is darkness, light, Where there is sadness, joy, Oh Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console, not so much to be understood as to understand, not so much be loved, as to love: for it is in giving that we receive, it is in pardoning that we are pardoned, it is in dying that we awake to eternal life.-St. Francis of Assisi Find this on Beliefnet.com--Prayers Make several copies and ask your nice grandmother to help you get this prayer framed and hang on your wall for all to read hope this helps you-who knows perhaps you will grow to be a great peacemaker for many years! Bless your heart! Love your Brothers and try to be kind to each other-your mother works so hard because she loves all of you -and your Grandmother is wise listen to her and do the best you can! I wish you Love Joy and Peace for all your life!

Answer 7

When you grow up , you will look back on this as memories and have a good laugh. You will love your brothers more for watching over you.
If they didn't love you , they would not bother.

Answer 8

Typical family

Answer 9

you should lay down the law with your brothers. Let them know what you expect out them as your brothers. Which should mostly be love & respect. If they love you they will respect your wishes.

Answer 10

It's completely normal to fight with your siblings. Trust me someday you will be the best of friends, nobody will ever have that history with you like they do.