I have a 2 year old who just turned 2 and i want to potty train her but she doesnt like sitting on the potty?

Question

She knows that she is sopose to potty but just refuses to sit on it and gives me a hard time and crys and throws a fit. I dont know how to get her to stop throwing a fit. She will sit on the potty at daycare but will no longer at home, it doesnt matter what i do. any suggestions

Answer 1

The same thing happened with my child. No matter how much I pushed it, he just wasn't interested. So, I dropped it for a couple weeks and didn't even mention the potty. Soon, he decided on his own that he was ready and did it no problem. The same with learning his letters, and using a spoon and fork and dressing himself.
It sounds like maybe your child has the same type of personality, where she just wants to have some say in the decision making process...which isn't a bad thing...it can build their self-esteem, even at that age.
Arguing and trying to force them just causes unnecessary stress for both of you.
Believe me, when this is past and you look back on it, you'll see that it was nothing to fret about.

Answer 2

Maybe ask your daycare provider to go over with you how they go about potty time. They may sing a song first, or do something special to make each child get excited about it.

When i worked at a daycare, the teachers would put some type of water coloring (maybe it was watered down paint) into the potty so they could pick what color their potty was each time ("I want a purple potty" etc). That got the children excited. Also, you can try taking your little one to the store with you to pick out a potty seat that she is comfortable with. I let my daughter pick one out and she picked disney princess. She loves to point out the flowers on it as shes sitting on the potty and it was resonably priced.

Whatever it is, just try to conform with how the daycare is approaching the situation and take it from there.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Make it a fun place -- put a small basket of books by the potty.

When you go potty, show her how to sit on it using one of her dolls.

Are you using a potty chair or are you sitting her on the regular toilet -- if so, do you have a toilet ring for her? Perhaps she has "fallen" into the big toilet and it scared her.

Maybe the flush is louder and scares her. When she does potty, make a big deal out of waving and telling the potty good bye as you flush.

Don't just stop her playing to take her to the potty -- give her a two minute warning -- "Honey, as soon as we finish coloring this picture, we need to try using the potty". My son needed the transition warning, he would throw a fit if I didn't. He is / was always so intense at what he was doing he didn't want to be disturbed.

Good luck and just have patience. You don't want to turn this into a power struggle.

Answer 4

Since she is giving you problems at home but not at daycare, ask the daycare provider what they do when the kids "go potty" and try to do the same thing at home. I found that my daughter was more willing to go potty at home when we switched from the free-standing potty to a potty seat that goes on the actual toilet. From what I understand, it is a very long process! We only have occasional successes, and are trying not to pressure her. If your daughter is crying and throwing a fit, maybe not try so hard at home. If you pressure her too much she will continue to fight using the potty. One other thought - do you have a rewards sticker chart for when she uses the potty? That might help.

Answer 5

I think you might be dealing with a stubborn child! First you need to make her understand that she is not the boss.

Then try to make it fun when she understands that things are not always going to go the way she wants. I bought a soft toilet seat that you set on top of the regular seat on the toilet that makes it more comfortable, and they are cute, too. They're called cushy-tushy and I got mine at Target. If kids start their learning on the real potty, it's easier than trying to switch later.

The main thing is be calm and tell her that it's time to go potty and don't give any options. If you start battling with her over something like this, you will have many more battles in the future.

Answer 6

I was going to suggest that you have her sit on it (with the lid closed of course) with her clothes on. Basically when she doesn't need to use it. Doctors suggest that you do that early on so they won't be scared of it. But if she uses it at daycare then she doesn't seem to be afraid of it.

My sister made it a game with my nephew. Every time he's use the potty he'd get a sticker (they sell books of them for teachers at wal-mart for like $1) and she'd read him a story out of a book that she got him.

after a week or two he was completely using the potty during the day. And then for at night she got him a special spiderman flashlight to use to get to the bathroom (it was connected to his bdrm). So he wouldn't be scared.

I'd take her to a store (if you haven't already) and let her pick out her own potty. Let her sit on it at the store and try different ones out. I've heard of people doing this and it working.

My daughter is only 14 months. I'm starting to prep her for going potty. In about 4 months I'm gonna take her to pick one out.

Answer 7

Try a different potty - if you are using a seat that fits on the regular toilet switch to a little potty seat, or vice versa.

Good Luck

Answer 8

yea....take her out of daycare and raise her yourself. She is fighting you to get as much of your attention as possible since she spents the majority of her time with strangers. If you want her to potty train then lay off of her and she'll do it when she is ready. Spend what little time you have with her doing quality things instead of fighting over a potty chair. She's too younge anyway....

Answer 9

She might not quite be ready yet. I would lay off for awhile, but leave the potty around to let her know it's there. Try again in a few weeks...but I wouldn't push if she's crying. That will probably only make her less likely to try it.

Answer 10

If a potty chair doesn't work try getting a seat for the real one. Give her something to do to keep her occupied. Play a game, keep her mind off of it. She is still young, don't freak out, it will come.


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