2006-07-07 05:07:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jade get rid of him if the man buys you flowers, he is sweet. If opens the car door for you he is a gentleman. If he has a dependable car, he is responsible. If he has a good job he is hardworking and disciplined, If has been on his current job for more than 2 years he is focused, if he calls you after the date and said he had a great time and do you think we can do it again some day he is comfortable with you. This is worth keeping... Just remember living together changes things sharing checking account's make it challenging and going on a long well planned road trip (only if u have a good cell phone and someone knows where your going and that you will stay in touch) a road trip is a great started to a long term commitment for the future... The theory here is if you can get a long real well dating, and think you would like to take it to the next level, than a car ride for about 6-8 hours you will inevitably start to really know one another. You need to make sure you are going to do something that you both like (activities)....im this is a real man:
2006-07-07 05:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your problem. First run, run like hell in the opposite direction. How do you know it is just chatting and why the alias?? Perhaps you won't find out.
I think instead of loving him, love yourself and unload his baggage from your shoulders. It is hard to let go but trust me on this, now 2 kids later, someone who thinks so little of you in the beginning will only get worse and continue to take you and your feelings for granted. If he was true to you, he would have no need to chat sexually or in any other way....he would be turning to you for attention.
I am sorry but I have seen this before and I know what you are going through. Think of yourself first . . . if you don't, no one will. Good luck!!
2006-07-07 05:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you stupid? Why stay with someone when they are unfaithful before marriage? Actually to be with someone outside of marriage is ****** too. How can anyone make a good decision about marriage when that person is engaged in a sex. Sex is intended for marriage, not for simple pleasure. Its dangerous and will ultimately give you a pregnancy(abortion/child) or a STD. You decide whats important to you. If simple unaccountable sex is what you want to give you boyfriends, then just do what feels good and they won't need to marry you because they are giving them what they want right now.
2006-07-07 05:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Ken C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get online under another alias and talk to him for a long time and see if he will meet you somewhere. Then , meet him and dump him. Don't worry though. he'll come running back sooooo sorry. This will work.
2006-07-07 05:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend that used to do that, her husband was at work, and she would chat with men & cyber all day long. She called herself a cyber slut. I think her husband even knew about it, and must have been ok with it. I think its just a form of cheating, and wrong. I think a lot of people do it, thinking its ok. If you are not ok with it, then you need to talk to him about it. If he wants to continue, you have to decide if you can live with that. Will it stop with sex chat on the computer thought? Its such a scuzzy thing to do.
2006-07-07 05:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first does he know tht you know? If not you can try to catch him in the act. That would be a good way to know if he is lyeing about it. The question should be is does he love you? If he does then try to make it work but lay down the law that it is not something you should have to put up with. Best of luck to you I know how hard it can be.
2006-07-07 05:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your heart telling you? I think it's silly that he has to resort to talking to some girls online rather than being with you physically. I think if you love him, you'll talk to him about it, tell him how you feel, and tell him that if he keeps it up, you're gone. I know it's easier said than done, so if you don't want to dump him right away, talk to him first, if you feel like he won't change, then unfortunately, it's time to move on.
2006-07-07 05:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't suppose to hurt. He is not worthy of your love if this is what he's doing? I would ask myself if this is all he's doing? He may have gone further than just chatting on-line. Do you really want to be with someone that doesn't respect you and cherish you for you?
2006-07-07 05:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by EllieMae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, first of all where is the trust, that goes with love. If he loved you he would be out there chatting on line with some one else anyway. So I would show him that I discovered his secret and leave him alone....
2006-07-07 05:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn him once, then dump him if he continues. You can find out if he is continuing by simply asking him. If he does ANYTHING other than a STRAIGHT OUT DENIAL to your question, he is lying. If you made a commitment of exclusivity with each other, then you both need tos tick to it. Otherwise, dunp him.
2006-07-07 05:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by newon_earth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋