We've been separated for 2 years. During this time, he is either in a rage and yelling at me or crying and threatening suicide (I was the one who initiated the separation). When he is threatening suicide, I say some things to him that pull him up because i'm so afraid that he will follow through with it, but that i regret later. He doesn't think he needs anymore help than he's getting, he feels that if we get back together, that will solve the problems. I don't agree with him but i don't really know what to do. Any ideas?
2006-07-07 04:57:30 · 27 answers · asked by pinebarrons1 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
call the police and have him put on cuiside watch
2006-07-07 08:08:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him facts. The relationship is not working and you and he have to move on. He is manipulative and irresponsible to continue to make such threats. The next time he threatens suicide: go to the telephone and report that someone is a danger to himself and possibly you; and to send the necessary medical and psychiatric team to help him. You never know if someone is serious about suicide or not. Do not let him control you, blame you or get you down. It is time you walked away by yourself and do not look back. You are the person to watch out for. Someone like him can take your life and his. So, Run! Don't walk. Have a great life!
2006-07-07 05:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by ladys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs intense counseling before he truly does harm himself. Most who threaten never go thru with it, they use it as a tool to keep the other person around. You may want to get some counseling for yourself to make sure that he's not keeping you as the victim here. If you've been separated that long, why are you putting up with this in the first place? Why are you saying things that you regret just to hush him? Both of you get help and you get away from him immediately, out of his life, before he destroys you, too.
2006-07-07 05:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by save_up_your_tears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT go back with him because of his suicide threats.. its a manipulative ploy to get you back
He is threatening... if he was serious he would NOT say a word and just do it
The next time he threatens..
call the police.. they will have him committed into a psych ward for at least 24 hours
when he gets out of hospital ..Dont talk to him, or have any contact with him until he gets psych help on a regular basis
2006-07-07 05:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that you can only do so much, he has to want help.You can ask him to go with you to a relationship counselor. But make sure the counselor knows that your intimate relationship ended and the friendship is unstable due to his suicidal behavior.He may go on the pretense that he thinks it will be to help your relationship together. The other option is for you to seek counseling to deal with this on your end. They will help you figure out your role in the situation if any and possibly how to detach and let him go. I know that if he ends up going through with this it will be one of the hardest things for you but in that event you should never blame yourself. His choices are not your choices you are two seperate people. I will pray for you and for him especially. I hope you are able to seek counseling together.
2006-07-07 05:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by missesbean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's training you. Every time he throws that threat at you, you give him exactly what he wants which is a sense of security, false or not, it doesn't matter how people obtain it as long as they get it. Some that want attention want it badly enough that they don't care if it's negative or positive, all they know is it's attention. Help him more by helping him less and telling him that he needs to seek help elsewhere, that you care about him, but it hurts you too bad to watch what he's doing to himself.
2006-07-07 05:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 16:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to him try to make him understand
this is what i would do: go out with him for a while till I get bored-j/k
ne way go out with him and make sure he understands that at the moment u have no feelings for him but don't be too harsh.
then maybe the time that ya'll are together u'll start to like him again and if after some time u feel certain that u don't feel nothing for him then dump him...in other words go out with him to give him a chance just cuz u feel sorry for him (no offense)
2006-07-07 05:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by erika P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you separated from him, you should have Separated from him. All you are doing is enabling him to carry on as he is. That's similar to drug addicts and those that continue to support such behavior - co-dependents. He needs the help and as long as you're there to help he will not. Cut him loose. Let him fend for himself, even if he tries suicide. He's the one that needs the help. And he needs to acknowledge that and get the help. It's his decision to make, not yours. The best thing you can do is to separate from him and his problems, for your own health.
2006-07-07 05:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Morphious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's manipulating you, or trying to. Don't let him do it. If he commits suicide, it is not your fault. It is unlikely that he will do so, but it's his decision.
You need to find a local support group or even an online group that will help you through this.
2006-07-07 05:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by thylawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to want to help himself. You are not responsible for his actions. It sounds like he is using this to blackmail you.
It is hard to say if it is an empty threat but you have a right to your life and if he does not want more or different help, it is his choice. Two years is a long time.
2006-07-07 05:01:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋