how can i be confident of myself?

Question

i often neglect things because i always think that others will see me strangely. how can i be more confident of myself next time?

Answer 1

Pat yourself on the back Buddy.

Answer 2

while hard to do because we value opinion so much, don't let others opinions of you weigh so much. i don't know how old you are but if you're an adult, then you haven't lived as long as you have without some idea of your abilities.

try this....think of times when you've done something (great or small) that YOU are truly happy with and proud of. remember how you felt after that accomplishment. hopefully you felt invigorated, vibrant, euphoric, and confident in your ability to overcome whatever the obstacle was. when you're feeling less than confident, remember those times and keep them at the forefront of your mind as a reminder that you are a confident person and regardless of what others opinions may be (in your favor or not) you can achieve, accomplish, fulfill.

so often we are our own worst enemy because we allow too many people and other outside influences to shape our being. just as another person has a thinking mind....so do you. think of yourself in the positive and stay there. just because a mistake is made or something doesn't turn out just right...see those as learning experiences. realize the error and move on...try it again. no harsh, self-defeating criticism.

Answer 3

Practice makes perfect! I tend to shy away from being the center of attention. I found that putting myself on "front street" (so to speak) as often as possible, even though I am embarrassed, seems to help. The more often I do this, The easier it gets. My brother owns and operates a martial arts business and i've seen quiet, timid individuals turn to melodramatic acting students. Maybe that would be an option for you. I think the true secret of confidence is...."I don't care what anyone else thinks". "Sing, as if no one is listening"...Dance, as if no one is watching." I hope this helped in some way. Good luck!

Answer 4

you know my husband says i need to be more confident as well....i would also like to know...but not too confident to wear you are cocky..i think you just have to go with it..i am starting to get it....i don't talk..very much but i take things into my own hands... and when i feel like i have achieved something i get a little hint of that confidence. you just have to not care what people think and be yourself...if you aren't yourself..you are being fake and thats not cool. It should help in knowing yourself .Don't hang around people that bring you down all the time...support helps as well.knowing you want something and you go after it....i feel thats what it's all about...but what the hell do i know. i would go into the modeling agencies and would be like damn look at all these other pretty girls...i don't have a chance but i stopped thinking that way..i thought hey they don't have what i got....i can do this....they don't have nothing on me and i was picked in the end....but i went in there wanting to turn back and give up and go for the exit.....but i didn't i also had support from my husband...which is always nice. i hope i helped. good luck on your journey in life. be confident! laugh, live and love.

Answer 5

To be confident you got to be yourself. Have a stand on your own self. Remember no one is perfect. Just be honest and sincere. And do your best. When you find that things are working you will get more confident. Even if things are not working, do not hesitate to try again cos' you never know how close the success will be.

But one more thing, over confident is also not good too.

Answer 6

You have to first become comfortable with yourself and forget about what other people are thinking. Take time out to figure out what's important to you..Always put yourself, your thoughts, and your feelings first, and everything else will start to fall into place. Stare in the mirror and tell yourself that you are smart, beautiful, etc. If you are confident in yourself and if you act, think, and feel confident then other around you will have no choice but to fall in line!!! Most importantly keep a positive attitude.

Answer 7

Wow, this is a tuff one..what exactly do you neglect? I don't know if you've ever heard this before, but you should repeat it over and over--"I would rather be loved for who I am than hated for who I am not" If someone is a true friend or worth caring this much about, then they will like/love you for who you are! Be yourself and only true relationships for present themselves.. You should have no need to neglect or change anything.

Answer 8

The best way to be confident in yourself is to be yourself, and maybe find 1 or 2 other people that share some of the same hobbies as you or can relate to you in some kind of form

Answer 9

You can think about it like this. There's not a definition of normal so everybody is a bit weird and trying to conform to everybody else's abnormalities. People look at you the way you look at yourself. If you feel self-conscious doing something, but you act confident and are doing your best to drive that confidence into what you're doing, people will probably look at you as having self-confidence, looking up to you in a way, and they'll wish they could have the same as you. I'm like you....Sometimes it's just hard to be confident in yourself, but I really to believe my advice works.

#1 RULE: DON'T ACT LIKE SOMEONE YOU'RE NOT...BE YOURSELF!

Answer 10

You have to let go. don't worry about what other people are thinking or if their starring at you. It really doesn't matter half the time anyway.
Or fake it. just act confident and after a little while you will be... or so I've heard. not so sure about that one.

Answer 11

it doesn't matter what others think, if you know what you can do, then do it..if not, all you have to do is practice until you feel confident enough that you can do it, then you'll know you are confident enough. I sometimes have the same problem...Never give up on what you believe in, ok? Never say never and don't say you can't because you can!!