My one year old has started biting his cousin...really hard almost breaking the skin. I have tried everything from biting him back(i couldnt do it very hard!!) to putting soap in his mouth. Also tried time out. Help!!
2006-07-07 04:35:08 · 26 answers · asked by armywife1105 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let the cousin bite him back. To let him know what he is doing to his cousin. "An eye for an eye."
2006-07-07 04:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Migity696 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bite back. It's only encouraging the negative behavior. I went through this with my 14 mo. old. I'd just tell her -No! that is not nice- and put her in time out in an empty playpen.
It works for everything from hissy fits to throwing food on the floor.
Make sure you put him in something thats only gonna be used for time outs. I've known people who used things like the crib or a high chair and then they associate those things with being in trouble and it creates a whole new problem when it's time to eat or go to bed.
One is a little young to comprehend this.. but when older it helps to get them to express that they are angry with words. Like my older daughter when around 4 I'd ask her - are you mad? - or - are you frustrated that you can't do that ? - and after a while instead of hitting or biting or throwing a fit she'd tell me - I'm angry at you - because she knew how to express herself. Did the same thing with my oldest, our boy. Sure it will help when they are adults as well.
Also, soap in the mouth has proven to be a bad idea. Soap has chemicals in it that can harm them. It also is almost guaranteed to cause diarhea. Tabasco sauce or something bitter like a lemon would be better. But if given to too young it could cause allergies. So I've heard anyways.
2006-07-07 14:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by lv82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't bite back! It only teaches him that biting is an OK solution to the problem.
When he bites, explain to him that biting is not acceptable, then put him on a time out, or otherwise suspend his activity. When the time out is over, ask him if he understands why it happened, and make him apologize.
It may take a little time, but eventually he'll get the message.
2006-07-07 11:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't do the biting back thing either.
TABASCO! I would put a drop on my finger and then rub on FRONT gums.Do not put finger in his mouth past the teeth.He bites!It hurts.It really didn't take long for him to quit.I also used it for backtalking and bad words.It doesn't do any harm and after reading an article about a kid dying from biting soap I never did that either.Who knew you could be allergic to it like that?
Good luck.
2006-07-07 11:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by cmeand3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter bit me once, I bit her back and explained how much it hurt mommy. She also used to pull my hair and not let go, so I pulled hers once at the same time and didn't let go til she did. Then I explained why that hurt mommy and that people don't like to be hurt. She is six and I have never had to worry about her hiting, biting, pulling hair, and she has never been in a time out in school and her teachers report that she is very considerate of the other children who get hurt or tries to stop fellow students that are hurting her friends. Sounds mean, but she really got how much it hurts!
2006-07-08 03:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to affect every toddler since the beginning of time. Wait it out. Be persistent. Remember, you child is smart but has to learn to control an overwhelming natural instinct to bite(helps to develop strong jaw muscles). Keeping his/her mouth busy will probably work better than pavlovian response. Can you invent a short "No-biting" song, and get your toddler to sing it? it will be impossible to bite while singing and may be fun enough to work more than once. Good luck and keep at it.
2006-07-07 11:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Colin H, Unrestricted commercial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say keep going with the biting back. tell him before you do it that it's naughty and it hurts then tell him you'll show him... that's what i did with my 2 1/2 yr old when she was younger... It took a little but eventually it works.... You have to become more hard headed than they are.
2006-07-07 12:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle LL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite back.
This is not so much about repercussion it is more about teaching that biting hurts. You will notice the surprise. Explain that that is not nice. He will understand.
I always have wondered if it was the pain or the fact I bit back that was the surprise. Worked every time though.
2006-07-07 11:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You spank him and look him in the eye and say "We DON'T bite". EVERY time. The problem with him making it a habit is that now it will be hard to make him stop. That's why, every time, he gets the same response from you.
2006-07-07 13:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by MamaMia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he knows what it feels like to be bitten in the same manner as what he does, this will probably be a problem for some time. Could try flicking his lips. Fortunately for me, both of my kids did not stay in that phase vary long. As with time it will pass just not soon enough for you or his cousin!
2006-07-07 11:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by shaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋