If your kid came up to you and asked you a sex question, how would you react?

Question

If your 9 year old came up to you and said, what's a vagina? How would you react and what would you say?

Answer 1

My reaction would be shocked to know he/she even heard of a vagina at that age....and if its my daughter..i'll try and explain it the best way possible in terms for her to understand..if its my son, i'll tell him to ask his father =P

Answer 2

The first thing I am wondering is why at the age of nine have you not already discussed this and other important issues? There are children out there younger than your child having sex already.
When my son asks me questions I answer them as honest and direct as possible. There are some questions or comments he makes about gut things that I know nothing about (and he does not have a father) so I ask the Dr. to explain it to him.
There are many books you can get to help with these discussions Go to Amazon dot com and look up the topic. Good luck talk to your child asap before the other children fill his/her head with things that are better discussed with you.

Answer 3

It is time to stop being prudish and give the right answers within the child's concepts. You must be honest but not offensively so, and delicately....as you are suggesting a child asking a teacher or someone she trusts, not her parents. Her parents dictate her life and any thing might be misconstrued as offensive if not worse.If it were my child, then it is time that we had a talk about the birds and the bees. Would I be abashed...NO because it is part of maturing. People have that nasty habit of growing up and it is best when their parents tell them about life..not only sex, but death, disease and such. They should trust you as their leader in their lives and not find out from the streets.

Answer 4

I would tell him or her what it is. My brother is 4 and he pointed to his private area and asked "mommy what is this?" and my mom told him exactly what it was and how to say the word correctly. He is now wanting to learn more about the body- the brain, heart...everything. I show him pictures online of the different systems in the body and he is fascinated by it. Now your son/daughter may have heard things about female genitalia at school or from other kids so you may ask where s/he heard it from and what s/he thinks it means, just to make sure s/he doesn't have any wrong ideas about it. It's good for them to ask you and not feel ashamed or embarrassed and at least you will tell them the right way and make sure they think of the word in derogatory terms. Best of luck.

Answer 5

I agree: be honest. What's the problem, anyway? I'll tell you. You're embarassed and if you show that and don't answer things in a matter of fact manner, your child will think the body is dirty.

There are some good books for children that introduce them in a non-threatening way to their bodies and to sex.

Good luck!

Answer 6

If it is a male, I would ask where he heard this word. Then I would answer it.

If it is a female, I would politely direct it towards her mother, as a woman could better explain that than I could (I don't have the parts and it seems specicious for a man to talke to a gilr about woman parts)

Answer 7

I would sit down and explain it to them. I don't think you should react in a bad way or get mad. It's good they came to you that way they can get the truth instead of mis information that their friends can provide

Answer 8

Tell her exactly what it is...

What are you sugar coating body parts with pet names anyway?

My son was taught that he has a penis and girls have vaginas from jumpstreet...why not teach them right the first time at a toddler? Saves you from having to re-teach them at 9

Answer 9

I think first, you should already have had this conversation with him/her. And second, why is such a technical term for the female anatomy such a thing to freak out about? I don't think you should hide in ignorance. There are LOTS of books out there that are age appropriate about this subject.

Answer 10

Be totally honest with them about it better you tell them then some other kid ...Threes some excellent sites on the human body on the net I'm sure you can google it ..(carefull how you word it thou) and my reaction would be oh its time for a talk ,,,and happy that they came to me ..