Cant get over my break up yet? Been a week and I still feel miserable..?

Question

I cant stand the fact that my ex is happy while i'm feeling miserable. Cant get to clean the flat, cook or eat.
Cant stand staying alone at home and I think my friends are getting tired of me talking about my ex.
The thing is I'm so hurt for what he did to me. I know he's having a great time right now, partying,..and whatever else he's doing. I saw him with two of his exes just after we split up and its only been a week! How can men move on so quickly?

Answer 1

Gee.... a WHOLE week !!!! he was probably screwin around BEFORE that... KILL the bastard !!!!

Answer 2

First, I don't understand why the break up. You're clearly beautiful from looking at your picture. I wouldn't pass up a good thing. And no, I'm not trying to hit on you. Give credit when credit is due, I always say. Moreover, from your answer, you have a heart. It's damaged right now and you probably feel real hollow but you still have a heart.

Second, my answer. Time will heal all wounds. I know it's a cliche but it's relevent. Don't let his actions get to you. I know that's hard but you must. The most important thing here to concentrate on is you and only you. Most people will tell you get back out there or bang another guy (Oh, yes. That will really show you ex. *INSERT SARCASM*). The bottomline is that you need time for yourself. If you don't want to go out, then don't. But you need to focus on yourself. Take your time.

I'm not a religious person but I'm a spiritual person. I carry a coin with the Serenity Prayer on it. It goes like this:

God, grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

I think you need it in your life too. Good luck and hope you well.

Answer 3

I find that venting your frustration helps - break things, bing drink or go on the lash for a successive number of days, plotting revenge is good but only once you feel empowered and happy again. Sit yourself down and realkise these things....your mates may be getting sick of you, your probably getting sick of yourself because your begin pathetic over someone who majorly doesnt deserve the time of day. Look @ all the things in your life that are still good at the moment - then get dressed up so you feel f&*)ing fabulous - go out and buy yourself some stuff and take pleasure in the fact that new people you dont know will be looking at you in the street and you ex is kicking about with people from his past! Good luck...

Answer 4

Its actually very hard to move on and the fact that your ex is happy and moving on that kills you even more. Do not stay alone cause it will only make things worse inside for you like something is eating you up. You most certainly have friends that have had a bad break up and and understand exactly what your going through. Talk to them, trust me they will not get fed up cause they know what your going through. Avoid your ex at all costs cause seeing him will eat you inside, and avoid places you both liked to go together. Only time will heal all wounds and he will soon be forgotten and a new man will enter your life and he will be forgotten. By then he will realize what he had and will **** bricks thinking of you being happy with someone else. You will feel great having the ball in your court. Happened to me after a 6 year relationship. She left me to go out and fun with others. I couldn't eat,sleep, and lost so much weight. She came running back. But I flushed her and till this day she still regrets it, she married with 2 kids and a husband who doesn't respect her and a bad job, and I married with 2 beautiful girls and a great wife and a job to die for(literally)..........good luck dear......move on, you will be happy.

Answer 5

How can they move on so quickly? Honey, you're old enough to know by now that women are far more emotionally mature than men in most instances. While you're actually grieving the relationship in tangible ways, he's not. He may be upset and hurt, but he's "fixing" it in the only way he knows how.

Besides, it's only been a week. He hasn't "moved on," he's just making a show. Remember the song "Tears of a Clown?" In case you're too young to remember, here it is:

Now if there's a smile on my face,
it's only there tryin' to fool the public,
but when it comes down to foolin' you;
Now honey, that's quite a different subject.
But don't let my glad expression
give you the wrong impression.
Really I'm sad.
I'm sadder than sad.
You're gone and I'm hurtin' so bad.
Like a clown I pretend to be glad.
(chorus)
Now there's some sad things known to man,
but ain't too much sadder than
the tears of a clown
when there's no one around.
Now if I appear to be carefree,
it's only to camouflage my sadness.
In order to keep my pride I try
to cover the hurt with a show of gladness.
But don't let my show convince you
that I've been happy since you
decided to go.
Oh, I need you so.
I'm hurt and I want you to know.
(chorus)
Just like Pagliacci did,
I try to keep my sadness hid.
But in my lonely room I cry
the tears of a clown
when there's no one around.

***
Now, maybe he's really not hurting, I dunno. But men express it differently.

And it HAS only been a week, dear. It's completely normal to still feel miserable after a week. It gets better with time but you'll have your ups and downs. Best of luck.

Answer 6

Woman, get over your ex. Go out and have fun, life is to short to sit around and let it slip away over someone who could care less about how you feel. Word to the wise, don't ever let anyone dictate whether or not you have a good day or a bad day.

Pray about it, ask for Gods help and move on. Remember God will never do you this way, so you should push your attention more to him. Love him the way you loved your ex. I guarantee that he will never hurt you.

You're a special person, you'll get through it. The right person who deserves you will come along and sweep you off of your feet in the future. Go ahead and live your life, We will all be dead one day and will not be able to enjoy life....

Answer 7

Most men when after breaking up with they're significant other unlike girls don't dwell on it. The only way they can seem to get over what has happen is to go about their business. No one ever said that there would be a time frame as far as getting over someone. Although that would be convenient still not happening....Whether it takes a week, a month, a couple months in time you will let go of what's hurting you. Try to go out and not think about him, remember why he is your ex to begin with and know that everything in this world happens for a reason. Know and make yourself believe that he wasn't worth your love, and you will soon find someone who will appreciate, care, and love you for YOU! Be patient and try not to talk about him too much...life goes on i promise. Good luck gurly!

*Someday your prince charming will come. Yours just took a wrong turn, got lost & is too stubborn to ask for directions *

Answer 8

You should probably take a step back and think about why the break-up happened, and how you're better off for it. If he's out partying and playing then the relationship probably didn't mean a lot to him in the first place, and you're better off with him our of your life. Maybe it's a good chance for you to take some time just for you to do things you like. One thing that sometimes works well is to sit down and write or type out a letter saying everything that you'd like to say to him, just to go through the catharsis of getting it all out. If you feel up to it, try going out with your friends to have fun, go dancing, whatever, and make and keep the promise that he is not a subject of discussion for the entire evening. Maybe take yourself shopping or treat yourself to a special dinner. Have a good cry if you need to. Maybe call your mom, sister or some long distance friend who isn't tired of hearing about it yet and vent.

Answer 9

Your ex is a Loser! You're better off on your own than with this guy - seeing his ex's hardly constitutes being happy - he's just doing that to piss you off. God knows why, he must be slightly twisted. Just think of all the things you can do now you're single again. Treat yourself to a makeover, go out with all your friends (and show him what he's missing out on - if you can be bothered) You may not feel like doing much for a while, but a good thing would be to start thinking of new stuff to do - join some kind of club.
It could be worse, you could be a single Mum.

Answer 10

coz he was a heartless dog! it's thatsimple honey but i know all the pain you are going throu and i feel for you. The faster they move on the sooner its gonna brake. men that move that fast dont have a clue what they want and in fact end up lonely and miserable wishing for exactly something like you ,only then you on the other hand will be 2 deeply in love with someone else to remember his name.
girl its going to take you a lot more than a week to get over him, more crying and more talking about it,the more you do the better you'll feel.
you'll get fed up of talking about him and decide he's not worth it.
so time will only heal your wounds and remember babe what goes around comes around!!
best of luck

Answer 11

He has moved fast because he wasnt hurt by what he did to you. The trick is to be obstinate and tell yourself that there is no way in the world you are ever gonna let him see how he hurt you. Go out with your freinds enjoy yourself try to go bowling or something where you are busy and can focus on something other than talking about your ex. And yes your freinds are getting tired of you talking about him but they are your freinds so they will understand we have all been there Keep smiling and good luck