My girls are in alot of activites, they dance ( since they were 3) they are now 10 and 8 and very good i might add.
My 10 yr old is a cheerleader, Student council rep, dance instuctor asst and HONOR ROLL studnet. ( and has NEVER been in trouble at school)
My 8 yr old, just started playing baseball, ( with the boys) and found out to be a good player. She even made the all star team. She dances also, plays basketball and is also an HONOR ROLL Student.( NO BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS EITHER) and believe it or not she is all girl,in a boys body.
I keep them encouraged and in activites.
Dad doesn seem to want to be a part and that is fine,not is flexible with times that i can meet him when the kids activites conflicts.
Thus making the kids decided what they want to do. I refuse for them to decide and i make the decisions, and of course the decisions are FOR THE KIDS ALWAYS. despite how tired i am of running everyone to practices.
2006-07-07 04:18:00 · 9 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Visitation starts at 7pm .sometimes i just cant get there beacuse of practices or games untill after that. Is it fair to not let them particiapte beacause it interferes with pick up times
2006-07-07 04:19:10 · update #1
I say continue them in their activities, you're doing a great job! And say practice starts at 6:30, he can come watch practice and when its over at 7:30, they can go home with him. Sounds like he is trying to be difficult and make things harder on you, while punishing the kids too.
2006-07-07 04:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by heathermama_tx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a tough one. It would be best if the kids weren't forced into a decision like this one. It would be great if Dad were to choose to be part of their activities. The problem is only going to get worse as they grow older. Adolescents usually want to gain separation from their parents. This is a part of growing up. If visitation isn't a priority now, it won't be then either. Be careful though that you don't come off as the one who orchestrated the decision to be involved in these activities. You don't want to leave yourself open to the accusation that you had the kids involved with activities so that they don't have to visit him. I don't know what kind of guy he is, but he may be one to make such a charge later on.
2006-07-07 11:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should see the importance of activities , but the relationship needs to keep a routine as well .Ask dad and girls and yourself to sit and agree .Make dads view important to them as well as you would want .To start an odd visiting is unfair to dad and down the road it will affect the girls . You probably state My girls because your writing this , but they are his girls and this needs to be stressed .If your thinking of the long term , life with dad & mom would be first not activies. Family comes first ! With respecting him as dad , esp. in front of them , they will not try to begin the but mom said , dad said because they will learn both parents talk things over together .The house arangements seems to have changed but the parents Even if one remarries , will always be the parents . You seem to say For the Kids , well kids don't look into if something ( death) would happen to you and courts gave them to him , wouldn't it be best if they had a strong relationship and could openly turn for confort .Accidents happen , my son was 28 when a car accident killed him , the mother of his daughter came and asked me what do I tell her . I just wanted to say " tell her you didn't want him to be there in her life and now he's dead so he's gone forever !" But I said " Just tell her he loved her and she's always in his heart ." She was 6 years old and has no ideal he's dead because mom said she just can't explain and moved far away . Be careful on decidions that might be a factor tomorrow .
2006-07-07 11:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Fairy Tale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have practice or what ever have their dad meet you where they are practicing and he can pick them up there. The girls need to explain to him that these things are important to them and that they would like to find a middle ground where they can participate in the activities and have a relationship with their dad.
2006-07-07 11:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you have a tipical american family---Always on the run---I think you need to start leting your girls decide on a few things. This gives them the opportunity to make decisions and with your guideance will help them be better able to make wise decision when they are older....As far as visitation time---What is more important?
God Bless and Good Luck
2006-07-07 11:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by 2muchcoffee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if HE doesn't want to participate (attend, pick up or drop off, etc), you could offer to have him go get the girls from their respective activities. It wouldn't kill him and he might just start getting into their social activities as well.
2006-07-07 11:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like you have a problem ok let me help..dad comes first but dad should be participating in activities, ok that'll be $125.00..i take visa and mastercard..HAVE A NICE DAY...lol.. seriously pay up
2006-07-07 11:27:21 · answer #7 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope you doing right. he should be glad his kids are into such things.
2006-07-07 11:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do
2006-07-07 12:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋