i confronted my fiance yet again about him looking at porn. i let him know exactly how i felt about it. Let him know how much it hurt me and how it made me feel but I didn't get any feed back. He just layed down on the couch and went to sleep. Any suggestions on what to do?
2006-07-07 04:07:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, he's not helping by sleeping when you are trying to confront him about something. Next time you confront him ask him politely to stay awake, sit up like a big boy, hear you out, and respond.
Second of all, men look at porn. It is a thing they do, and have done for thousands of years. He obviously wants to be with you if you are engaged, so don't sweat it! I'm sure he loves you and thinks you're very sexy, and you shouldn't feel threatened by those women. They are just doing their job. Some couples watch porn together, maybe you could try this and have sex afterwards to see that it isn't threatening your relationship.
2006-07-07 04:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by pickle_today 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often is he looking at it? My fiancee did the same thing but the less I let him know it bothered me, the less he did it. He might be doing it as an act of rebellion or in spite to let you know he's not going to let you (what he calls) control him.
Look for other things to introduce him to. I got mine hooked on eBay which eliminates his time with porn! (LOL) And now that we got a new dog, that takes up more of his time too.
Try to find him something new to get involved with because he is most and likely board and depressed. I think alot of guys look at porn because they might have too much time and porn seems to be most entertaining for them.
Does he collect anything? Try to look into some fun activity to get him involved with you in.
2006-07-07 04:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices: 1) get used to the porn or; 2) get a new fiance/boyfriend
He isn't going to change. Once they are hooked on it, that is just the way it is.
2006-07-07 04:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this dude has some serious issues. Lots of people OCCASIONALLY look at porn (for whatever?!) but if he ignores your feelings and won't discuss with you, this relationship is already doomed. It has been my experience that people who frequently look at porn and withdraw from their "mates" concerns about it have some psychological issues (insecurity, lack of self-esteem, sex addiction, and worse) If he is your fiance you'd better think twice before marrying him! Good luck, take care and be safe!
2006-07-07 04:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by hjandf2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he always looking at porn online, you can install a porn filter software like NetDog on the computer,that help you to
block all porn websites quitely in the background when he's surfing on the internet.
http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-07-07 19:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv being with my boyfriend for over a year and if i catch him looking at porn i would beat the crap ouy of him personally he can do it but not infront of me it makes me feel degraded that he needs to look at other females to be turned on i dont think your fiance has any respect for you maybe you need to find another relationship.
2006-07-07 04:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly why is he looking at porn n secondly why is he being as ignorant as not to even discuss it and try to explain himself, which by the sounds of it... he cant
2006-07-07 04:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u thinkin to negative gal may be thats a turn on for him
go get a porn movie put it on then do it with him
give it a short
is anything else workin cheers
2006-07-07 04:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys look at the stuff, some guys don't. some guys even lie about not looking at it to protect their reputation. the issue isn't whether or not he looks at the stuff, but instead the fact that he isn't discussing the issue with you when you bring it up and that it bothers you. talk about that with him. forget about that other stuff.
2006-07-07 10:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
>So he wouldn't discuss it at all? So tell me, why is he your fiance?<
2006-07-07 04:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by robert s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋