the guy i like have told me b4 dat he doesnt want commitment for he was badly hurt a few times...
We occasionally "make love" and i wanna noe if he has any feelings of love towards me...
I did ask before..he says he has but wouldnt tell me wat kind...hmm...
Is he just using me for pleasure or does he has feelings but are too afraid coz of his past???
Asking him is way out of the ques...Guys are really hard to understand..If he doesnt say a word..What does it mean??N how am i suposed to know??
2006-07-07 03:50:22 · 9 answers · asked by MIzzMoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Asking him may or may not give you the truthful answer anyway. Some people say what they think we want to hear, and others will lie or evade a question, to hide their true feelings because they are not comfortable with what they are feeling.
If he's told you in the past that he doesn't want a committment, then go with that. If he decides he does want one from you, he'll let you know...otherwise you can continue on as lovers but stop trying to read more into things until he gives you reason to.
If you're being intimate, it's almost a surety that he has some kind of feelings for you...a fondness, a caring, an affection...it sounds like you want there to be more however, and that may not be the case. If he made it clear up front that he didn't want committment, then you aren't being "used for pleasure", you've chosen to share sexual experiences with him. Don't feel harsh toward him because he doesn't seem to be expressing the feelings you want him to. They may not be there.
2006-07-07 03:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that you know is what he told you loud and clear at the beginning of your "relationship " that he doesn't wanna commitment right now .. so does it really matter if he have love feeling or a crush feeling or no feeling at all toward you !! well yeah it does matter but my advise just let go .. why risking that maybe he's just using you and getting you hurt because of that !! what if he really loves you but afraid he's gonna get hurt again ? well when you do leave him then he will be forced to think real hard to know what he really want .. be afraid of going through a good relationship for the rest of his life or he really want you and that will overcome everything !!
2006-07-07 10:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy if we had an exact answer for that we would be geniuses, you know sometimes guys just don't want to really show their feelings but we girls also give guys mixed signals, we say yes then change our minds and then change them back or we say we love you and then if we don't hear it back we think something is wrong so it goes both ways. Guys may be hard to understand but we girls are also hard to figure out. Hang in there that is if you really want to, or you can start fishing again, there are a lot of good guys out there.
2006-07-07 11:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by adorablecuteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this isn't the answer you wanted, but you asked and I will tell you the truth. It sound to me like your a booty call. Not to hurt you, but for you to open your eyes. Do you want a non committed relationship? It doesn't sound like your pleased with this arrangement. So, why waste more time on someone that's already been honest in telling you that he never plans on being with you. THAT'S NOT LOVE!! It's hard, i know, but get over it. Good luck.
2006-07-07 10:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by guerita_bonita2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you didn't make love, because he doesn't love you. Second why would he tell you anything, he is getting what he wants. He doesn't want to talk because men don't like to talk, why talk and mess up his good thing. He is getting sex, and he doesn't have to worry about a commitment or anything. He is in a win win situation.
2006-07-07 10:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by johnsonjrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being used sis-ta. A penis has no conscious. If you are expecting hiime to have feelings for you you are seriously in trouble. He can't share his feelings for you because the only feelings he has is between his legs and he doesn't want to mess up a good thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-07 10:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by wannaknowBT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he could be i mean when you hear him say he dosent want to commit but you make love anyway then hes getting your loving but hes stillnot commiting and he may very well be starting to like you now but sex wont make someone love you
2006-07-07 10:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by gaurdianangelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are like that too. i had the same trouble before.
2006-07-07 10:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe is cause of his past that he doent what to say anything
2006-07-07 10:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by lola :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋