A few years back I had seen this guy and I was really into him then begining of May he and I finally met and we started dating. We became a couple. Then shortly after that he had to leave town for a few months and will be back in late August. For the rest of May and the first half of June he called me everyday and things were going really good. Then one drunkin night he called me and told me he loved me, we shared deep conversation and everything. Then the next day he says he doesn't remember telling me he loved me, so I dropped it. Then a few days later he starts cheating on me, and he tells me about it. So I decide that we should go back to being friends until he comes back home. He continued to call me all the time but now he tells me about all these girls he's hookin up with because he wants to be honest w/ me and he wants things to work out when he comes back. But now it has been several days since I have talked to him, he is not responding to my text msgs. What do I do?
2006-07-07 03:43:55 · 35 answers · asked by Isabel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go and find some one else to fool around with. you can always lie and say that you been with this guy, hooked up with this other guy, and so on. See his reaction then, and tell him you just want to be open and honest so you guys will have a good relationship when he gets back.
But its sounds like he is playing you for a fool. He may be scared of commitment, rejection, or lied and cheated on. He told you that he loved you(even though was drunk, but he remembered) and then turn around and tells you about these girls he is hooking up with. Maybe he is trying to push you away because he is not ready for a commitment. Who knows. You need to discuss this with him. Good luck and don't be scared if you do want a relationship with him.
2006-07-07 03:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's great he's being honest. however, how will he be when he comes back? will one girl be enough for him?
if he's not responding to you, maybe it's time to move on. with the way people are able to communicate now a days, there is no excuse as to why someone can't text, email or call back. even if it's just to say, it's over, i'll call you later, etc. so as you can see he may just be doing his own thing and doesn't feel he has to fill you in any more. or maybe you gave him the impression that you were getting uncomfortable with all his sharing and backed off. there are so many reasons as to why anything can happen, however, it's the worse when a reason hasn't been provided because then our minds start wandering and the worst is always imagined. neither of you are commited to one another so just let it be. only time can tell what will happen tomorrow...move on, if it's meant to be, it'll all work out in the end. whether it's with him or not.
2006-07-07 03:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by HopeThisHelps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this probably isn't what you want to hear and it will be difficult for you to do but you need to let him go. He has cheated on you, it sounds as though he drinks too much and he says thing to you with no regard for your feelings. If he was that blitzed that he doesn't remember the conversation what else do you think he'll do while under the influence of alcohol if you get back together? Respect yourself. You are a wonderful, beautiful, unique woman. You deserve someone who will love you as much as you love them and who will put you first in their life. Move on and don't waste any more of your time waiting around for this man because you may be missing out on Mr. Right. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-07 03:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by silent.peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like everyone answered the same as I would. This might not be something you want to hear, but think about the advice you were given. It might do you some good. Also, try to meet someone new. Maybe a tall man with broad shoulders, a nice body, and blue eyes. Know anyone like this? If so, go for it! Unless he's married, then just look and don't touch!
2006-07-07 05:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't call him, text him, email, anything. I would really just put an end to it. He is rubbing your face in the fact that he is sleeping with other girls. And he says that he wants it to work out between the two of you??? I would not believe that!
Also, don't see him when he comes back to town. Move on! Has he been using protection when he sleeps with the other girls? Doubtful! Let him take his diseased self and trample someone else's heart - not yours. Move on and find a decent guy!
2006-07-07 03:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is either doing this to push you away(because he's scared) or he's just a jerk trying to see how much b---s--- you will put up with. Tell him that if he wants to work things out with you when he gets home, then he needs to start acting like it. NOW!Telling you about other women hes been with is not the way to keep a relationship going. Trust is a big part of a relationship, and he is making that impossible!
2006-07-07 03:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by starrynite1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's having his cake and eating it too. It's also a little worrysome that a guy can drink so much one night and divulge such intimate things over the phone, yet the next day claim he doesn't remember saying them. BULLSH*T!
If you allow him early on in a relationship (regardless of mutual conditions) to be this way you can't expect him to change later on.
It sounds like you already know what you want to do - follow your intution, it's usually right 99.8% of the time. - Good luck.
2006-07-07 03:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by cinnamon_latin_doll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a hard situation because i can see u really care for this guy .... i mean enought to let himgo and do as he pleases and come back to you when he's done..... But u'r not a door mate and u sure should be his second plate...... He does desere someone like you with so much patients for him, Leave him and u'll see that he'll come back to u but hope fully (depending on u ) it'll be to late...... Good luck and if he wont give u the time then u should waste u'rs......
2006-07-07 04:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL MOVE ON!!!!! He is getting his cake and eating it to - he knows you are at home waiting on him so he knows he will have someone to run to when he gets home - but at the same time he is out now getting all the girls he wants while you just sit there and let him do it! You are allowing this to happen to yourself! Quit sending him txt msg and quit calling. You need to move on with your life and forget about him. All he is doing is playing you right in front of your eyes and you are allowing it all to happen. So if you get hurt in the end because you stayed waiting on him - you will have ONLY yourself to blame!
2006-07-07 03:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. He's obviously not ready for a relationship and is just keeping you on the line so he has someone when he comes back. If he truly cared for you and wanted a meaningful relationship, he would not be 'hooking' up with other girls and then calling you to tell you all about it. He is using you.
Don't play his game and try to make him jealous, it just demeans you.
2006-07-07 03:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋