There is a man I really like. But due to insecurities I am not able to tell him. I think he may like me but.?

Question

I am so insecure. He is also someone of power at my job, so I know that it is dangerous. But his personality is awesome. I dont know what to do, I guess I will just keep my affections to myself until they finally pass.
I flirt a little, but not too much, and I think he may take it as part of my personality (which is sarcastic wit, which he tells me is the one thing he likes best about me, that and I know how to do my job without needing help).
I dont know what to do, I think about him a lot, and it saddens me. HELP

Answer 1

Take it from a guy, if you like him, let him know. But be careful how you tell him. If you show a lack of confidence, he'll probably react negatively. If you are too forward, he may see you as pushy or overpowering. With confidence, ask him out. You don't have to actually verbally tell him you like him, let your actions show how you feel. If you don't take the chance, you'll always wonder for the rest of your life "what if". And imagine the heartache you'd feel if you found out after the fact that he liked you to, but neither of you made the first move. If he says "no", then you know and you can move on with your life. But, if he says "yes", then the door has been opened for the potential of a wonderful relationship. Give it a shot, don't be scared.

Answer 2

Office romances can be dangerous...when things are going well, the rumor mill can cause you problems (favoritism?), when things are rough or fall apart, it's hard to separate your private life from your job when they are intertwined...can really make work a miserable place to be and thus your productivity will suffer (not to mention the chance of negative consequences if the person you are dating works in your dept or is your superior).

If you flirt, he likely knows you are interested. If he's interested in you (whether you flirt or not) he'll take action if he is okay with dating a coworker.

It can be tough to dig someone at work, but have them be "out of reach" for whatever reason...I can relate...for now, enjoy the distraction when he's around, but try to get some work done...and if anything does eventually transpire, be careful.

Answer 3

Let's see...

I think you should allow him a clue that you like and are interested in him. Do not become one of the girls that will be in his case and everything, but enough to get him to notice you more. Since you established to us that you are insecure, you could always take the other approach of just doing excellent in your job and that he would have to notice you in one way or another.

And I think that it would be a good thing to become close friends with him, or atleast take that road to try and become friends. However, be wary not to become very close to the point that he would only value you in a 'sister' way.

But I think you should do fine. Go ahead and try it if you want. Good luck. ^_^