He has chosen to not excerise his visition. Better yet his current wife has set that. He has visitation every other weekend, all holidays, spring break and long weekends that include teacher workdays, etc. He doesnt get them at all ANYMORE. But he goes to the school to see them, thus pulling them out of class. This is unacceptable and upsets the hell out of me. He can get them when ever he wants to. ( I need the break)
I took his *** off the registration forms at the school and informed the priniciple that this is to NEVER happen again.
Should I take this issue back to court.
He is obvioulsy ''sneaking" behind his wife to do this.
This is disruptive and
2006-07-07 03:35:40 · 22 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I say take him to court and explain to the judge that it is not acceptable for him to be depriving your children of their education when he has every oppourtunity to see them during visitation time. He has no right to do that!! As far as the wife goes, they have serious issues at home that need to be dealt with, and I am not really sure that I would want a woman that encourages my childs father not to see them, around my children. I would think about wether or not you even want to share custody with this man. Good luck. Hope everything works out for you and your kids.
2006-07-07 04:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing with the school. However, you can't make him exercise his visitation. Especially if the wife has control over the situation. Another thing, he may be giving in to her because he knows it would be bad for the children to be around her.
It would help if you and your ex could put your personal differences aside and sit down to discuss what is going on. The best interest of the children is at stake here. Regardless, he certainly did not have the best interest of the children in mind when he took them out of class. That's totally unacceptable and selfish on his part.
You may just have to accept the fact that he is not going to see the children. Maybe the two of you can work something out for him to visit with them and the wife won't know it. However, she will probably find out sooner or later. Boy, what a mess and how awful for the children. Keep in mind, his wife may not be the kind of person you would want your children around. He obviously is afraid of her. That says a whole lot right there about her.
2006-07-07 10:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by c.nolan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW!! Yeah i agree it is disruptive. You should talk to him before he does this again if you havent before and let him know that it is definately unacceptable. He is being selfish and depriving your kids of a proper education, he needs to stop immediately cos a) it's taking away from their learning and b) your kids are not going to pay attention in class and will be waiting for daddy to come get them c) when and if he stops, they are going to get depressed. Let him realise he does have visitation rights and he should use it if he wants to see them so much. If his current wife is against it, well tough, his kids should always come first. he cant eat his piece of cake and have it. If after all is said, he still disrupts class to see them then honey, take him to court. It could get ugly then that's why it's the last resort. He cant say you didnt give him a chance.
Good Luck guurl. I hope all works out for you.
2006-07-07 10:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mystery D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Court is a must. This is more than just deceptive behavior. It may be a staging for him to do something far more rash and is not what "normal, mentally healthy" people would do. You might never get the break you want from this guy, he is a selfish *** who more or less views the children as extensions of himself and what he needs for his own needs are the only things on his mind. This man also needs a good and frequent beat down to get his head on straight, obviously, whoever parented him fell down doing the job...it is not normal, good or positive what he is doing..it is deceptive on several levels and it is horribly selfish to the point of criminal narcissism. Does he pay child support? I can tell you, he is not fit to be a father and if he does not pay child support rightly, he should have a full blown TPR done on his sorry ***.
2006-07-07 10:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by longwalkjohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better get back to court and let the judge know what is going on and a lawyer,... You have done good by the school he should never take the kids out of school THIS IS A HUGE RED FLAG, be care full he may have a hidden agenda let the e Law know and a Judge ASAP.... Please get a description of his care , license plate number, you need to know where he may go if he gets the kids out of school. He may or may not have a hidden agenda but you should make it crystal clear that this is unacceptable behavior, and do this by taking it to court....
2006-07-07 10:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like exactly what you suspect... his current wife is refusing to take on the stepmother role, and so he has to resort to pulling the kids out of school to see them when she's not around. While this is incredibly irresponsible behavior on your ex husband's part, I'm sad to say I've seen this happen before. Believe me, your children's teachers are probably JUST as frustrated as you are! My advice is to talk to your ex husband if at all possible. Feel free to lie and say that your child's teacher commented on his/her excessive absences/early leaves and feels that your child/children are missing valuable time at school. Put it in terms of "the kids" and you're more likely to recieve a positive reaction than any sort of confrontation.
If this doesn't work, I would talk to your lawyer to see if there's anything further you can do. Pulling children out of school is not OK. It sends a message of irresponsibility and a lack of respect for education. And we all know kids don't need any more of that!
Good luck to you!
2006-07-07 10:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by flstgrl26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back to court.
Any mediator or judge is going to have a serious problem with him 1) removing the children from school when he does not have custody and 2) not honoring the court order for custody and visitation already set in place.
Good Luck
2006-07-07 10:39:55 · answer #7 · answered by mand 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does the school allow your ex-husband(the childrens father) to visit during school hours?
Is he allowed to visit anytime/day he chooses?
It seems to me that the school would find these visit's, very disruptive, especially if he just "shows up" at the school and ask to visit with the children.
I would contact the school and see how they are handling/dealing with the situation.
If the school and your children find these "visits" disruptive, voice your concerns to your ex, and if he dismisses your concerns, seek advise from an attorney.
2006-07-07 10:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by swampfox conservative 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worried about the same thing. The school has a check-out list that you have to include the name of the kid's father. Write a short instruction (beside his name) that he does not have permission to check the children out of class w/o written permission from you and also have them call you to confirm that it was you who wrote the letter.
Also tell the teachers that if they do allow this to keep happening... you will find out and they will hear about it!
2006-07-07 10:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing removing his name from the registration forms at school.Maybe now your ex will realize how important his kids are and put his foot down with his new wife.If the school respects your wishes,it shouldn't be necessary to go back to court.
2006-07-07 10:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by susan v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋