he's coming from new york to see me next month
2006-07-07 02:51:54 · 43 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not OK at all...do you not have any self-respect.
2006-07-07 02:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get involved with someone who is committed to someone else? How would you feel if you were the wife being left at home, while your husband traveled elsewhere to meet another woman? He's proving to you that he's a cheater (or has the capacity to be). If he'd cheat on his wife, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same to you at some point, should you two form some kind of relationship other than online...
Do unto others... If you wouldn't want some other woman going after your guy...then you should not go after a guy who's involved already. By doing so, you okay it to be done to you.
2006-07-07 02:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
Yes, it's okay to talk to him. No, it's not okay to imagine you and him together, to lead him on, or to try to be "better" than his wife. It's also not a good idea to continue talking with him if you "can't control" these thoughts and actions. Don't fool yourself by saying, "I'm not doing anything wrong," if you see yourself doing these things.
Stop thinking of him as "cute," because that will only lead to jealousy. Think of him as a friend who you can talk to every once in a while. Don't obsess over him or find excuses to talk to him. You have your own life to live, and the male companion you're looking for isn't this guy.
Is he coming alone? Is he coming JUST to see you? Then this is one relationship gone out of control. Think about it this way: If he'll leave behind one woman for another girl, he'll do the same to you. You're not better. You're not different. If any man will leave behind the woman he promised to cherish and love as long as they both shall live, then he has no respect for women in general.
One last thing. If the wife gets jealous when she sees you talk to him, maybe talking to him and seeing him is the last thing you, he, or she needs.
2006-07-07 03:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by dragon8rider2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say NO! Would you like it if someone did that to your husband? It doesn't matter how screwed up his marriage, don't be the one to finish it off. It's always a bad idea to be friends with a married man (if you are a woman). It's not right, and it's not ethical. If it's meant to be, his marriage will end on it's own, and you may hook up with him then. If he lives her for you, you will never trust him, and always wonder if he will do the same thing to you. The truth is, he will. He is going to get bored with you, and leave you as well.
You will sleep better at night, knowing that you didn't destroy a marriage. So, do the right thing, even though it may not be the fun thing.
2006-07-07 02:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by natex14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cute and he's coming from New York to see you next month and he's married. Is it ok to still talk to him??!! The question you may ought to ask yourself is this 'is it possible for me to keep my clothes on if this cute looking married guy I'm talking to visits me next month?'
Sounds like a dangerous path you're walking on....an hour of pleasure a lifetime of pain. Find a cute single guy.
2006-07-07 02:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tony E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he tell his wife he is coming to see you or did he lie and say it was a business trip or a private vacation trip or something like that? So what if he is cute HE IS MARRIED. Talking and being friends is fine but unless he is bringing his wife with him i think you both are over stepping the boundaries. Do you want a future husband to do that to you?
2006-07-07 02:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married......ugh.
Ok, I've always heard that women wear rings on their finger in order to ward off the opposite sex that they dont like. That might be something good to invest in, JUST IN CASE. I don't see why you cant hang out. Just make sure that its a hang out and not a chance for him to slowly creep out of him present relationship. If you start to get the vibe that he wants to do more than talk, be warry, and it probably be a good idea to call it a night. Even at 3pm.
2006-07-07 03:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by GlennSueznin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can talk to him. Meet, kiss, and sex? NO WAY! So on the other hand, you really shouldn't talk to him either. He will always want sex, trust me, I know! Now if he would just be a chat buddy, that would be different, but now he wants to have sex, so stop talking to him! And NEVER NEVER get into bed with him or meet him either!
Just think about this. If you were married, would you want your husband to go and screw another woman?
2006-07-07 03:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect him enough, to respect his marriage, and cancel the meeting. His loyalty is questionable, therefore don't allow him to drag you into his mess he may be hoping to create. You have to ask yourself what you have to live with, in that situation, and are you the kind of person, that would willingly risk it all for the sake of looks breaking down a family, with the possibility of adding the innocent children lives being torn apart? Are you going to be an added statistic to their pain? Can you live with that possibility? Any man that wants to bring you into such complications has no self respect, and no respect for you. The decision is yours, and your self respect is still yours, the question is what are you going to do? Good luck to you, and all concerned!
2006-07-07 03:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to still talk to him, but why in the hell is he coming to meet you? He obviously has other intentions. If you have any morals at all, you'd stop this before anything ever gets started. He's married!! Put yourself in his wife's place. Keep it up with this man, and someday that just might be you!!
2006-07-07 02:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i understand you correctly, you said you are talking to a married guy, why are you messing with a married man this will only bring complications, especially if you have any romantic feelings for him, you will never be happy with this, it feels good now because it's the early stages, but with time you will start to resent him for going back home to his wife, this will only leave you with low self-esteem, if i were you i would not give in to my desire.
2006-07-07 02:59:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋