she likes this guy from our class, who is considered a total sucker who just flirts and has a crush on practically every gal around......but my friend here feels that he is really good at heart...n it is true that his greatest crush is my friend but she is still confused..........should she fall for him or not??? i advised her to wait and see if he turns 2 her but she isn't convinced so i posted her question here.....can any of you guys n gals help her?????????? PPLLZZZZZZZZZZZZZ
2006-07-07 02:37:42 · 12 answers · asked by Sweet Rocking Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A little girl is walking thru the forest when she comes upon a snake laying there lifeless, nearly frozen and half dead. She picks up the snake, puts in the pocket of her apron and and takes it home to nurse it back to health. Days go by and she takes the snake out to check on it. Her care has brought back the snake's health. One day she reaches into her pocket to check on the snake and it bites her. She falls to the ground. As she lays there lifeless and near death; she asks the snake 'how could you do this after all I have done for you?'. The snake replies ' you knew I was a snake when you picked me up.'
Moral- your friend knows this guy is a snake. If they both have feelings for each other, then I would say they should give things a go. She should remember that he is a snake when she picks him up............
Good luck !
2006-07-07 02:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been a flirt all through it is difficult to believe that he will be sincere to your friend. If she wants to give it a try she may but she should not feel hurt if he shows his true colours. She should either act sensibly and forget him or be prepared for the worse and not cry later. She should also take it up as an adventure and not as a serious relationship. At her age, it will be difficult for you to convince her for she is at present ruled by heart and not by head. So try and make her understand the consequences rather then telling her not to go ahead.
2006-07-07 10:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by sacredlovingheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to take off the rose colored glasses. If she really wants him she needs to take control. No following him around making googly eyes and that crap. She needs to flirt with him now and then, leave some mystery. Ignore him the rest of the time. Act not disinterested, but semi- interested. If she throws herself at him he's just going to toss her back. If she plays a little of the good old fasioned hard to get he'll have to work for it which will make him want to keep her around a little longer. It's not a fool proof plan, but yall are young enough to make mistakes.
2006-07-07 09:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by ladyg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they're still pretty young. At that age a guy's self esteem isn't very strong. Flirting, playing around, seeing lots of girls as attractive... all of this is pretty normal for a young Alpha male. (Alpha males are the dominant, outgoing type. High testosterone levels). It helps make him feel stronger and more secure.
If he's emotionally healthy, he'll get even more self esteem from a steady relationship with someone. If not, he'll keep flirting around, etc. even when that steady relationship is available to him. If she "falls" for this guy, and he can have that steady relationship with her, but chooses to continue his behavior in spite of that, well... My wife once said:
When a man shows you who he truly is, even once, believe him.
2006-07-07 09:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should wait i think. Its been a while but i had a crush on this really good looking guy in school. I just went about my business secretly harboring this crush. I ended up going with him for 2 years. But of course we got older and it wasnt to be but for a while it was nice.
2006-07-07 09:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by soeur_deux_de_ny2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think she could end up getting hurt. he sounds like a nice guy but seems like he only wants to have fun right now. she could get into a situation where she is more serious about things then he may be if they try out a relationship. how would this friend feel if they began dating and he continued to flirt? he really could say that she knew this about him from the get-go and it could really hurt her. it sounds like he is better off being kept as a friend for right now.
2006-07-07 09:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by MAMA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may have already fallen for him. He sounds like a player. If that's what she wants, she has to be ready for whatever he is going to hand out! And by the sounds of it, it won't be anything good. Keep him as a friend, but forget about a realtionship with him.
2006-07-07 09:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy to help.
if they both have feelings for each other as you and she says they do then she should approach this young man and tell him the truth about her feelings for him and maby even strike up a conversation first to brake up the ice like talking about the weather then slip the comment in there about how they like each other.
2006-07-07 09:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by ARTHUR M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good of you having advised her already, therefore, respect her decision, whatever that may be. Natural conscequence will follow, good or bad. Should it not work out in her favor, just be there for her, as a supportive friend. If it does work out for her, be happy for her. Good luck!
2006-07-07 09:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend want to get a broken heart from this romeo, then go ahead. This guy is too unstable in my books.
2006-07-07 09:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋