my brother just died and i need some comfort.?

Question

he was 22 years old ,he just stopped breathing one night. it makes me crazy when i am by myself i keep looking for pictures that i am scared to find. i have to be strong because of fammily. it hurts if you have any scriptures or words that may help please do, PLEASE do not give me any insensitive remarks because this is e rel seriuos time thanks

Answer 1

Psalm 23 is a really good one, when my father died last year we read that at his funeral. If you are looking for some support, and you are Christian, you can go to a United Church and they have counselors called Steven Ministries. You should also look up Joeb in the old testament his story can give anyone strength.
Anyways Steven Ministries helped me very much and everything is confidential.

Answer 2

My brother died this past August and he was only 26 with a wife and little girl so I know exactly how you feel. I think the best thing you can do right now is cry it all out. Remember the good times you had with him and cherish every memory. Look at pictures and talk about him with other family members that were close to him. If he is at the cemetary go visit him, I know this sounds crazy but it will help to build an acceptance of him being gone and also a special place for you to talk to him. Whatever you do do NOT hold it all in. My sister will not talk at all about our brother and it hurts her even worse. I pray that you will find some peace and eventually the hurt does lessen. I understand what u mean about being strong for the family i am the oldest out of five so if you need someone to talk to you can email me

Answer 3

This is probably one of if not the hardest thing you will ever have to go through. I don't know why but when I read your question It was if your pain was sent through me. I felt it. I feel it. And knowing how strong it is I can say there are no words that will remove it. But I hope that there is some assurence to know that someone is feeling your pain also. That you are not alone. God loves your brother and He loves you also. He was with your brother from the beginning of his life. He has always been with him. We dont always know why He allows things like this to happen. And we wont ever know fully until we can ask Him face to face. But we do know that He knows what is best for all of us. And the He wont allow anything to come to us that we cant handle through His strength. I know its probably wost when your all alone. And time seems to stand still. But dont not cry. Crying is healthy. I would admonish you to keep busy. The more time you spend alone doing nothing will make the greaving worst. Get involved with friends and other activities. This will help the day move a little bit easier and faster. Dont worry you wont forget about him. You will never forget him. He is apart of you. He would not want you to become stagnent, sitting around and mooping over him.

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you lost your brother.I know what you are going threw right now as I to lost my brother. I lost him Jan.2,2005 an unexpected death. I lost my grandma Dec.8,2004, less than 30 days apart. I see stuff around here all the time that was his and is a reminder of him. The best thing that I am doing to try to get passed it, is think of all the good times that we had together and remember some of the dumb things he did and said. It has been a little over a year ago now, but it don't feel that way. It is not as hard as it was, but yes it still hurts. Even now I still cry about him. So yes, I KNOW how you feel!!!
If you want to talk, I will be here for you.

Answer 5

i'm so sorry for what you've been through. i don't really think there's many words that can bring comfort at this time but i think you should see it as a possitive step asking this question. it shows that you're seeking help so maybe it would be of help to find a support group in your area, or a counsellor. take each day at a time, and go with your feelings- if you need to cry, cry if you want to scream, scream!!
i know that it sounds such a cliche when people say things get easier with time but its true, you'll never forget but it will get a little less painful each day. also your family will not expect you to be strong, they probably want you to open up to them so you can all support each other. i wish you happiness for your future and hope that you find the support you need xx

Answer 6

Know that people like me are praying for you and your family. I know it's hard to find comfort right now but know that it will get better. It really will. Another answer to your question says that the writer likes to think people who've died are in a better place. I agree. Picture your brother in heaven - whatever your version of heaven is - and that your brother is wanting the best for you. So don't feel like you have to stay miserable. Your brother wants you to live your life to fullest and happiest. Just remember that doing that doesn't mean you aren't honoring his memory. Also don't think the same fate awaits you - just because this happened to you brother doesn't mean it going to happen to you. I hope you have a good day.

Answer 7

I am so very sorry for your loss. I recently lost a very close relative. I cried until I couldnt cry anymore. It helped,but when I was all through crying I realized I am not crying for her, I am crying for myself because I am without her. So I started thinking of all the good times we shared and started laughing. I know she is in a better place, and she is not sufferinng anymore. GOD does not close one door without opening another one. The pictures may be hard though. I lost my fiance 16yrs ago and I still have trouble looking at photos of him. Only because I have regrets. Things I didnt say,things I didnt do. We have to go on and remember the good times. But remember to take as long as you need to grieve, and talk to someone it really helps. In my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 8

You don't need scripture or prayer hun. Find strength from within to get through this senseless tragedy.

I feel for you, we have all lost someone close to us and it hurts. There's no easy way out of it. Courage and time will help you through. Seek out the fellowship of friends. Don't hold back your emotions. In time this will make you a stronger, wiser individual. I wish you the best of luck, i'm so sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

First of all I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that your brother is only gone in the physical sense. He will always be with you in your heart, in your mind and in your soul. The pain of losing someone is a deeply personal thing, think of it this way........ What would your brother want for you? He would not want you to be sad forever, life goes on and it does get better every day, even if it doesn't feel like it. Pray and ask God to give you the strength to carry on and he will! You will be surprised.

Answer 10

It's a very bad dear you hurt the life is going and going we cant stop them so you don't sad. This time you must be a Strong your self and support your family because your the one person you give the smiley in your parents face. If you are hurt and sad so who support your family. be positive dear