Is G-d testing me?...?

Question

If I step in S**T, it smells like S**T - My ex-husband (wife beater) steps in S**T and it smells like roses. Why is the "Bluebird of happiness" crapping all over me & my family. To much death and poverty. I'm so confused and overwhelmed w/grief.

Answer 1

i truely feel and can understand your plight and frustrations all too well. this is the best possible explanation i can give, when we (god fearing people) step in it we know what it is, we can see it and smell it, we have the knowledge to remove or clean it. the others when they step in it, they walk around almost boastfully proud of there mess, but what we cant see, we should understand. if they dont know that they have made a mess and continue to walk and live in it, how sick is it going to make them. how much more worry is constantly nagging in there head with them having no knowledge of what is wrong. its like going on vacation and leaving a light on.
so dont dispair, but have strength in the knowledge that what ever trials are coming your way it will never be more that you can handle. although they might bring you to your knees. and on our knees is when we are strongest.

almost every single one posted good advice. take strength in the knowledge that there are so many on your side with love compassion and understanding.

Answer 2

1) Stop focusing on him, & what he does, & the consequences surrounding him.
2) Focus on you & your life.
3) No; it's not G-d's fault. You are the most precious, beloved person on this planet, & G-d's heart LONGS to draw you close. You are always on His mind, & His plans for you are to give you both a future & a hope.
4) Sounds simplistic, but begin focusing on the positive in life. Train yourself to look for the proverbial silver lining.
5) Begin making positive statements, & complimenting people...at least 3 times a day. This will help retrain your thinking to focus on the good in people. And, when you are positive, people respond in kind. Don't be shallow, as people can spot that a mile away. Be genuine.
Remember, like is not about what happens to you, but how you REACT to what happens to you.
You are worth being loved. Your life is precious, & you deserve to find happiness. Making small changes will effect a brighter outcome, but it will take time. Develop some quality friendships, & reach out when you need support. A good network of friends can prove the best 'therapy' there is...when you know you're loved.
Remember, focus on the positive.

Answer 3

Hang in there baby. I'm not God so....I can't say about the testing part. You should at least be aware that you are a very strong person. Whatever is happening to you now...........somehow................is preparing you for your future.
Again.......I'm not God............I imagine that your support network is scanty or non-existent. Perhaps a brief change of scenery would help. A little vacation. Try not to compare your self to your ex.
Abused wives sometimes have been taught to think that they deserve beatings. I assure you that you are a beautiful person. You deserve happiness because you have been through a difficult time and you will appreciate it when it comes. Heal yourself, love yourself and take a vacation. Even it you can't really afford it. You don't have to go to Hawaii. Find some mountains, take a little hike have a picnic and stick your feet in a mountain stream. Distance is a great way to get perspective in ones live.
Look within yourself and see the strong person there. God bless you!

Answer 4

Life is all about perspective. It's easy to look at someone else's life and think that they have it easy, but things aren't always as they seem.

With so few details, it's hard to tell you how to help yourself, but I notice that you are on a computer somewhere and have time to post questions here. So, either you have a job with access to a computer, or you have a computer and internet access at your home. Most people would consider that to be above poverty.

I'm not discounting your problems, but if you don't focus on the positive things in your life, you'll never be happy. And never look at someone else's life and be jealous. Everyone has problems that are not so obvious. Do you really think a man who beats on women is a happy person?

Answer 5

Eating a diet that stresses protein (poultry and fish are best, unless you are a vegetarian and then soy is very good), low glycemic carbohydrates (look up a glycemic index) and good fat (olive oil for cooking, almonds or peanuts for snacking), may ease you during this stressful time.

Seriously. Your nutrition is more responsible for your mental status than you may realize. By eating right (which includes in between meal snacks), you may find your confusion clearing, making it easier to deal with your grief and your ex-husband.

Answer 6

As children of parents we inherit generational curses. Our forefathers sinned and this leads to curses. Their are many different curses... here an example... Many people inherit diseases from their parents. Cancer, asthma and other such things are passed through the generations. You've got to break the curse. Put your trust in Jesus. The bible says cursed is the man who hangs on the tree. Jesus took away every curse. You must decide to ask Jesus into your life and give Him authority over it. Confess with your mouth and believe with all your heart that Jesus is your Lord. There is much more to explain. Get yourself into a bible beleiving born again pentecoastal church and start reading (matthew mark Luke John) and praying. I was Jewish but Jesus set me free he loves you and has the power to deliver you from every curse. Please beleive this good news... this is the gospel... Jesus is the good news... And of course more importantly accepting Jesus puts you onto the path of God which takes you to eternal life for your soul with God. Without Jesus your soul will spend eternity in the lake of fire and brimstone.

Answer 7

I don't believe that God tests us just for the sake of testing us. Whatever He sends our way is probably really the best thing for us, even if we don't recognize it as such right away. I don't know why God has not healed me they way I have asked Him to. Perhaps it's because I somehow serve Him better with my injuries, or perhaps it's because He wants to show me how much I need Him, or perhaps it's because He's told me what to do and I have been too dense to listen. Stay faithful to God and have a strong prayer life. Study scripture and do devotionals and surround yourself with people who love God and love you. Truly surrender to Him and know that you will be led into the light, though it may be difficult for you to recognize. Jesus carries us through tough times with his promise of salvation and his love for us.

Answer 8

It seems you may be being tested, but have you heard the
saying " God never gives us more than we can handle" ?
There may be a reason, and right now it may not make sense
today. But you never know what tomorrow holds.
Pray and ask God what's up??
He may just answer.

Answer 9

what goes around comes around is the truest statement for this. God might be testing you, but don't worry, your ex will not always have such good luck. I've seen it happen MANY times. Your luck will change, just be patient and don't be vindictive. ^__^

Answer 10

i think the best thing for you to do is pray hard. i personally believe faith can move mountains. seek God's counsel in everything you do and everything will go through accordingly. sometimes God answers us with a yes and sometimes with a no. eventhen, thank Him for everything you have, and everything you don't have. smile!