i went out this girl for about 2 years, we got real close and intimate, we fooled around..?

Question

did everything except actual sexual intercourse.. imean we got it on anywhere and everywhere we could ;) and it was fun, I loved it and she loved it too... Then one day, out of the blue, she doesn't want to do anything anymore!! I asked her why and all she ever say is i dont wanna just b/c i dont want to... and she wants us to be friends for now, and maybe something more in the future...

i dont know how she can change just like that... we tried to be friends (everything we used to do except the fooling around)... did not go so well.. b/c i can't help it, when i see her and be near her, i want to touch her, i want to kiss her....

so finally i told her we can't do this anymore and we have to end this... we did... but somewhere in my mind, i still have feelings for her.. and she has for me too...

what do i do???????? if i go on w/ the friendship thing, i will be hurtin myself...

what i dont understand is then why did she fool around and do everything in the first place?? that's what i don't get.. if she told me she doesn't wanna do anything from day 1, i wud be fine with that.. but after doing it for 2 yearsssss, then one morning she decides to stop everything????

Answer 1

Your friend has changed her mind, that is her right, you need to respect her wishes. She may choose to share her reason, but that it up to her.

It is hard to step back from intimacy to friendship. If you (or your friend) cannot be comfortable at that level then it may be best to have a complete break.

Maybe later a new friendship can form.

Peter

Answer 2

maybe she found someone she could go all the way! two years without having actual se x and just fooling around...must be tough on anyone!

Answer 3

Maybe she realized she is a lesbian. Or maybe she realized it was wrong to do this without being married.

Answer 4

she seeing someone else