When family members listen to RUMORS with no factual basis and treat you as a outsider. ( no truth to all accusations what so ever )They have own issuse that need to be addressed but because I try to be professional with everthing I do that why it`s such a big deal.
2006-07-07 01:37:33 · 10 answers · asked by FATHEAD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't change them. You can't make them see the truth when they don't want to. You can only control your reaction to them. Do your best to limit contact. When you feel obligated to socialize (like, say, at Christmas or Thanksgiving), pretend you're gathering material for your stand-up routine.
Seriously. I started this several years ago when I realized I was dreading the upcoming family gatherings. I pay attention to all of the idiotic things my relatives and in-laws do and say. I have lots of fun retelling the entire adventure to my closest friends. It's become a tradition among my buddies.
2006-07-07 01:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. People see something that looks like something else and they automatically think the worst. The best thing for you to do if you are not doing what they are accusing you of doing, is don't make it look that way. Make sure you have witnesses as to what you are doing. If I had more deal tails about what was going on here I could probably be of more help. But I don't want to say something that is not right and then you get mad all over again and at me, a total stranger! lol
There is an old saying..Clean up your own back yard before you start talking about someone else's yard.
2006-07-07 09:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go two ways about it.
1. Ignore them, and just let it be what it is. You don't need them
anyway.
OR
2. Meet all of your family members that are doing this, in the
same place and say what's on your mind about everyone that
is being so ignorant, I'm sure you'll feel a lot better.
2006-07-07 11:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ignore them. I mean I know its hard but still if you know its not true then go ahead living your life. Just pretend you don't care and yeah because the more madder you get at the rumors, the more they are going to think they are true. Do the opposite of what the rumors say.
2006-07-07 08:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hrscrzy4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
face it family is always going to be family they are going to do as they please no matter what you tell them..... you can pick your friends but not your family
when things like this happen to me I just forget about them don't call or anything and sooner or later usually around x-mas they will call you and act like nothing ever happen and that is when you have to suck it up and do the same
2006-07-07 09:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Brother, you too?
Tell them the truth (you can't force them to believe it.)
Live at least a full-day's drive away from family.
Minimize contact.
Yes, family is family...but we don't have to allow ourselves to be beaten to death over silly things.
2006-07-07 08:44:28 · answer #6 · answered by 4999_Basque 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that they overheard false information, and explain what the real truth is. if he/she doesn't give in, then just let them be becasue you know that you are right and they only think that they are right. following me?
2006-07-07 09:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them go with friends and forget time will cure everything
2006-07-07 08:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Veda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. They have not grown up yet.
2006-07-07 08:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this fathead in ct??
2006-07-07 13:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋