On the 4th of July my boyfriend had his ex over at the house. They are supposedly only good friends now, and she has supposedly gone lesbian, but that doesn't explain the situation that occured that day. I hung out with them for the first 4 hours of the day, then my friend and I went shopping. I was going to check out realized that my debit card was gone and proceeded back to my house. I walked up to the door (which was unlocked) walked in...and there was my boyfriend and his ex ******* on my living room floor. He didn't even lock the door. I kicked him out, but since then I miss him so much. I am 7 months pregnant with his child. We are still very sexually active, and I miss it. Also since then I have recieved countless phone calls from him and his mother, and he has apologized for his stupidity numerous times. He says he wasn't thinking. HIs ex has also been texting me telling me how very sorry she was and that they really are just good friends. Should I take him back?
2006-07-07 01:29:23 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel that you should not. If he can cheat you once, he can cheat the 2nd times and more. I am not encouraging to break up with him
You may take him back for the sake of the child. But how will the incident affect your relationship? Can you trust him in future? There is such a saying " two wrong doesn't make one right" Only you know the answer youself and you should decide what is the best decision in this relationship.
2006-07-08 18:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that writing the letter is the merely excellent element so you might do, that way you at the instant are not placed right into a stressful difficulty with an unpleasant conflict of words. i does not deliver the p.c.. to his mom although, fairly she has not some thing to do with this. it may seem fairly petty and infantile, your courting changed into with him not her so who cares what she thinks. on the top of the day which will continually be her son and he or she will not in any respect take your area. baby help gained't commence till after the toddler is born, you want to bypass to relatives courtroom and so on. i'd commence chatting with a legal specialist to make certain what you should do to get issues so as so as that when the toddler is born you do not ought to attend too lengthy to get the technique began. Sorry you're dealing with this yet merely concentration on the effective-the eye-catching existence you're wearing interior of you:)
2016-11-01 09:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by sturms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do, you're just opening yourself up to be hurt again. If you want to try for the baby's sake that is one thing. The baby deserves to be born into a loving home. That isn't fair what he did to you, and it wouldn't be fair to put the baby in a position where it could be hurt. Imagine if you weren't pregnant any more...you have a 3 year old son/daughter and you walked in on that? Could you forgive yourself for taking him back? I wouldn't. But if I thought it was sincere and nothing was going on...I might take it slow. Watch out for yourself and the baby first and formost.
2006-07-07 01:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Modern_Monroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it is IMPOSSIBLE to be friends with your ex... so there's something wrong right there... and now u caught him redhanded... yeah it is true that everybody makes mistakes and $hit but the question is, do you trust him that he will not do this again?? ask him how he would have felt if it was the other way around??? him walking in on you while u were fking w/ some other guy????
i would say hell yeah dump him, but since u are pregnant, that makes it a bit more complicated.. but if you take him back, who knows if he wud do it again???
so if you don't want to go thru the hurt again, DUMP HIM... you will meet someone who can treat u right.. and take care of you and your kid....
2006-07-07 01:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by John A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is possible to be good friends with your ex (I am). But obviously not in his case. Both of you need to grow up real fast for your baby's sake. Stop using terms like "baby's daddy". If you think you want him back, and he's calling, his mom's calling, even the ex is calling, then make a decision fast. Have a sit down with him and his mom. The only way to way to a solid future for your kid, is to make solid ground with him one way or the other right now.
2006-07-07 02:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by dbelyew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah they're good friends... That F&@%. They tell themselves they are good friends, so they don't feel bad having sex. I'm sure it's happened before. C'mon how insecure are you? Take him back and he'll cheat on you for the rest of your life. Leave him and your baby might have a chance at a normal life and a normal relationship once they get older. I'm sure you'll stay cause you stupid women always do, but I say leave him, or set him on fire! LOL
2006-07-07 01:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by vinnyvino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
For your sake and your baby's sake, please do not do it! I know it is scarey to think of becoming a single mother, but...... as a mother, I would not want to bring a child into an unstable home enviroment either. One more thing that no one has mentioned that I will take the time to mention......... if he is cheating with her... who else is she sleeping with? You may wonder what I am getting at....... so I will get to the point. She could end up giving him an STD, he in turn could give it to you, and in turn that poor innocent baby could get it. I can not tell you what to do, I can only give advice. Ultimately the decision is up to you, but please think about all the consequences first.
2006-07-07 01:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. once a cheater always a cheater. Just make him pay chlid support and see his baby. Yes u may still love him but u can't be put in that situation agan
2006-07-07 01:39:26 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's only sorry he got caught. I'm sorry but if you want to have a relationship w/ him, give him a reason to respect you. Don't speak to him til the baby is born. Give him time to grow up.
2006-07-07 01:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just for the child sake.. take him back..
if you dun take him back..
wad u gonna do with de child?
give birth?
then what you gonna do?
do you want your child to b no father?
@ least you take back, can talk in a proper manner what..
No problems that DON'T have solutions..
2006-07-07 02:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by (>.<) TeNg (>.<) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋