I am very much in love with my fiance'. The thing is I'M CRAZY! No....really I am so narotic and jealous and then again I'm only 21 and had 100 WORLD'S most screwed up ex boyfriends prior so....I'm a tad bit territorial when it comes to my sweetie now. He puts up with sooo much you don't even know. I mean I put up with him too but I have to say we are totally committed and faithful no probs there. Well we are supposedly moving across country together, I mean he invited me. We have been planning for months but....he wants to go alone for the first month to straighten out our living arrangements etc......totally legit but I think he might get there and decide he doesn't love me and he might tell me I can't come. So I devised a little scheme...tell him I'm pregnant so it's def. in the bag 100%. Then I will tell him the truth and why I did it when I arrive. Is that completely devious or should I just have faith in him without deception? HELP!!!!!!
2006-07-07 00:37:59 · 24 answers · asked by TootsiePop 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO NO NO NO NO!!! Dont do that u could screw up the relationship once he finds out u lied thats cruel and ud be missing with his head- if u loved u wouldnt even think of doin that to him. If u love him and trust him then have faith in him, i understand y ur like this due to your past relationships but dont let that ruin this one, he could be the one u spend the rest of your life with, u could mess up the best thing u dont want tolose ur one in a million!!
2006-07-07 00:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by browneyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I have a hard time trusting too due to alot of lies and heartace, but don't lie to him. If you lie about something as like being pregnant with his baby it may put un-needed pressure on him. I mean moving across country is a big step in its self. And he ask you to go with him because he wants to be with YOU, so don't start your new lives in a new place with a big lie, I mean you said that you beleive that he loves you, and you love him, do you really think that someone could come into his life and take him away from you that easy? You two can talk, and who knows if things go well you could get to move faster, I mean I bet he has had the same worry. Sit down and just tell him how much you Love him and just how worried that you are, I bet he will understand and you two can work something out. I wish the two of you the best.
2006-07-07 07:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo, girl - you really need to pull up! First, a lie about a baby "keeps" a guy about the same as a real baby: they can still (and do) walk whenever they get ready. Second, how would you like him to move you cross country and then once you arrive, he tells you "My other girlfriend is already here, but I had to make you believe that it was just you and I to make sure you would still come because I need both of you near me?" Relax, Chick. You won't believe this, but if he doesn't send for you, it won't be the end of the world at 21. Is a lie less than a lie because it was told out of so-called love? A word of caution, no one likes a clingy person with a lot of baggage from past relationships. Get over it or get help.
2006-07-07 07:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by SAN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so you should lie to your lover... Lying is a bad thing, and can lead to break ups... I think you should just have faith in him... It seems as if you don't trust him much... So if you say that you're both committed and faithful, than why is it that you think he'll cheat on you during that time he's out there looking for your living arrangements??? Why don't you just confront him and just ask him if he's going out there to cheat on him??? Or you could ask him if you could go with him!!! But than again money wise will be an issue... I don't know, you could do anything, but just don't lie to him... It shows that you don't trust him... And in the end he'll lose all trust in you... So be careful on how you approach this issue... Cause you could lose everything you ever had with him...
2006-07-07 07:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by keau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...dont tell him that! just go w/ him anyway..
why can't you go and help him get the arrangements taken care of together?? just tell him you want to help and its special to you, blah blah...and just go w/ him! don't torture yourself...a lot of girls feel the same, and if it's that big of a deal...he should agree for you to go. just have a lil heart to heart and be like "i cant help it..i trust you, but i dont trust anyone else and i've had my heart broken a million times, etc"....and just ask him to forgive you for dragging him through this...but its something you need to do
the only thing thats gonna happen if you stay home, is you'll get paranoid and wont be able to do anything about it...you'll get upset..and it will end up w/ negative results....save some money and stay in a hotel...its not the end of the world
just ask him to be supportive while you work through what you're feeling...and pretty soon, you'll see what he does there, and it wont be a big deal anymore
good luck
oh..and by the way...i could sit here all day and say what everyone else above me has said....but you're not crazy and if you dont go, you'll STILL be paranoid...so just go and shop or something! as long as you dont tell him something THAT extreme..just be honest. its all you can do...like i said, if you dont ...you'll be brewing the whole time he's gone and thats not good
2006-07-07 07:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and look at all the stuff you just wrote. You do not even make good sense. What I would suggest is that you dump him and get your head straight. No man in their right mind is going to live with you very long. If you pull all these silly games it will come back to haunt you. It always does. Never tell lies to cover up for something. That is a very bad practice. You are just asking for so much drama in your life. Move on and get your head straight, you really are a lady with a messed up mind.
2006-07-07 07:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing something like that is the last thing you should do. What you would be doing is lying, no matter the motive, and it would damage your credibility and trustworthiness, it would make it harder for him to believe what you tell him in the future. If you are engaged to him, you need to place more trust in him, he may have nothing but the best of intentions with lining things out before you move out there, and doing this would hurt him and could really jeopardize your relationship. My ex-wife did the same thing to me and we didn't last much longer after that, it was obvious that she would say what she had to to keep me around and I just never looked at her the same.
2006-07-07 07:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by chiseledsteel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to seek counseling. That is the most screwed up thing you could ever say to a guy. OK so you have relationship issues, so go see a counselor! But DON"T tell the poor guy that you are pregnant unless you really are. There is no quicker way to drive a man away.
2006-07-07 07:42:30 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No bullshit lady you are crazy.... but if you make up that lie and then come clean he'll be devastated and real pissed off with you and he'll definitly kick your *** to the kerb... Do you not think that maybe he wants the month to sort out the house and have it real nice for you when you come down so that you don't have to do a tap and just unpack your bags...I'd say you have a good one there don't **** it up.
2006-07-07 07:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by rainbow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lying is not acceptable in anyway. if you are meant to be together then you will be.. and if he loves u enough and has put up with u a million times and also asked you to move with him across country, why would he change his mind?? only if you are making his life a living hell and that's what it is going to be if you lie about anything
2006-07-07 07:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋