I just found out last night that one of my best friends was with my ex girlfriend soon after we broke up bout 16 months ago! I know I wasnt with her at the time but iam still a bit hurt! is that normal! They dont know I know should i Say something to them? but would it gain anything
2006-07-07 00:21:46 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it was her brother told me when he was drunk last night so iam pritty sure
2006-07-07 00:46:41 · update #1
These things happen and it is perfectly normal to be upset. Don't let it get to you though. Sometimes when someone we care about goes off with someone else we might think something is wrong with us, or to blame ourselves for whatever was going on in the other person's head. It's probably not worth the trouble and additional upset you might feel if you try to open a new wound and get invoved with them. Just let it pass and get on with new adventures in your life.
2006-07-07 00:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly natural to be upset. I don't know enough of the circumstances to give you an accurate response, but you should probably be more upset with him than her. She may have done this as a response to the break up, which although not excusable is understandable. He, however, should have known she was off limits (unless of course you nabbed her from him in the first place, which i doubt given the way you worded things).
As to saying anything, well, are you friends with her now? If not, there's no point really, but if you are harboring this from your friend and it's causing you to be passively agressive or annoyed with him, then I think you should say something as ultimately not could end up damaging your relationship even more, assuming of course that you are still friends.
2006-07-07 07:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by yodellingdolphinofkirkwall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if I were you just for get it... Trust me, you won't gain anything from this... I know you maybe a little hurt from your break up, but I think the best thing for you to do is to move on... I mean yeah it might feel a little weird to know that your best friend is going out with your ex-girlfriend but there's nothing too do... So the best thing to do is just move on... And hell there are better and hey maybe way hotter girls out there... Don't sit around on something that won't happen... Especially after 16 months...
2006-07-07 07:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by keau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is nothing to gain.
IT was after...and technically she was a FREE AGENT at that point. It may have been to feel better... because she was so devistated.
16 months is a long time... and I agree... A friend would have respected that boundry... however... You don't know all the details?
In fact... HOW did you find out? And do you know for a FACT that they did? Seems to me... that was a private matter... and seems to me people TALK, and sometimes... not the truth.
2006-07-07 07:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it happened in the past, before u 2 got together...It would be mean, if your best friend, knew back then, that u had something for her, and yet went out with her...
If not...then, don't think a bout it....no girl is worth destroying a strong friendship...
2006-07-07 07:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by SpaceCowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's perfectly normal to be angry and hurt to know your friend was with your ex and to realize 2 people so close to you could never "ball up" and tell you in a year. So, if it were me, I would say something to both of them. Not angrily, just points of fact (assuming that your information is real). I would not be interested in explanations or excuses, just getting out what I had to say. I would end with something like, "I just thought we were better than that." Now...if you decide to remain friendly with either of them, you now know to what extent they can be trusted.
2006-07-07 07:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by SAN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your friend should date your ex and yea that would hurt anyones feelings. If it was soon after you broke up I think I would tell him I know because if he was a man why didn't he tell you unless it meant nothing to him.
2006-07-07 07:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by seaturtle36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it some how feels like betrayal when ur best friend dates ur ex, it is a friendship code but since that was 16 months ago, i guess u had better let it go, there's no need to bring it up
2006-07-07 07:26:00 · answer #8 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may not gain anything but piece of mind u may have to say something just to get that closure, its normal for u to feel l;ike that a best mate shouldnt do that to you-its an unwritten rule- dont go with ur mates ex just like dont go with your exs brother
2006-07-07 07:31:40 · answer #9 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's perfectly normal.
Obviously, if your friend was a "close" friend, and didn't mention it, he thought you would or should be upset, too.
Don't dwell on it, but chalk it up to knowing them just a little bit better.
2006-07-07 07:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by KRIEGAR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋