I've been dating a great guy for a month. We've already determined we are boyfriend/girlfriend. (he asked me to be his girlfriend) He lives about 30-35 mins away. I don't get to see him all too much cuz we both work and have our own lives, but we've been talking pretty much every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day. Is it too early to ask him what he's doing on the days I don't hear from him? He is the one that pretty much calls me daily. I can't help but wonder what he's doing when I don't hear from him. I don't want to give him the impression that I am being possessive or anything but I do have some trust issues from my past. I've been screwed over many times. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. I want to go with the flow and don't want to come across as jumping the gun. But on the other hand I don't want to be a girlfriend of convience either. We don't really make plans to see each other often but make plans for the future to do things. Any thoughts on this???
2006-07-07 00:01:15 · 7 answers · asked by Hannah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-07 00:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take it slow. He could just be really busy on the days he does not phone you. If you speak nearly everyday then dont worry you dont want to scare him off already, do you? When you have started seeing eachother more then you could slightly hint about the days that he does not ring but wait for now. Just act as though it does not bother you at all then he wont run away. He dont like it when us women ask a million questions. Good Luck and I think you should see each other more as you only live 30-35 min away from each other so its not that far really, is it? You suggest abotu meeting up one day. See what happens and take it SLOW.
2006-07-07 07:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is that girlfriend/boyfriend means different things to different people. Does that mean that you are exclusive with each other? Dating no one else? The other thing is it has been only a month. Trust takes time.I understand. I've been burned myself and have had similar reactions. But just remember,you are just dating...that means"trying a person out" Not marrying him. He may not be what you expect. Will that be difficult, yes. But the more people you date, the more you'll see the signs of what went wrong. There's no ONE perfect person out here. It's about finding someone who treats you with respect and let's you be yourself. I can't stress that enough. Too many women (including myself) loose themselves trying to be what a boyfriend wants to ensure they stay with them. In the end it's a sham and falls apart. Instead of focusing on what your new boyfriend is doing, get busy doing things without him. See friends. Better yourself. Make HIM wonder and want to spend time with you. The better and stronger you are the better choice you(in a mate) you'll make. If he doesn't want to make plans , it's his lost. NEVER wait by the phone. You're just wasting your life away.(Do you think men wait by the phone? Nope. They focus on themselves) Stay strong and remember this is all new. It takes time to build trust. Good Luck.
2006-07-07 07:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have only been together for a month, lighten up. and yes, he has other girlies becuase you two are not official yet, that takes some real time ...especially since you live so far apart. don't jump the gun, wait and see where it goes and don't put in too much now, that is how you get hurt. he has not put in enough work yet so be still, you are ready to ruin something before that something even happens. don't worry about him and live your life, what will be will, and when you two are official there will be no question of what he does. 1 month is not enough clout.
2006-07-07 07:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u ask his what he does on days u dont see him well then u r driving him away, if u really trust him why would u want to know afterall u said both of u have got ur own lives.
2006-07-07 07:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, im not even gunna finish reading that.
You need to cut the guy some slack.
" I don't get to see him all too much cuz we both work and have our own lives"
enuough said, shoot dont get all over him, ur gunna drive him away, relax. but he might be ******* another girl. thats what i do.
2006-07-07 07:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by mycariscoolerthenurs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then word the question appropriatly dont ask him what he does on the days he doesnt work or call ask what he does in his free time where he hangs out. its ok to ask expecially if you have been burned
2006-07-07 07:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by skits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋