if you father tell you "you must marriage this man ar you will not marriage any one else" oh help what should i do . i am relly don't love this man ???
2006-07-06 23:43:45 · 29 answers · asked by roro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its your life not his, do what you want its not up to him.
2006-07-06 23:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have these options:
a) You find a man who wants to marry before ur marriage date. Just marry him and tell ur father that u r already married.
b) Tell the man that u already have sexual relation with ur boyfriend (lie). Man will run away.
c) Tell your father to wait and give u time to know the person that does he really have anything which can be liked.
4) I would not suggest but i have seen some girls running away from house and disappearing on the day of marriage.
5) Some girl commit sucide but please dont do it. Its better to live with bad husband than dying without husband.
Last but not least: Explain ur father using ur mother, brother, uncle, mumuncle or any other means on earth that you will not be happy. Also ask why you should be happy with him.
Sometimes parents are right and we should go by it too. But yes, u should be convinced of it.
2006-07-07 06:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the first answer you got. It's YOUR life NOT your Dad's. Tell your Dad to marry this guy. You can marry anyone you wish. He's not in control of you. I know that in some cultures that prearrange marriages are custom but that doesn't make them any less ignorant. Your father can't make you do anything you don't want to do. NO ONE can.
You don't what you know is what you want.
2006-07-07 06:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really isn't any of your fathers business. He doesn't have to grow old with this man , or live with him or sleep with him.
He has to respect your ideas and feelings. If he doesn't and by now in life then you know whether he does or not then you might have to take a stand or go shopping for a white dress.
2006-07-07 06:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by GretzkyMVP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why he is say so? Whatever the reason, he has no right to force a marriage. First try your friends & relatives to tell him what you thinks. Later you can try Court, Police, NGOs etc. Last but may be very hard - leave him.
2006-07-07 06:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Simple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur dad, tell him u dont love the man so u cant marry him because if u do u will never be happy for the rest of ur life.
2006-07-07 06:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and say that you do not love that man. And ask him why is intervening in your life and give you orders like that. That's selfish, he thinks for himself he will say his the right man for you, but that's not true. The guy is like him or your that likes him and he wants to introduce him into the family. Maybe his rich.You must fight for your rights.
2006-07-07 06:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by Soso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it! I would defy that man byt all means, your a free woman you do what you want and unless your father wants to spend the rest of his life with this man, he should not make you either.
2006-07-07 06:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up to ur dad and tell him that u dont love the guy he wants u to marry
2006-07-07 06:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by filipina279 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write your father a letter, language is the most powerfull communication we have, and you can manipulat words to be as strong as you feel, best of all theres time to write, conversation requires snap thnking.
tell him that you dont love that man and tell him that you love him but you have to refuse his advice and follow your heart
you must be assertive to your father no matter how difficult it may be.
2006-07-07 06:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you can't marry. Your father can't force you if u not ready for the same. But please just look whether your really thining of ur good or not. No father may push his child in hell. Be confident and decide. Try it. Best of Luck. God Bless you.
2006-07-07 06:46:47 · answer #11 · answered by Akash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋