i'm 17, and i a get so down to know that my mother is so selfish to me, and has been holding me back for so long. It hurts me to know i trusted this women, and now i am smart enough to realize what it was really all about. it is tearing me up inside because i am so hurt and angry, but i don't want to live my life holding a grudge. can anyone help me
2006-07-06 23:05:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
My mother constantly thinks about herself. she hangs around women from upper class society, and we are middle class. she lets her insecurities make her neglect her kids needs let alone wants. for instance, she took herself to the dentist before she took me, and my tooth was in real pain. that is wrong. she is emotionaly abusive, and at a time i thought i was a bad person because she told me i was. also, she would rather go to dinner with friends then spend quality time with me. These things hurt. I want to forgive, but it is to hard to forget
2006-07-06 23:19:00 · update #1
Why not try putting yourself in her shoe? you having a 17 yr old daughter and why you have to treat your daughter the way she does. Are you, as a "mother", really being selfish or just being protective of her? Of course i don't really have to know what is really going on between you but to understand somebody, just look at things from their point of view. hope you are able to resolve your problem soon....
2006-07-06 23:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by suburbanmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 year olds can often see things as they want and not how they really are. You haven't provided enough information to draw any conclusions. You're hurt and angry right now, but don't state what exactly happened that you find so selfish.
2006-07-07 06:11:57 · answer #2 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sady it happens.... but it is also a 2-way street....
Whatever happens, keep loving your mum and working on improving your relationship because when she is one day gone you will miss her and wish that she was with you and it will be hard. Take it from someone who knows, one of the true tragedy's in life is for a girl to lose her mother without giving and recieving all there is to learn and love from her....
2006-07-07 06:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Duckie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your parents or what they do so I can't say if they are selfish or not.
To say that hse is holding you back does not tell me what she is really doing.
Is she holding you back from going skydiving? I would too...
Is she holding you back from college? Maybe she doesn't have the money.
WHAT is she holding you back from ???
2006-07-07 06:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because their kids are more selfish & more unappreceative for ALL that has been done for them
2006-07-07 06:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by cribbich2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer? You must be emo.
2006-07-07 06:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you'll be a perfect parent one day and your children will also be perfect.........
2006-07-07 08:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by jefdjif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋