30 and have been trying for my 2nd child for nearly 6yrs?

Question

It took me over 2yrs for my daughter and have been trying since i had her nearly 6yrs ago. I do get pains in my left side but i had keyhole surgery and i had a cyst or something and they took it out there and then. Then i went on clomyd for 5 months which cost me a fortune and they told me that i'm not ovarulating properly and now i'm running out of ideas. We've tried nearly everything and now we are open to suggestions. Please, please, please help me

Answer 1

If u r not ovulating properly, that is the problem. I had polycystic disease and it took me that long to concieve my last child. Quit trying and it will happen. I quit thinking about it and bought a new car and I got pregnant cause I quit "trying". I can't guarantee it will work for you if u r not ovulating, but that is what happened to me.

Answer 2

hi there,

what have the dr's said what did they diagnoise you with please ?
have you got pcos ? or something else ? i'll be able to answer this question better but however i'll give it shot anyway.

have you got pcos ? if you have there's this website you can use it's very good ive got pcos myself

http://www.womens-health.co.uk/pcos5.asp

if you have pcos it's harder to lose weight but can be really helpful
and some women have found there periods come back and
start ovulating again.

i know it's so dishearting you really need to go back to your gyno and find out your other options clomid isnt the one and only treatment for infertity or pcos, if you do have pcos you could try metformin as this is supposed to help with losing weight and sometimes ovulate whilst on it. but doesnt agrea with everyone.

and you can go on clomid for 6 months not 5 so you could have another shot at clomid as well.

you could try donner eggs if you go for ivf or just trying ivf without donner eggs.

has your husband had a sperm test ? sometimes sperm can change.

i know it feels like everyone and there mothers pregnate right now
and nobody understands what your going through unless they have been throught it of going throught it thereselfs.

BUT and this is a big but, i have been trying for 5 years to get pregnate and im not even close im on the 2nd round of my clomid and i havent even had 1 child yet, please try and enjoy your time with your 1st child i know there probabbly older now but they still need you.

take care and good luck whatever you decide to do next xx

Answer 3

I know it's hard to accept, because I had to, but be grateful you have the child you do. I had never thought I'd only have one child - I had hoped to have more, but really never had a number in mind. I had my son at 30, and once years passed and we realized we probably weren't going to have any more, we had to come to accept it. It really was hard, because family members and friends were having two or three or four, and I was sick and tired of answering the questions about were we having more or not and even them asking why. It honestly took a lot out of me to accept that we would have an "only" child - or a "single" as our son says. I felt a longing for more kids, I worried about our son growing up alone (though he had lots of cousins close in age), lots of things. I guess I am saying that there comes a point when you have to just let things be. Would you consider adoption? My husband would not, which is why things are as they are, but I was totally open to it. I wish you luck; you have a lot to think about and soul-search about.

Answer 4

Clomid can work but it takes time. I have been taking Clomid a little over a year now and well, i had ovarian drilling. You probably have something called PCOS. I would go see a doctor and he/she can tell you everything you need to know. I was not ovulating or having a cycle or anything. I had to get put on meds to make me start my period and then clomid and metphormin to make me ovulate and it still doesnt work good enough. Talk to your doctor about injectables or In-Vitro......If you are not seeing a doctor i STRONGLY advise you too....they can tell you alot...if you are then i wish you the best and ask about metphormin it can help you alot.....

Answer 5

TRY THIS: www.mymonthlycycles.com it should help u to no when u ovulate and also help u with other questions u may have! also try: www.medicinenet.com .... i learnt from this site that SILIVA KILLS SPERM WHEN USED AS A LUBRICANT AND ALSO OIL BASED LUBRICANTS AND VEGETABLE OILS and this is what i think my problem has been the last two years i have been trying to concieve and im only in my early 20's so i was really freaking out i like u had a cycsts...my man is 26....it also helps to have sex 3 - 5 days BEFORE UR OVULATE! this site will explain this in more detail. lastly GOODLUCK HAPPY BABY MAKING

Answer 6

To help straighten out your cycles, buy the herbal remedy Vitex or Chaste Berry. You can buy it at GNC or places like that. And costs about $12 for a months supply. It helps to regulate your hormones and gets your cycles in order. My husband loved when I was on it, because it also helped with PMS symptoms. :)

I only had to use it for 3 cycles and I got regular.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I suggest consulting a qualified chinese medicine doctor. i also felt sceptical about this, and waited many years - I did nt have fertility problems but other health problems - but they are excellent in treating infertility and acupuncture or herbs may help, i also have friends who have been helped by chinese medicine doctors and once read an article on how acupuncture had helped women concieve, however make sure you take your time chosing a fully qualified doc that you are confortable with..

Answer 8

If your worrying too much that could cause more problems try to relax, and if you want a child that bad there is the options of IVF or them taking one of your eggs and doing it as an implant into your womb or in dire circumstances if you have the love there adopt

Answer 9

These things have a way of working themselves out one way or another. Try thinking more about what you do have and less about what you don't. May you have the courage to change the things you can, the serenity to accept the things you can't and the wisdom the know the difference.

Answer 10

Oh well f you aren't ovualting i dont really know-- perhaps you could find a surrogate to carry your child for you? I dont know what else to suggest hun. It would of course be another if you were to find an egg donor?? Im not being insensitive just think perhaps that could be an option


Good luck